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AIBU to think meeting a nursery dad at the park is fine?

38 replies

Whatthefork1 · 22/05/2026 20:21

AIBU or is my partner over reacting about me going to the park with a dad from nursery?

My children came out of nursery today and the dad in question was picking his two children up at the same time. We chat at drop offs and I have become friends with his wife- her and myself have taken the kids out for the day a few times now. He never comes and neither does my partner, it’s just us and the kids.

I had planned to take my kids to the park and my daughter overheard her friend saying they were going to the park too. So I asked the dad which park they were going to so that we could go to the same one for the kids to play together.

it wasn’t a preplanned thing and it was solely for the purpose of the kids to play together.

Am I bring unreasonable to think this is perfectly acceptable and shouldn’t be seen as something untoward? Or Because he is a man and not a woman, it’s not right?

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Mydogisagentleman · 22/05/2026 20:48

Who are the, admittedly small number,coffee people who agree with your husband 🤔?

DriveVerySlowlyPastNumber23IWantThemToSeeMyHat · 22/05/2026 20:41

My husband does the school run the majority of the time and walks back with a group of Mum's. I wouldn't have an issue if they went to the park - planned or not 😊

DriveVerySlowlyPastNumber23IWantThemToSeeMyHat · 22/05/2026 20:39

LittleGreenDuck · 22/05/2026 20:32

A shag on the see-saw?

A ride on the slide? 😂

Throneofgame · 22/05/2026 20:37

Why wouldn't it be okay? Is your partner so controlling that you are afraid of platonic communication with another man?

mibbelucieachwell · 22/05/2026 20:35

Both of you could take your partners and swing on the swings .

NeedyLimeMember · 22/05/2026 20:34

How ridiculous! I think it says a lot about him as a man if he thinks a man and woman can't manage an innocent, platonic relationship even at a park with kids in tow!

LittleGreenDuck · 22/05/2026 20:32

InterestedDad37 · 22/05/2026 20:31

Can't see any issue - as someone said, if trust isn't there, that itself IS an issue.
Unless you're having a snog by the swings, a rummage by the roundabout etc 😀

A shag on the see-saw?

InterestedDad37 · 22/05/2026 20:31

Can't see any issue - as someone said, if trust isn't there, that itself IS an issue.
Unless you're having a snog by the swings, a rummage by the roundabout etc 😀

Mt563 · 22/05/2026 20:29

Not unreasonable. But I've seen several threads asking about husbands meeting up with mums with the kids and that generally gets very frowned on. Who knows why lol.

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 22/05/2026 20:28

Unless you started snogging by the swings I think this is fine. Hopefully you managed to restrain yourself.

Arlanymor · 22/05/2026 20:27

I would be incredibly cross if my partner didn't trust me enough to go to the park with another man (and the children!) Of course it's perfectly acceptable.

Merryoldgoat · 22/05/2026 20:26

Literally zero issue.

gopherit · 22/05/2026 20:25

Not unreasonable at all!