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AIBU to feel hurt when one school mum ignores me in groups

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Annie2163 · 22/05/2026 23:09

(I think I have RSD. I know I have ADHD. Just for context not an excuse).

I feel really upset today at a children’s party the school mums and I were standing around and chatting and another mum came who I chat to too but she went around hugged everyone and made small talk and bypassed me! Every other mum who entered thereafter she made the effort to hug. After a while I went up to her and spoke to her she was fine but she does this often. There’s no excuse as we all know each other equally well and it’s rude to do that in my opinion. It makes me feel crap when she does that. I wouldn’t care and could make peace with the fact she doesn’t like me but then she makes the effort one to one! She often says hi to be but I’ve noticed she has mood swings that she’s fine sometimes But in a group setting she blatantly ignores me.

how can I not let it get to me? People who understand RSD will know why this is so hard.

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EasilyPleased · 22/05/2026 23:22

Annie2163 · 22/05/2026 23:15

@Tumbler777 thank you. I just do t know why she hates me so much. I’m a nice person and I’m not argumentative. I’m really nice to her when we meet but she’s hot and cold.

I think you’re letting your own disordered thinking inflate this way out of proportion. This person is a school yard acquaintance you sometimes chat to, who is sometimes friendlier than at other times. It’s highly unlikely to be anything to do with you, other than that there are other people she’s more interested in in group situations.

Humblepieman · 22/05/2026 23:21

Annie2163 · 22/05/2026 23:15

@Tumbler777 thank you. I just do t know why she hates me so much. I’m a nice person and I’m not argumentative. I’m really nice to her when we meet but she’s hot and cold.

You’re nice but not everyone is. It can be really hard when you are nice to full integrate that other people just are not.

It is not you.

Tumbler777 · 22/05/2026 23:18

Whatever her issue is, let her be ... I have recently come across a couple of people who are sometimes friendly friendly, other times very cool. Just feel soffy for them that they can't get their act together!

Annie2163 · 22/05/2026 23:15

@Tumbler777 thank you. I just do t know why she hates me so much. I’m a nice person and I’m not argumentative. I’m really nice to her when we meet but she’s hot and cold.

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Tumbler777 · 22/05/2026 23:13

Two responses .. don't try to engage with her, and gives her power if she's playing games.

the other one is magic and helped me so much .. not everyone likes chocolate.

it's not you!