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To see benefits as a safety net, not handouts?

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ForGreyStork · 23/05/2026 14:23

It’s the way benefits are talked about. To me, they’re part of a social security system -a safety net that people may need at different points in life, rather than “gifts” or handouts.
I also wonder whether increasing conditions and restrictions risk undermining that safety net over time.

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Tutorpuzzle · 23/05/2026 19:14

Oh, come on @TankFlyBossW4lk , if you know anything about research you would know that interviews and other qualitative methods are very much not the way to find raw quantities. As is asking questions such as ‘have you ever worked?’ and excluding anyone who has even worked for a tiny period. If ever there was a study where the methods were made to fit the required outcome it was this one.

youalright · 23/05/2026 18:53

Diamondsareforever72 · 23/05/2026 18:50

As I said, I’ve no idea.
But she did get a fence installed for free.

But i thought you knew everything about her?

youalright · 23/05/2026 18:51

Nonsensewoman · 23/05/2026 18:47

Want to reduce welfare and reduce people misusing government money? Introduce mandatory monthly drugs tests verified with DNA matching to prevent fraud. Do this for all claimants of government money including pensions, unemployment, disability,child support,MP expenses and all jobs paid by the state like the NHS and councils etc. Any illegal drugs found immediately stops entitlement and comes with a ten year ban from claiming any support or working for the government.

These drugs test can be done via post or in person to tailor it to those who have disabilities. This is not cruel or intrusive it's morally correct as if you are taking any government money you should be willing to be scrutinized.

Then sit back and watch the claims halve overnight and also watch 100s of MPs and government workers lose access to the gravy train.

It's not a perfect solution but it would be effective as too many government employees, MPs and benefits claimants take drugs and that's a fact whether you like it or not.

You understand addiction is an illness right. Often caused by mental illness, trauma, abuse. Dangerous prescribing by drs.

Diamondsareforever72 · 23/05/2026 18:50

x2boys · 23/05/2026 18:33

They dont normally unless there is a need for it and you would need proof such as an OT assessment
I would think a councillor would have even less infuence than an MP

As I said, I’ve no idea.
But she did get a fence installed for free.

Parkingpermitfallout · 23/05/2026 18:48

Nonsensewoman · 23/05/2026 18:47

Want to reduce welfare and reduce people misusing government money? Introduce mandatory monthly drugs tests verified with DNA matching to prevent fraud. Do this for all claimants of government money including pensions, unemployment, disability,child support,MP expenses and all jobs paid by the state like the NHS and councils etc. Any illegal drugs found immediately stops entitlement and comes with a ten year ban from claiming any support or working for the government.

These drugs test can be done via post or in person to tailor it to those who have disabilities. This is not cruel or intrusive it's morally correct as if you are taking any government money you should be willing to be scrutinized.

Then sit back and watch the claims halve overnight and also watch 100s of MPs and government workers lose access to the gravy train.

It's not a perfect solution but it would be effective as too many government employees, MPs and benefits claimants take drugs and that's a fact whether you like it or not.

Your username makes sense.

Nonsensewoman · 23/05/2026 18:47

Want to reduce welfare and reduce people misusing government money? Introduce mandatory monthly drugs tests verified with DNA matching to prevent fraud. Do this for all claimants of government money including pensions, unemployment, disability,child support,MP expenses and all jobs paid by the state like the NHS and councils etc. Any illegal drugs found immediately stops entitlement and comes with a ten year ban from claiming any support or working for the government.

These drugs test can be done via post or in person to tailor it to those who have disabilities. This is not cruel or intrusive it's morally correct as if you are taking any government money you should be willing to be scrutinized.

Then sit back and watch the claims halve overnight and also watch 100s of MPs and government workers lose access to the gravy train.

It's not a perfect solution but it would be effective as too many government employees, MPs and benefits claimants take drugs and that's a fact whether you like it or not.

Oasisinthearea · 23/05/2026 18:45

OneSnugGoose · 23/05/2026 17:25

True.

