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To see benefits as a safety net, not handouts?

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ForGreyStork · 23/05/2026 14:23

It’s the way benefits are talked about. To me, they’re part of a social security system -a safety net that people may need at different points in life, rather than “gifts” or handouts.
I also wonder whether increasing conditions and restrictions risk undermining that safety net over time.

AIBU?

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darksideofthetoon · 24/05/2026 09:22

ForGreyStork · 23/05/2026 14:23

It’s the way benefits are talked about. To me, they’re part of a social security system -a safety net that people may need at different points in life, rather than “gifts” or handouts.
I also wonder whether increasing conditions and restrictions risk undermining that safety net over time.

AIBU?

If you’re on a decent salary, they are far from a safety net hence why a lot of people have to create their own safety net.

youalright · 24/05/2026 09:08

80smonster · 24/05/2026 08:45

AI is set to replace many of these processing jobs: customer services, retail, cleaning. Which professions do you mean? Maybe we could dovetail anyone under employed into defence roles?

Carers really low pay very much needed. I don't think ai will take the unskilled jobs first id be way more concerned if I had a high paid computer based job. How is ai going to take a cleaners job.

Diamondsareforever72 · 24/05/2026 09:06

Kirbert2 · 24/05/2026 08:47

I'm not arguing that she didn't get the fence installed for free. I'm arguing that it is far from simple than just a quick email to a councillor, evidence is required.

I've seen that it was years and years ago so it is possible that things were more relaxed then but even so, that most definitely is not the case now.

I had to move only at the start of last year due to my son's disability so quite recent and it was only decided based on evidence such as an OT assessment which included visiting the previous property and letters from his consultants.

My apologies if I made it sound as though a single email clinched the deal.
That’s just what she showed me and told me about.

I have absolutely NO problem with people getting the help/benefits that they need and deserve.

(However, what she did was fraudulent, no matter how she achieved it in the end up. That was my issue.
I didn’t say a word to her, though!))

(I am seriously out of pocket here due to helping people/lending them money and I’ve emptied my cupboards/fridge plenty of times to help people. Complete randoms, at times.
I am NOT a benefit basher by any means. I’d give anyone the shirt off my back but I do object to fraud/dishonesty.)

I’m sorry that you have had such a difficult time.

Kirbert2 · 24/05/2026 08:47

Diamondsareforever72 · 24/05/2026 06:20

She wasn’t trying to wind me up; she was just telling me. She expected me to be pleased for her and I basically said,
“Oh, well done, you!”

She didn’t mention anything else about the process but I know for a fact that the correspondence with the councillor was the icing on the cake.
She definitely got a fence installed for free.

I'm not arguing that she didn't get the fence installed for free. I'm arguing that it is far from simple than just a quick email to a councillor, evidence is required.

I've seen that it was years and years ago so it is possible that things were more relaxed then but even so, that most definitely is not the case now.

I had to move only at the start of last year due to my son's disability so quite recent and it was only decided based on evidence such as an OT assessment which included visiting the previous property and letters from his consultants.

80smonster · 24/05/2026 08:45

youalright · 24/05/2026 08:18

So who would work the low paid jobs you know like all the crucial jobs that carried on during covid and couldn't shut down as they're so important and needed.

AI is set to replace many of these processing jobs: customer services, retail, cleaning. Which professions do you mean? Maybe we could dovetail anyone under employed into defence roles?

Diamondsareforever72 · 24/05/2026 08:43

youalright · 24/05/2026 08:20

What from that 1 email you see over 20 years ago that you have no details about but for some reason remember the wording of the email 20 plus years later. Sure sounds totally believable

I remember my first day at school and further back, I can remember being in the hallway of our house aged 2.
I have an excellent long term memory and am quite renowned for it.
DC1 has inherited this trait from me and can remember things from when they were 2, unprompted.

I remember it as the wording was quite dramatic, that she could “bolt at any moment.”
I didn’t say that I remembered the entire email.

She showed ME. I didn’t ask about it. She wanted to tell me that she had got the fence for free.

I merely said,
“Oh that’s great, good for you,”

I don’t really care whether you believe me or not.
You obviously have no problem with people working the system.

