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To see benefits as a safety net, not handouts?

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ForGreyStork · 23/05/2026 14:23

It’s the way benefits are talked about. To me, they’re part of a social security system -a safety net that people may need at different points in life, rather than “gifts” or handouts.
I also wonder whether increasing conditions and restrictions risk undermining that safety net over time.

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SummerFeverVenice · 27/05/2026 14:21

OneSnugGoose · 23/05/2026 16:13

It was a very flawed study.

And excluded any 'work' at all.

So if a Mother worked for a fortnight in a cafe aged 16 and was sacked before she went on to have multiple children starting as a teenager, that couldn't be counted.

She'd 'worked'.

Can you direct me to where you discovered this flaw in the Rowentree study? It seems so obvious and critical a flaw that I truly wonder at the mental capacity of the researchers.

whitefluffydog · 26/05/2026 15:11

I don't know how the tax office has so much money to keep giving away....this is very interesting to me...I wish someone with the knowledge to reply to my question with a bit of economics background

whitefluffydog · 26/05/2026 15:10

Ilovegermany · 23/05/2026 14:26

You aren’t unreasonable. Benefits are there for people that need it for a time but not for ever. They are there to help until you can find something else.

There are not enough jobs going round. I have been looking for a job for more than a month. And I usually find one within a week

more people coming in and taking jobs, less jobs to go around , wether for the local or the migrant

Seymour5 · 26/05/2026 15:06

@thatsgotit our eldest DGnephew is an apprentice electrician, a good opportunity IMO. I agree, Uni nowadays can be an expensive experiment with no guarantees of a career.

thatsgotit · 26/05/2026 14:30

Seymour5 · 26/05/2026 14:20

I suppose that’s true, but you had to take crap jobs or lose your benefits. I do however think our DC’s generation, born in the 70s & 80s, had far more opportunities in terms of further ed and social mobility. We left school at 15, and went into jobs. DH grew up in a council estate, quite rough, only one of his younger siblings went on to further education. But the next generation of nieces and nephews and our DC was different. They nearly all have highly paid, professional careers.

Their DC, born in this century, are the ones who may now have difficulty in finding careers.

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I'd assumed declining a job still meant losing your benefits? I could be wrong, though.

I do agree there was broader scope for previous generations in finding work. I'm Gen X and the jobs market definitely seemed to have better pickings back in the day - and, importantly imo, the colleges and polytechnics weren't masquerading as universities back then. These days it seems to me that the range of opportunites for young people whose skills are in the practical/technical/vocational sphere has dwindled as they're all supposed to aspire to uni now, which imho is misguided and unhelpful.

Seymour5 · 26/05/2026 14:20

thatsgotit · 26/05/2026 11:28

Tbf, to the best of my knowledge employment was easier to come by in those days, though?

I suppose that’s true, but you had to take crap jobs or lose your benefits. I do however think our DC’s generation, born in the 70s & 80s, had far more opportunities in terms of further ed and social mobility. We left school at 15, and went into jobs. DH grew up in a council estate, quite rough, only one of his younger siblings went on to further education. But the next generation of nieces and nephews and our DC was different. They nearly all have highly paid, professional careers.

Their DC, born in this century, are the ones who may now have difficulty in finding careers.

ForWittyTealOP · 26/05/2026 11:33

Seymour5 · 26/05/2026 10:02

That's encouraging given a family such as ours was would get much more help nowadays.

Well maybe but it's swings and roundabouts really. Being on benefits has always been difficult, just in different ways at different times.

thatsgotit · 26/05/2026 11:28

Seymour5 · 26/05/2026 09:00

Being unemployed was pretty much a short term thing years ago. People working and paying NI did get earnings related unemployment benefits for a period, and there was some stigma attached to people (men) who weren't in regular work.

Our young family got unemployment benefit when DH’s job folded, that was over fifty years ago. It was hand to mouth, but it was galvanising! DH drove a van, worked on a building site, and built up self employment to a reasonable income. We had two DC, couldn’t risk having more we couldn’t afford. I got temporary work to fit round his hours, eventually going back to a permanent job. My friend’s DH worked 8-4.30 Mon to Fri, she worked evenings and Saturdays in a chippy. Another did some bar work. None of us had childcare apart from our DHs and occasionally each other.