But it still happens and happened with more frequency a few years ago so they're still people benefitting from the system now.

I mentioned a family I know where the Mother was born in 1971 and had four sons.

3 of her sons are in social housing by having a partner who had kids with them and was claiming as a single parent and they just live there. To be fair, some of those women work part-time but the men don't . Unless you count drug dealing as work. They don't officially live there but do.

One of her sons got a 2 bed council flat due to his' mental health' needs and social care supporting him to have a 2 bed so he could have his daughter overnight as her Mother was an addict who just fucked off and left the child to a Grandmother. He was an addict with a personality disorder too but let's not judge..

He tried to set fire to the entire block of flats while high on crack cocaine and is now in prison.

I'm sure when he comes out we'll fund another flat for him. And PIP and every other benefit that his family have relied on for years.

Is that you Hyacinth?

ParmaVioletTea · 23/05/2026 18:44

BooneyBeautiful · 23/05/2026 15:39

Yes, same here. I became disabled almost overnight at the age of 46. Single parent with two DC aged 14 and 10 at the time. A very frightening experience.

The lumping together of much-needed support for those with disabilities and those who won’t work started under Thatcher as a way of trying to manipulate the unemployment figures. Long term unemployed were put on disability benefits and almost literally thrown on the scrap heap. Even though many of those workers really wanted to work - it was their identity (thinking of miners, car manufacturers and so on).

It’s now got murky with a loosening up of the criteria for mental illness as a disability - so today’s young people report record levels of mental illness stopping them from working. When we know that work generally has positive effects on most people’s mental health.

I think as a nation we need to have the difficult conversations around the balance between tax and benefits. And the fact that there is an entrenched underclass with a mix of low aspiration or none at all, and bad mental and physical health - both of which could be improved by good quality employment and training, plus investment in the nation’s best resource - us, the citizens!

KeenLemonPanda · 23/05/2026 18:42

AnnieBond · 23/05/2026 17:12

You may have made subsequent posts, but I did quote your actual post, so I did read your 'actual reply'.

The poster I quoted made zero mention of disabilities. They actually said why would you chose to work when better off on benefits which is what my reply was too. So very clearly my comment wasn't about people who can't work but rather those who chose not too.

x2boys · 23/05/2026 18:33

Diamondsareforever72 · 23/05/2026 18:12

I have absolutely no idea tbh as it would never occur to me to expect the council to install a fence for me.
Actually, it was a councillor, not an MP.
My mistake.

They dont normally unless there is a need for it and you would need proof such as an OT assessment
I would think a councillor would have even less infuence than an MP

Diamondsareforever72 · 23/05/2026 18:12

x2boys · 23/05/2026 18:03

Seems a strange way to go about things
Im really not sure how an MP can help get fencing
An OT asaessment would seem far more appropriate ...

I have absolutely no idea tbh as it would never occur to me to expect the council to install a fence for me.
Actually, it was a councillor, not an MP.
My mistake.

PropertyD · 23/05/2026 18:09

OneSnugGoose · 23/05/2026 16:13

It was a very flawed study.

And excluded any 'work' at all.

So if a Mother worked for a fortnight in a cafe aged 16 and was sacked before she went on to have multiple children starting as a teenager, that couldn't be counted.

She'd 'worked'.

I dont know why some people on this thread keep saying it’s very unusual to have generations not working. That survey was complete garbage.

If you have a parent/parents who don’t work and you see they do ok, maybe some cash in hand jobs why wouldn’t you think why bother.

If those parents didn’t think education was that important and they know the ways to fill in the forms, the right things to say at any benefits interview then are you likely to do anything different?

Sunshineandoranges · 23/05/2026 18:09

OneTealShaker · 23/05/2026 16:28

Take £500 from a hard working contributing, self sufficient person. Give £100 to 5 lazy people.

You lost one voter and gained five.

Thats how benefits work.

