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Contraception long term relationship

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Bbkjgvbbvv · 23/05/2026 13:27

A contraception one for those in your mid40s. Before having kids, I used to take care of contraception- hormonal but had to stop as have very high blood pressure and a coil but that made me anemic. After we had kids, I asked Dh if he could have the snip as we were done and I didn't want to have to be the only one managing contraception. Dh refused and floated idea of just using condoms. In practice, he never thinks of it and we did have an accidentally pregnancy that I miscarried. Since then we essentially don't have sex. This has obviously created resentment, especially from his side. I have tried to discuss it with him that it's not just a me issue but he thinks am just being difficult. I guess from my side, I resent that he didn't have the snip nor does he seem to think it's really his problem.

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iamfedupwiththis · 23/05/2026 13:47

Contraceptive implant?

MrsShawnHatosy · 23/05/2026 13:45

When it comes to the snip, his body his choice, but he doesn’t get to choose not to have it and still have sex with you.

Fluffybuns88 · 23/05/2026 13:39

I was told I'd never get pregnant again after infertility and several miscarriages, we decided together that DH would have the snip and hormonal contraception makes me suicidal. The very small chance of becoming pregnant really had an impact when it came to sex.

I fell pregnant the week he was going to make the appointment, we've decided that once baby is here he'll get it done.

Pinkflamingo10 · 23/05/2026 13:33

If he wants to have sex he can wear condoms or have the snip. Simples.

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