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For not calling DH to congratulate him on Arsenal winning the Premiership?

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FierceForester90 · 23/05/2026 15:35

Hubby is an Arsenal fan, has been as long as Ive known him but doesn't got to many matches. DS1 supports a local team, has a season ticket and is rather more passionate about his team.

This week I worked away and while I wasn't here Arsenal won the league. They didn't win it as a result of a match they were in they won it as a result of another team losing meaning they couldn't be caught.

Hubby has had a proper moan that all his mates messaged him to say congratulations and I didn't even ring. Im a bit miffed because if there had been an Arsenal game on that determined it id have kept track of the score.

He works as a Driving Instructor and every single time he has a student pass I text or call. I am always supportive of the things he achieves personally.

If he was at the level of supporting DH1 is I'd understand his annoyance. AIBU to think its a bit much?

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BunnyLake · 24/05/2026 08:55

Bunnyofhope · 23/05/2026 16:27

I think you are all mean spirited. If I knew something good had happened in someones life I'd phone to share their excitement if I remembered.
Id congratulate on a birthday, a pregnancy, someone's grandkids 11+ results, getting a place in the London marathon, someone's cat recovering.
How difficult is it to say 'Wow that's fantastic news, you must be thrilled, I'm so happy for you '
He's meant to be your friend fgs. Someone you want to make extra happy, especially when it would cost you so little!

Yes but he wanted ‘congratulating’. He didn’t do anything to warrant that.

Imlyingandthatsthetruth · 24/05/2026 08:40

Totally devastated that my dp didn't congratulate me because Hulkenburg came 11th in the F1 qualifying yesterday. I don't actually support him, but I still think it shows how little he cares. Thinking about LTB.

Daffodillz · 24/05/2026 08:28

Never heard of this phenomenon before but then I don't know many football supporters!

I don't understand congratulating someone on something they didn't contribute to or that will have no actual impact on their life...!

Maray1967 · 24/05/2026 08:18

TomatoSandwiches · 23/05/2026 15:44

How pathetic, no really this would make me lose respect for him.

Yes, same for me. How ridiculous. Mine would have had an earful if he said that - but he wouldn’t have said because he’s not a child.

HelenHywater · 24/05/2026 07:55

I don't know about congratulating him, but texting him about it would have been appropriate I think. It's a little bit weird that you didn't say anything.

It's our local team (I wouldn't say I was a fan!) and it was big news here.

MyLimeGuide · 24/05/2026 07:24

I never understand this thing with men and football, they seem to think if they support a team they are in it! I was a huge rafa nadal fan but I didn't expect to be personally congratulated when he won!

pouletvous · 24/05/2026 07:20

why congratulste someone on something they haven’t achieved?

he’s not in the team

Blogswife · 24/05/2026 07:12

Seriously - how bloody childish ! Just because it’s his interest doesn’t mean you need to be involved .
My DH loves sport , I don’t . If I remember and I’m trying to make conversation , I’ll ask about his team/ hobby but then really wish I hadn’t as it’s sooooo boring & he goes on and on
Your DH needs to grow up !

Papster · 23/05/2026 20:53

Brilliant they won
Where are you taking me out to celebrate?

Hassell · 23/05/2026 20:38

NConthe · 23/05/2026 18:06

Can’t believe you congratulate him every time a client passes their test 😂😂

Perhaps he’s a crap teacher so the passes are very few and far between!

whattheysay · 23/05/2026 20:37

You need to congratulate HIM? I mean maybe say you must be pleased they won or something like that but not actual congratulations that’s mad

Confuserr · 23/05/2026 20:19

NConthe · 23/05/2026 18:06

Can’t believe you congratulate him every time a client passes their test 😂😂

Really? That seems like a very normal thing to do when you like and love someone.
I would have messaged about Arsenal but I like football. Eg today I texted my uncles wife who's a huge Celtic fan when they won the cup, a friend of a friend who supports Hull, and this week I've messaged friends who support Villa and lots who support Arsenal. It's important to us in a way people who don't like football don't understand. Of course we didn't "score the winning goal" but it's still enough to make your month or make you cry!
I don't think he should be annoyed you didn't text though, he should know you don't care about football or about his love of football so he shouldn't have expected it. But I don't think it would have been at all weird if you had.

Squidgoals · 23/05/2026 20:13

Arsenal fans truly are a bunch of miserable gits.
So his team has won the league but he’s managed to find something MINUSCULE to moan about.

My DH takes football pretty seriously and his team has won quite a lot over the years. I’ve never texted him to congratulate him and he’s never expected me to. Because why would I?? I’m not a big football fan, so I don’t behave like one.

Just tell him to get over himself. Fucking Arsenal fans 🙄🙄🙄

Petrolitis · 23/05/2026 19:55

Jesus he sounds exhausting!

BurntBroccoli · 23/05/2026 19:35

5% thought you were being unreasonable… WTF?!

Isittimeformynapyet · 23/05/2026 19:15

Farmwifefarmlife · 23/05/2026 15:58

Surly has to be a joke!? Did he score the winning goal? I wouldn’t be able to keep a straight Face if hubby said this too me!

Not a joke. He's been surly all day apparently.

ChrisInghamStoleMyBeanie · 23/05/2026 19:07

mind you, your husband isn’t playing for arsenal so why should he be congratulated? Tell him to grow up

WimbyAce · 23/05/2026 18:39

This is ridiculous. Presumably he played no part in Arsenal winning the league so he is not to be congratulated in any shape or form.

Moveoverdarlin · 23/05/2026 18:20

TomatoSandwiches · 23/05/2026 15:44

How pathetic, no really this would make me lose respect for him.

Me too. I’d say ‘Babe, you’re a driving instructor, you didn’t score the winning goal for fucks sake. Now get back to your three point turns and stop making a silly fuss.’

Slightyamusedandsilly · 23/05/2026 18:19

He sounds like a whiny child. FFS. It's football. 😴😴😴

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 23/05/2026 18:19

Peterdottir · 23/05/2026 15:43

YANBU. I'm so pleased my husband doesn't like football.

Mine does but im pleased hes not mardy about it.

Frumpitydoo · 23/05/2026 18:18

What a saddo. That would give me the ick.

JulietteHasAGun · 23/05/2026 18:17

Unless he plays for Arsenal first team why on earth would you congratulate him?

PinkMagnoliaTree · 23/05/2026 18:16

This is what's wrong with Arsenal fans - moaning whiny little pricks

InterestedDad37 · 23/05/2026 18:13

Weird (him) 🙄