You’r have to incredibly naive to think that most people on benefits really need them and aren’t taking advantage of people whose generosity has supposed to help the people in real needs

No i agree with you. Some people can't work,others can. I dont have sympathy for skivers but want proper help for those that need it

Diamondsareforever72 · 23/05/2026 18:06

youalright · 23/05/2026 17:34

Doo you wish your children where disabled?

No.
You have spectacularly missed my point. Quite deliberately, I imagine.

Her child was disabled enough to need a fence to stop her from “bolting at any minute.”

Her words.

But she wasn’t disabled enough to need supervision out in the street. EVER. (Funnily enough, I was the only parent who ever supervised their DC outside.)

And not disabled enough that she wasn’t allowed to career around on a very low-slung go kart. Which you could NOT see over the bonnet of your car as you drove round the corner.

She’s lucky that the girl wasn’t injured or killed tbh

x2boys · 23/05/2026 18:03

Diamondsareforever72 · 23/05/2026 17:59

I don’t know but she absolutely did. Every year. It was paid for but not by her.
She told me and she also showed me the emails.

I do NOT grudge people being giving benefits but that, and the smugness, annoyed me.

Seems a strange way to go about things
Im really not sure how an MP can help get fencing
An OT asaessment would seem far more appropriate ...

Diamondsareforever72 · 23/05/2026 17:59

x2boys · 23/05/2026 17:55

Im not sure how much you think people get in benefits ?
But i certsinly cant afford a two week all inclusive holiday and my child gets the highest rates of DLA
The last holiday we had was a week in a caravan two years ago
Im also wandering why she wrote to her MP for Fencing 🤔
I got ours through the occupational therapist.

I don’t know but she absolutely did. Every year. It was paid for but not by her.
She told me and she also showed me the emails.

I do NOT grudge people being giving benefits but that, and the smugness, annoyed me.

HobGobblynne · 23/05/2026 17:57

millymollymoomoo · 23/05/2026 14:44

@inmyhair thats actually not the basic principle of the introduction of welfare state and should not be what benefits are for

they should be below minimum wage and short term. So working should always pay more. None of this choosing 16 hours and expecting state to top you up. None of the keep having children you can’t afford and expect more child benefits, housing eyc

total overhaul needed and back to basic principle of if you want something go work for it

Why should people who are permanently unable to work through illness or injury be expected to live on less than minimum wage?

x2boys · 23/05/2026 17:55

Diamondsareforever72 · 23/05/2026 17:32

It pisses me off when people who are on benefits and don’t work at all, talk about “getting paid.”
You’re NOT getting paid because you didn’t do any work to earn it.
I don’t say anything to them but I think it!

I pay an absolute fuckton in tax and I work extremely hard. To the detriment of my health, at times.
I’ve worked three jobs before because we needed the money.

I knew someone who got a two week all-inclusive 4star hotel holiday abroad every year and would smugly tell me that she was always organised a week in advance, when I said I’d probably be up all night to get ready for our week in s/c.

She genuinely couldn’t understand why I wasn’t also similarly organised!

I knew her very well and she’d show me emails she’d sent to local MP’s, so that she could get free fencing installed.
Because her DD had high functioning autism and could “bolt at any moment.”

(my fence cost me 2k)

Funny how she never supervised any of her DC out in the street, particularly when this girl had a go-kart that she’d race around on the ROAD with.

Happy for the benefits system to support those who need it. Just not chancers/lazy fuckers.

Im not sure how much you think people get in benefits ?
But i certsinly cant afford a two week all inclusive holiday and my child gets the highest rates of DLA
The last holiday we had was a week in a caravan two years ago
Im also wandering why she wrote to her MP for Fencing 🤔
I got ours through the occupational therapist.

Parcelpass · 23/05/2026 17:50

@HoskinsChoice How much do you think a private rent would cost? They are start from £1050 upwards.... in the city I live. How much do you think they cost??

To spell it out to you I do not have £1000 plus to spend on rent.

