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FierceForester90 · 2026-05-23T14:35:54+00:00

Hubby is an Arsenal fan, has been as long as Ive known him but doesn't got to many matches. DS1 supports a local team, has a season ticket and is rather more passionate about his team. This week I worked away and while I wasn't here Arsenal won the league. They didn't win it as a result of a match they were in they won it as a result of another team losing meaning they couldn't be caught. Hubby has had a proper moan that all his mates messaged him to say congratulations and I didn't even ring. Im a bit miffed because if there had been an Arsenal game on that determined it id have kept track of the score. He works as a Driving Instructor and every single time he has a student pass I text or call. I am always supportive of the things he achieves personally. If he was at the level of supporting DH1 is I'd understand his annoyance. AIBU to think its a bit much?

Phoenixfire1988 · 26/05/2026 08:03

Is he part of the arsenal team or management ? If the answer is no then wtf does he need congratulations for . I highly doubt 'all' his mates message him either 🙄

Owly11 · 26/05/2026 07:32

It sounds like you don't really share each other's daily excitements and experiences. If my partner's team won the league it would be top of my mind as it would be for my partner if my team won the league. I do think it's sad that an important moment in his life is meaningless to you. Arsenal haven't won the league in 22 years and it's absolutely huge for Arsenal fans. Btw in case you want to do things differently this coming weekend, Arsenal are in the champions league final on Saturday and they have never won it before. The other team are the favourites to win so if Arsenal do win it will be absolutely huge.

Usernamenotav · 26/05/2026 07:22

Congratulated him for what? What did he do? What a pathetic man

BeWittyRobin · 25/05/2026 19:50

Why would you congratulate him? He wasn’t playing 🙈🤣🤣

aintnothinbutagstring · 25/05/2026 19:14

My husband is an arsenal supporter - I haven't even mentioned it but I might if he continues to wear his arsenal shirt everywhere.

WeatherOrNothing · 25/05/2026 19:06

i Would use this opportunity to ask him exactly what he contributed to the win. What a clown op.

ProfessorBinturong · 25/05/2026 17:43

ThisJadeBear · 24/05/2026 13:13

I live with someone whose mane love is his team. Season ticket holder, follows them everywhere so I have a good knowledge of what’s going on as to be quite frank, it’s hard to escape. The endless hours away from home, often in Europe, Wembley…..
So I would know to and congratulations but only because my dad was the same.
However if your DH mainly watches it from his armchair, you were away, and it wasn’t a jeopardy-type situation, and came as the result of another team delivering it to them, then I think it’s fine to say well done when you’ve arrived home.
But some men really are children. My other half was in a vile mood on Monday night and I already knew it was because Arsenal could win the league. We are in a Northern city in direct competition.
I stayed out of the way and shut my ears the next day. And the rewatching and explaining of VAR decisions it’s so boring.
However, I have to say it’s a fantastic achievement for Arsenal, and I can remember the last time they won it.

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Why 'well done'? He's done nothing.

You can be happy that someone is happy, you can celebrate with them, but it's daft to congratulate them when they had sod all to do with it. Unless you genuinely believe that them wearing their lucky pants is what swung the result.

BuildbyNumbere · 25/05/2026 17:12

Tell him to grow up … why would he need congratulating?!?

Dogmum74 · 25/05/2026 17:11

Does your husband play for them? What a pathetic man baby your husband sounds like. Never heard anything as ridiculous in my life. Tell him to grow the fuck up

LassitersLegend · 25/05/2026 15:35

He needs to get a grip! He sounds like a typical arsenal fan

VeronicaRaven · 25/05/2026 15:32

Unless he personally played this season or works for the team in any capacity YANBU

Strawberrycheesecake7 · 25/05/2026 15:04

It’s never even crossed my mind to congratulate my DH on anything to do with the football team he supports. I couldn’t care less and he knows this and it doesn’t bother him at all. What a strange thing to start an argument about.

YoshiIsCute · 25/05/2026 15:03

Congratulate him?! For what? He didn’t do anything!

hallenbad · 25/05/2026 15:01

How bizarre. Of course YANBU. Even the bit about the student passing the driving test is strange. Is he a bit insecure OP?

neverbeenskiing · 25/05/2026 14:59

Should I apologise to my 12 year old DD because I didn't congratulate her when Taylor Swift got engaged?