80smonster · 24/05/2026 08:43

x2boys · 24/05/2026 08:08

So what about people who can never work?

Tax their benefits - like they do in Scandi countries. I’m afraid conditions like ADHD claiming PIP payments is a nonsense we cannot afford. Defence spending needs a massive boost, currently there is no money to do this, the NHS and many educational facilities are grossly underfunded. Something has to give.

Tutorpuzzle · 24/05/2026 08:29

TankFlyBossW4lk · 23/05/2026 21:52

But you're not looking at quantitive data. The study was looking at attitudes to working. What it actually showed was that the children of parents who didn't work still valued working and wanted to get jobs.

This was a qualitative study. That was the nature of the study. It wasn't counting anything. It was studying attitudes.

Just to reiterate, this group was the group with the lowest levels of being at work. What do you mean "have you ever been in work?" The study was only looking at qualatitive data IN THOSE FAMILIES who had SIGNIFICANT WORKLESSNESS. ie. Those people with 2 generations of family without a job. They wanted 3 generations, but they couldn't find enough of them. So they looked at 2 generations. Tbh , if they ever had a job, good that they were excluded. We are studying WORKLESSNESS.

The whole point of looking at this particular group is to study the group who had the least work within the family generations.

I really can't spell it out any further. Stop conflating qualitative and quantitive data. This study was a qualitative study.

I'm beginning to think you have an agenda.

How exciting…an agenda!

Nope, just a person with a master’s in statistical analysis (a while ago, now, though) who gets a bit riled up by data being misrepresented. A misrepresentation you yourself have demonstrated so beautifully…

youalright · 24/05/2026 08:20

Diamondsareforever72 · 24/05/2026 08:11

So what?

It’ was still fraudulent and dishonest.

What from that 1 email you see over 20 years ago that you have no details about but for some reason remember the wording of the email 20 plus years later. Sure sounds totally believable

youalright · 24/05/2026 08:18

80smonster · 24/05/2026 08:02

Personally I think benefits should have an expiration date that forces people claiming to look for better paid work. The UK currently has an anti-hustle culture: let someone else pay the way is how many see it. We will continue to compromise the NHS and schools until we focus on core offerings.

So who would work the low paid jobs you know like all the crucial jobs that carried on during covid and couldn't shut down as they're so important and needed.

Diamondsareforever72 · 24/05/2026 08:11

youalright · 24/05/2026 07:43

So this was 20+ years ago when we had a completely different significantly more generous benefits system and more available services which has absolutely nothing to do with the reality of benefits and services available at this current time

So what?

It’ was still fraudulent and dishonest.

HobGobblynne · 24/05/2026 08:09

80smonster · 24/05/2026 08:02

Personally I think benefits should have an expiration date that forces people claiming to look for better paid work. The UK currently has an anti-hustle culture: let someone else pay the way is how many see it. We will continue to compromise the NHS and schools until we focus on core offerings.

How would an expiry date help someone who is permanently unable to work through illness or injury?

x2boys · 24/05/2026 08:08

80smonster · 24/05/2026 08:02

Personally I think benefits should have an expiration date that forces people claiming to look for better paid work. The UK currently has an anti-hustle culture: let someone else pay the way is how many see it. We will continue to compromise the NHS and schools until we focus on core offerings.

So what about people who can never work?

80smonster · 24/05/2026 08:02

Personally I think benefits should have an expiration date that forces people claiming to look for better paid work. The UK currently has an anti-hustle culture: let someone else pay the way is how many see it. We will continue to compromise the NHS and schools until we focus on core offerings.

unlimiteddilutingjuice · 24/05/2026 08:00

Theyre both.

Benefits were initially concieved as a form of state run workers insurance. You pay national insurance and then you draw out money for certain life events: maternity, retirement, sickness, unemployment.
The "Contributory benefits" still function like that. Things like Maternity Allowance and contributions based Jobseekers Allowance and Employment and Support Allowance.