I don’t remember any ‘top up’ benefits, there wasn’t even Child Benefit for the first child until 1979. So the alternative to not working for nuclear families like ours wasn’t appealing.

Tbf, to the best of my knowledge employment was easier to come by in those days, though?

Seymour5 · 26/05/2026 10:02

ForWittyTealOP · 26/05/2026 09:10

It's not appealing now.

That's encouraging given a family such as ours was would get much more help nowadays.

DefiantRabbit9 · 26/05/2026 09:54

Coffeeandbooks88 · 25/05/2026 11:16

Can I point out that autism is a disability? Although I do think if you say you (general you) have autism and it doesn't affect you then I am sceptical if you actually have it. My son is still not speaking much at four and I will eat my hat if he doesn't get a diagnosis. Currently waiting on a DLA decision. Maybe you should apply again?

You don't need to tell me. I know damn well what a disability is. I applied every year for 10 years since my award was taken away to get no each time and appealed every time. My brother (the autistic) just accepted it and moved on.

ForWittyTealOP · 26/05/2026 09:10

Seymour5 · 26/05/2026 09:00

Being unemployed was pretty much a short term thing years ago. People working and paying NI did get earnings related unemployment benefits for a period, and there was some stigma attached to people (men) who weren't in regular work.

Our young family got unemployment benefit when DH’s job folded, that was over fifty years ago. It was hand to mouth, but it was galvanising! DH drove a van, worked on a building site, and built up self employment to a reasonable income. We had two DC, couldn’t risk having more we couldn’t afford. I got temporary work to fit round his hours, eventually going back to a permanent job. My friend’s DH worked 8-4.30 Mon to Fri, she worked evenings and Saturdays in a chippy. Another did some bar work. None of us had childcare apart from our DHs and occasionally each other.

I don’t remember any ‘top up’ benefits, there wasn’t even Child Benefit for the first child until 1979. So the alternative to not working for nuclear families like ours wasn’t appealing.

It's not appealing now.

ForWittyTealOP · 26/05/2026 09:07

Apprentice26 · 26/05/2026 07:17

You may not consider it a huge amount of support, but it’s more than anybody else is going to get.

But as I've said, it's not more than anyone else is going to get. I have literal proof of this through my work.

Seymour5 · 26/05/2026 09:00

Being unemployed was pretty much a short term thing years ago. People working and paying NI did get earnings related unemployment benefits for a period, and there was some stigma attached to people (men) who weren't in regular work.

Our young family got unemployment benefit when DH’s job folded, that was over fifty years ago. It was hand to mouth, but it was galvanising! DH drove a van, worked on a building site, and built up self employment to a reasonable income. We had two DC, couldn’t risk having more we couldn’t afford. I got temporary work to fit round his hours, eventually going back to a permanent job. My friend’s DH worked 8-4.30 Mon to Fri, she worked evenings and Saturdays in a chippy. Another did some bar work. None of us had childcare apart from our DHs and occasionally each other.

I don’t remember any ‘top up’ benefits, there wasn’t even Child Benefit for the first child until 1979. So the alternative to not working for nuclear families like ours wasn’t appealing.

Apprentice26 · 26/05/2026 07:17

ForWittyTealOP · 25/05/2026 21:20

I work for a council and our service is based in community libraries as are many others. Across the council.service we offer help and advice with various aspects of life and also provide a base for citizens advice who can assist with form filling. That's available to everyone in the borough, no matter their origins.

What you describe doesn't sound like a "huge amount of support" - is there anything else on offer specifically to refugees and migrants?

You may not consider it a huge amount of support, but it’s more than anybody else is going to get.

TankFlyBossW4lk · 25/05/2026 21:31

Tutorpuzzle · 24/05/2026 08:29

How exciting…an agenda!