CatkinToadflax · 23/05/2026 17:49

We hope my young adult DS will work sometime in the future, but he’s been disabled since birth and any work he can do eventually will have to be heavily supported by very understanding and flexible employers. I don’t see him ever coming off benefits. We’ve just had his LCWRA claim approved, having gone through mandatory reconsideration because the phone assessment person didn’t have the faintest idea what they were talking about and ignored everything I said. They clearly wanted to save DWP a few quid by denying my son a thorough assessment. There was a poster on here recently, claiming to be an assessor, and they knew as little as our assessment man did.

HoskinsChoice · 23/05/2026 17:43

Parcelpass · 23/05/2026 15:30

This isnt a dig at you solely but I do think some people are totally misinformed how UC works and council housing works. This is not the 90s anymore. UC do have rules about looking for work and there is no way you can get away with not working for decades like you could in the 90s.

I live in a council house. I do not have money to buy a house and on my street where I live private rents cost £1500 per month. You are very delusional people simply cannot afford that!

You think that you cannot privately rent for less than £1500? Don't be so ridiculous. I also wonder how many people would be in council houses if they had to go through a thorough reassessment every year. We have regular threads on here from people asking if they should go private or hang on to their council houses. It's morally bankrupt.

Not working at all - I think you might be right, I'm not sure. But it is perfectly possible to claim benefits for many, many years by working part time whilst expecting the rest of us to pick up the bill of their top ups. Again we regularly have threads on here with people providing advice on how to keep your earnings down to maximise benefits.

thatsgotit · 23/05/2026 17:37

AnnieBond · 23/05/2026 17:05

Yes, they are,

If you’re seriously saying you think minimum wage workers, disabled people and carers are lazy, I’m sure we’d all be riveted to know what you yourself do for a living.

youalright · 23/05/2026 17:34

Diamondsareforever72 · 23/05/2026 17:32

It pisses me off when people who are on benefits and don’t work at all, talk about “getting paid.”
You’re NOT getting paid because you didn’t do any work to earn it.
I don’t say anything to them but I think it!

I pay an absolute fuckton in tax and I work extremely hard. To the detriment of my health, at times.
I’ve worked three jobs before because we needed the money.

I knew someone who got a two week all-inclusive 4star hotel holiday abroad every year and would smugly tell me that she was always organised a week in advance, when I said I’d probably be up all night to get ready for our week in s/c.

She genuinely couldn’t understand why I wasn’t also similarly organised!

I knew her very well and she’d show me emails she’d sent to local MP’s, so that she could get free fencing installed.
Because her DD had high functioning autism and could “bolt at any moment.”

(my fence cost me 2k)

Funny how she never supervised any of her DC out in the street, particularly when this girl had a go-kart that she’d race around on the ROAD with.

Happy for the benefits system to support those who need it. Just not chancers/lazy fuckers.

Doo you wish your children where disabled?

Parcelpass · 23/05/2026 17:33

OneSnugGoose · 23/05/2026 17:01

It has changed significantly.

But social housing doesn't mean council housing, there are lots of housing associations providing housing still paid by the taxpayer to allegedly single Mums (and in some cases Dads) and it depends where you live. And if you can claim a disability which bumps you up the list. And includes non-physical disabilities.

Social housing is council and housing association. Its very similar HA tend to be newer properties. The fact you dont even know this just highlights how ill informed you are. Theres a housing crisis. Ohhhh and single mums pay tax too.

Honestly do you honestly just believe everything you read? Yes there will be a small group taking liberties just like in ANY other area of life. That doesnt give you the right to cast judgement.

Greenwitchart · 23/05/2026 17:33

I agree.

They are a safety net and normal in any decent society that does not want to see people become homeless/destitute/starve.

Also, we are asked to pay income tax and national insurance when we work to contribute to that safety net. I have done that for 25 years and paid into the system.

So I would have no issue whatsoever with claiming benefits if I cannot find a job/lose a job or become too unwell to work and certainly would not consider them as 'handouts'.