IndigoBrave · 25/05/2026 14:51

I’m a lifelong fan, I go to several games a season even though I don’t live in England. I don’t think I’m owed a congratulations off my husband or anyone else. Just seems like he’s looking to huff about something

Quokkas · 25/05/2026 11:24

Matsukaze · 25/05/2026 02:37

Slot has lost the dressing room.

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Yes, that’s also my concern.

LittlePetitePsychopath · 25/05/2026 03:57

I’m an Arsenal fan. He’s been ridiculous. I was with my husband when it happened and we talked about it but he didn’t congratulate me! I don’t play for them.

Quite a few friends did message but I think generally it’s a good conversation starter…

Confuserr · 25/05/2026 03:55

Matsukaze · 25/05/2026 02:37

Slot has lost the dressing room.

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Indeed
And I think the Salah ship has somewhat sailed!

99bottlesofkombucha · 25/05/2026 03:50

My dh is a passionate football fan, different code but he’s a member, his whole family are, they meet the players. I pay zero attention to what the weekend result is or where they are on the ladder, if he wants me to know he can tell me, and if he warns to go to a match he can ask me if that works for our schedule. If he got mad at me for not congratulating him on the outcome of some other blokes kicking a ball around that he had no role in I’d recommend him an urgent gp appt.

Matsukaze · 25/05/2026 02:37

Quokkas · 25/05/2026 02:11

That’s a good point - they haven’t been super consistent, but they have played consistently well enough, all the same, to finish fifth and get Champions League football next season. I also think Van Dijk is losing form, Salah and Slot are not seeing eye to eye and Slot hasn’t managed them very well this season. Those are all also contributing factors. Despite all of that, they’ve done very well.

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Slot has lost the dressing room.

Matsukaze · 25/05/2026 02:34

Congratulating him on what, exactly? What was his contribution to Arsenal winning the league?

Quokkas · 25/05/2026 02:11

Confuserr · 25/05/2026 02:01

Liverpool haven't played consistently well at all imo, they have been absolutely inconsistent even within the same game. Especially around winter they had about 5 wins in 20 games iirc. Van Dijk went from best defender in the league to liability. Was weird.
Agree it was likely influenced by the awful loss of Jota but they have been pretty rubbish for defending champions. Spurs though have been on a whole other level, and were lucky today that Everton are also having a (prolonged) dud spell.

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That’s a good point - they haven’t been super consistent, but they have played consistently well enough, all the same, to finish fifth and get Champions League football next season. I also think Van Dijk is losing form, Salah and Slot are not seeing eye to eye and Slot hasn’t managed them very well this season. Those are all also contributing factors. Despite all of that, they’ve done very well.

Confuserr · 25/05/2026 02:01

Quokkas · 25/05/2026 01:54

Ouch.

They were poor - I agree. But part of that reason was because they had a constantly high number of injured players, they changed managers three times (if we include sacking Ange Postecoglou pre-season) and, with playing in the the Champions League, they also had a more hectic and competitive football season than they’re used to.

I don’t think any other PL club had to deal with those exact factors. I do want to add though, I think Liverpool had it worse though, as they had to deal with the aftermath of Diogo Jota’s awful death in pre-season, and they’ve done brilliantly to play consistently well despite that.

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Liverpool haven't played consistently well at all imo, they have been absolutely inconsistent even within the same game. Especially around winter they had about 5 wins in 20 games iirc. Van Dijk went from best defender in the league to liability. Was weird.
Agree it was likely influenced by the awful loss of Jota but they have been pretty rubbish for defending champions. Spurs though have been on a whole other level, and were lucky today that Everton are also having a (prolonged) dud spell.

Quokkas · 25/05/2026 01:54

Confuserr · 24/05/2026 21:44

Well tbf they barely escaped demotion after being completely shit all season which is quite different to actually being good and winning the league. Your son just probably didn't want to be reminded he supports spurs.

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Ouch.

They were poor - I agree. But part of that reason was because they had a constantly high number of injured players, they changed managers three times (if we include sacking Ange Postecoglou pre-season) and, with playing in the the Champions League, they also had a more hectic and competitive football season than they’re used to.

I don’t think any other PL club had to deal with those exact factors. I do want to add though, I think Liverpool had it worse though, as they had to deal with the aftermath of Diogo Jota’s awful death in pre-season, and they’ve done brilliantly to play consistently well despite that.