Nope, just a person with a master’s in statistical analysis (a while ago, now, though) who gets a bit riled up by data being misrepresented. A misrepresentation you yourself have demonstrated so beautifully…

I don't believe you have a masters in "statistical analysis. " Read the study. That would be a start

ForWittyTealOP · 25/05/2026 21:20

Apprentice26 · 25/05/2026 20:18

Well, in our local Council it involves somebody sitting with you to fill out the forms which is not entirely unreasonable as their English is generally very poor.
But we have indigenous population with very poor English as well that could do with help to navigate the system and that would not be available to them. No funding you see.

I work for a council and our service is based in community libraries as are many others. Across the council.service we offer help and advice with various aspects of life and also provide a base for citizens advice who can assist with form filling. That's available to everyone in the borough, no matter their origins.

What you describe doesn't sound like a "huge amount of support" - is there anything else on offer specifically to refugees and migrants?

Coffeeandbooks88 · 25/05/2026 21:10

Yes you lose UC if you spend more than 30 days out of the country.

Apprentice26 · 25/05/2026 20:18

ForWittyTealOP · 25/05/2026 19:45

The process was sped up, the artwork for in my link explains that's one of the reasons behind increased homelessness among migrants.

Can you outline what the huge amounts of support looks like?

Well, in our local Council it involves somebody sitting with you to fill out the forms which is not entirely unreasonable as their English is generally very poor.
But we have indigenous population with very poor English as well that could do with help to navigate the system and that would not be available to them. No funding you see.

ForWittyTealOP · 25/05/2026 19:45

Apprentice26 · 25/05/2026 19:39

They need to speed up the process of granting or denying asylum. We can all agree on that.
However, actually asylum seekers are given a great deal of support to navigate the system
Which most people young or old Do Not get access to. Yes, they are expected to look for work and generally they’re keen to do so.
But again this huge amounts of support, you could argue our young people don’t need it because they’ve been able to at least access education whether they’ve taken advantage of it or not.
But it does still feel unfair

The process was sped up, the artwork for in my link explains that's one of the reasons behind increased homelessness among migrants.

Can you outline what the huge amounts of support looks like?

Apprentice26 · 25/05/2026 19:39

ForWittyTealOP · 25/05/2026 17:49

So when people come to the UK as asylum seekers, they go through a long process, during which time they're given an allowance of £49.28 per person per week (reduced to £9.95 if they're housed somewhere food is provided, even if that food is inedible). If they're granted leave to remain they will be given 28 days notice to leave their home office accommodation. In practice, this is often much less because of the time it takes to receive the notice. They will then have to apply for Universal Credit (they won't have been allowed to work while waiting for their case to be heard) and look for private sector rented accommodation. They'll need to find a month's advance rent and deposit. Numbers of homeless migrants have shot up over recent years as the notice period for Home Office accommodation reduced.
In reality, there are no "free houses" for refugees. They have to navigate the same Kafkaesque system as other renters while struggling with language barriers, lack of familiarity with UK systems, UC expecting them to start looking for work instantly, oh and obviously all the trauma involved with being a refugee. Obviously legal aid is available (limited appointments with lawyers who don't know you and only have a short time to familiarise themselves with your case) because what would happen otherwise?

Yes this country is broken. It must be, to treat the vulnerable and destitute as it does.

BBC News - Number of homeless refugees in England soars, BBC has found - BBC News
www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cy9y3n43192o?app-referrer=deep-link

They need to speed up the process of granting or denying asylum. We can all agree on that.
However, actually asylum seekers are given a great deal of support to navigate the system
Which most people young or old Do Not get access to. Yes, they are expected to look for work and generally they’re keen to do so.
But again this huge amounts of support, you could argue our young people don’t need it because they’ve been able to at least access education whether they’ve taken advantage of it or not.
But it does still feel unfair

Apprentice26 · 25/05/2026 19:35

TheCurious0range · 23/05/2026 14:26

Depends on context doesn't it, through my work I see families of 3rd/4th generation benefit claimants all of whom have never worked despite various interventions and support. I don't think that can be called a safety net. I also think it's really sad for children growing up not to want more from life because they've never seen anything different.
I do think we need a welfare system for those in need.

There needs to be further compulsory intervention up to the age of 25.
People shouldn’t be able to leave care until they’re 21. That would improve outcomes by 100% I’m convinced of it.

thatsgotit · 25/05/2026 19:31

HobGobblynne · 25/05/2026 17:10

Why would an employer want to negotiate a higher wage with someone living rurally, when they could just hire someone who can drive (or more easily access public transport) for less. That makes no sense.