But the benefit system pretty quickly had to reckon with circumstances that didnt fit into thay mould. What to do (for example) with a person who was born disabled and has always been too sick to work. Even unemployment is a bit tricky.
Contributions based systems are designed for periodic or cyclical unemployment. Not (for example) the great depression. Or the systematic deindustrialisation of the 1980s. You need something means tested to cover a basic standard of living for those who have not paid in.

But apart from that, benefits have always been used partially for social engineering. Child benefit was a way of transfering money from men to women (on the correct assumption that women generally act in childrens interests).

Tax Credits were a way of incentivising low paid work because the Labour Government were committed to a low wage service economy but didnt want society to reap the full consequences.

Universal Credit is largely a way of subsudising housing and childcare through private sector providers.

The benefits system cant perform this function and remain a "safety net" because housing and childcare are long term ongoing costs. Not short term emergencies.

I personally feel that subsidising housing and chilcare is a legitimate function of the state. These things are necessary, hard for individuals to afford on their own and the private sector tends to make a hash of them.

Is providing money to individuals to spend in the private sector is a good way to go about it? Maybe not.

If everyone was paying £350 a month for council housing and another £200 to state subsidised nursery that would represent a similar level of state investment. But it would feel more dignified because the subsidy would be hidden in daily life.

youalright · 24/05/2026 07:43

Diamondsareforever72 · 24/05/2026 07:30

That is not what I said.
I didn’t question her on the process because it’s not my business. She was the one who brought it up with ME.
Maybe she just wanted to rub my nose in it that she got something for nothing when I had to work full time for the same thing? 🤷‍♀️

Btw, her DD is now 27 and works full time in a very physical job so she wasn’t that “disabled,” was she 🤣

I’ll say this again for the hard of thinking; I have no problem with people being giving benefits when they need them.

So this was 20+ years ago when we had a completely different significantly more generous benefits system and more available services which has absolutely nothing to do with the reality of benefits and services available at this current time

x2boys · 24/05/2026 07:42

Diamondsareforever72 · 24/05/2026 06:20

She wasn’t trying to wind me up; she was just telling me. She expected me to be pleased for her and I basically said,
“Oh, well done, you!”

She didn’t mention anything else about the process but I know for a fact that the correspondence with the councillor was the icing on the cake.
She definitely got a fence installed for free.

That may well be the case but i doubt the councillor had much influence
When my Housing assicistion installed 7 ft fencing i had to get a referrall ftom my sons special school to the OT who came ro my house and agreed the fencing was far to low in view of my sons needs
The housing associaton agreed to install it
Ithe process took about 12 months.

x2boys · 24/05/2026 07:34

ParmaVioletTea · 23/05/2026 18:44

The lumping together of much-needed support for those with disabilities and those who won’t work started under Thatcher as a way of trying to manipulate the unemployment figures. Long term unemployed were put on disability benefits and almost literally thrown on the scrap heap. Even though many of those workers really wanted to work - it was their identity (thinking of miners, car manufacturers and so on).

It’s now got murky with a loosening up of the criteria for mental illness as a disability - so today’s young people report record levels of mental illness stopping them from working. When we know that work generally has positive effects on most people’s mental health.

I think as a nation we need to have the difficult conversations around the balance between tax and benefits. And the fact that there is an entrenched underclass with a mix of low aspiration or none at all, and bad mental and physical health - both of which could be improved by good quality employment and training, plus investment in the nation’s best resource - us, the citizens!

You do realise that mental illness isnt just mild anxiety and depression ?
Both of those conditons csn be disabling when they are severe
But there are also other severe and enduring mental illness,s such aa schizophrenia , Bi polar, schizo affective disorder which can be disabling for people.

Diamondsareforever72 · 24/05/2026 07:30

youalright · 24/05/2026 06:59

So you only see one email she sent and you thought that was the whole process

That is not what I said.
I didn’t question her on the process because it’s not my business. She was the one who brought it up with ME.
Maybe she just wanted to rub my nose in it that she got something for nothing when I had to work full time for the same thing? 🤷‍♀️

Btw, her DD is now 27 and works full time in a very physical job so she wasn’t that “disabled,” was she 🤣

I’ll say this again for the hard of thinking; I have no problem with people being giving benefits when they need them.

dancehysterical22 · 24/05/2026 07:27

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 23/05/2026 14:56

I remember during lockdown when my DDs were on their computers doing lessons. A teacher asked ‘how do we get money’. One kid piped up ‘the government gives it to us’. Poor bloody kid, no hope.