Exactly.

ForWittyTealOP · 25/05/2026 17:49

MsGreying · 25/05/2026 14:22

They should build some social housing and rent it out at affordable rates.
That's the way to try and solve that.

The problem being an awful lot of people came across the channel today who'll get legal aid (thanks tax payers) to ensure they can have a free house.
https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/migrants-detected-crossing-the-english-channel-in-small-boats/migrants-detected-crossing-the-english-channel-in-small-boats-last-7-days

Don't tell me they'll get a job. Our young people need jobs.

This country is broken.

So when people come to the UK as asylum seekers, they go through a long process, during which time they're given an allowance of £49.28 per person per week (reduced to £9.95 if they're housed somewhere food is provided, even if that food is inedible). If they're granted leave to remain they will be given 28 days notice to leave their home office accommodation. In practice, this is often much less because of the time it takes to receive the notice. They will then have to apply for Universal Credit (they won't have been allowed to work while waiting for their case to be heard) and look for private sector rented accommodation. They'll need to find a month's advance rent and deposit. Numbers of homeless migrants have shot up over recent years as the notice period for Home Office accommodation reduced.
In reality, there are no "free houses" for refugees. They have to navigate the same Kafkaesque system as other renters while struggling with language barriers, lack of familiarity with UK systems, UC expecting them to start looking for work instantly, oh and obviously all the trauma involved with being a refugee. Obviously legal aid is available (limited appointments with lawyers who don't know you and only have a short time to familiarise themselves with your case) because what would happen otherwise?

Yes this country is broken. It must be, to treat the vulnerable and destitute as it does.

BBC News - Number of homeless refugees in England soars, BBC has found - BBC News
www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cy9y3n43192o?app-referrer=deep-link

youalright · 25/05/2026 17:22

XenoBitch · 25/05/2026 16:59

I don't recall having to say what class I was when applying for benefits 😆

Me either 🤣

HobGobblynne · 25/05/2026 17:16

DefiantRabbit9 · 25/05/2026 09:27

It's classicism I'll give you a couple of anecdotal examples of this. There's a guy I know he has the same education level as me (masters degree), he has the same earning power as me but he lives in a better area than me and pays 1/10th the rent I did, why? He was born in a council house and was provided a council home with below market rent when he became 18 he had a kid which he didn't want with a woman he was unmarried too and because he was already on the system they got extra benefits. I was born in a rather sought after area of London and I'm not one of sixteen children.

Another example: I'm epileptic and my brother has Aspergers. When we were little mum got Invalid Carers Allowance and we had a lifetime award because epilepsy and autism don't go away. When we became 16 that turned into DLA. Around 2004 the government decided to change the criteria for DLA so my brother and I lost our lifetime award entirely, apparently we weren't disabled enough. I fought that for years with the justification of 'well you're well enough to work' as the justification. Well duh? How else would I survive?

When Covid rolled around like many people I lost my job. It didn't take me long to get a new one but when I applied for JSA I was refused because "you'll have no problem finding work and you've got enough saved up to keep you going".

Meanwhile you've got people like my DH former friend who is 'disabled' like all of his family, unemployed and borderline illiterate and because all his family are on benefits for various things (ADHD, Autism, BPD). He gets benefits and then flies off to Japan for 90 days. Happily bragging about it.

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You don’t get more benefits because you’re already in the system? Everyone is entitled to the same thing, regardless whether they’re in the system or claiming for the first time.

What would having 15 siblings mean in terms of you getting/not getting benefits?

You wouldn’t be refused JSA for being able to work, that’s the point of JSA - it supports you while you look for work. If you weren’t fit got work, it would be a different benefit you could claim.

People claiming UC can have holidays, nothing to say they can’t. But if you leave the country for more than a month, your UC claim can be stopped. Obviously if they aren’t declaring that they’re committing benefit fraud. And if you know that to be the case, you can report them. Nobody supports fraud - but the framework doesn’t allow for what you’re describing.

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