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To see benefits as a safety net, not handouts?
MynameisnotJohn · 24/05/2026 07:09

The world is changing. In the west we are quite coddled and don’t expect people to make massive efforts to support themselves. Or we wouldn’t have high youth unemployment and simultaneous vacancies in the jobs nobody wants to do. My ancestors walked from northern coalfields to the Kent coalfields when there was no work.

Now we import people who do those jobs until they don’t have to. (Don’t blame them!)

With AI coming you might simplistically think that everyone could share out the reduced work and the whole country do a four day week and pay the unpleasant jobs more. But companies and money don’t work like that. It’s fewer jobs and harder work for the ones that have them. It feels inevitable that we end up with huge numbers doing nothing and the rest working hard to pay for them while the companies compete for their profits.

I’d like to see a more holistic and cohesive set of policies that look at the future world of work rather than the sticking plasters we use now. Would be better for everyone if there were a million people working a 3 day week than half a million working like crazy to support half a million doing nothing. Work is necessary for young people.

youalright · 24/05/2026 07:08

ToffeeCrabApple · 24/05/2026 06:43

I think they are really important, but the sheer proportion of people now relying on them is too high.

There are SO many working age adults not in work now, a huge proportion have anxiety/depression. Life is hard, too many people lack resilience & coping strategies.

Thats because a significant amount of disabled people will have anxiety and depression as they tend to go hand in hand. Being in pain all the time and no longer being able to live the life you once did can cause depression. Having a sudden unexpected decline in your health can cause anxiety. It would be very few people who got benefits for anxiety and depression alone. I have anxiety and depression its on my scr which gets sent with pip form but its not what I get pip for. Im under secondary care for mh but although I have anxiety and depression its not what im under secondary care for. I've been sectioned in the past but again not for anxiety or depression but that would still appear on paperwork. This is why there is a lot of confusion around people with anxiety and depression not working and claiming benefits. Also remember anxiety disorder is an umbrella term so that covers ptsd, ocd, agoraphobia, selective mutism, panic disorder its not just what people initially think it is

Brasslightsforthewin · 24/05/2026 07:02

Is there anyone on here, who has actually worked in or around the benefit/social housing/ justice system who thinks that multi generational worklessness is NOT an issue?

Because if you have worked in it, like I have, around hugely different areas of the country, I fail to see how you could not see it as an issue. It’s definitely not rare or uncommon or confined to a couple of areas across the country?
The government knows it too. There have been various programs over the last 30 years of my working life to try to address it. They failed because it is a multi faceted issue.
And for all the genuine benefit claimants, many of whom have posted on this thread, your denials about the reality of the system we currently have utterly baffle me. Every single fraudulent claim takes money away from YOU who genuinely need it? The system was supposed to be for people who genuinely need it and the fact is, those people aren’t getting anywhere near enough.
The entire thing needs an enormous overhaul.

youalright · 24/05/2026 06:59

Diamondsareforever72 · 24/05/2026 06:44

I believed her because she SHOWED me the email she sent and she was full of praise for the councillor.

It’s possible that that there was other communication with other parties. She didn’t mention that and I didn’t ask.

Just because something happened that YOU don’t agree with, doesn’t mean that it didn’t happen.

There are different laws and processes in different countries, or were you not aware of that?

For example, Scottish schools don’t fine parents for taking them out of school. English schools do.

By the way, it’s “they’re,” not “their.”

So you only see one email she sent and you thought that was the whole process

BooneyBeautiful · 24/05/2026 06:50

youalright · 23/05/2026 18:51

You understand addiction is an illness right. Often caused by mental illness, trauma, abuse. Dangerous prescribing by drs.

And also the cost of this would be astronomical! Think of how many people work for the NHS alone! What happens to people who are found to have taken drugs? I presume they are just left to die in the street of starvation etc? It's a ridiculous idea.