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AIBU to report nut-containing muffins being brought into a nut-free school?

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AlmondFlourmuffins · 22/05/2026 19:06

I’m really conflicted whether to keep quiet about something or not . If I say something it will be completely obvious it was me that reported.

Dd best friend always takes in a homemade muffin to school as has packed lunch. Dd had a play date and when I picked her up said that she had some and can we make them for her lunches after the half term break so I asked for the recipe.
One was a ‘Bakewell muffin’ made with almond flour and glace cherries the other was a peanut butter chocolate and banana marbled muffin. The thing is it’s a nut free school and when I said ‘oh I’m surprised you’ve got away with this’ after she shared the recipe she just laughed. Now I’m feeling like it’s wrong?

I know in the class there are no nut allergies but I have no idea obviously about the rest of the year/school. But if I say something is it going to cause a massive problem ? This is dd best friend and I just don’t know what to do ?

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Gallusoldbesom · 22/05/2026 19:18

This could literally kill a child if she really is sending her DD to school with muffins containing nuts. It’s really tricky but I would say something to her about how dangerous it is and maybe reference the girl who bought a Pret sandwich containing sesame and she died from her reaction. Good luck….

RandomMess · 22/05/2026 19:17

Why don’t you message “presumably you don’t use the recipes with nuts in for school in case it causes a pupil death”.

Honestly FFS how can someone knowingly do this.

DandelionClockSeeds · 22/05/2026 19:16

And this is why "nut free schools" don't work.
The majority comply. But some people dont care, or dont understand. And that puts those with allergies at risk.

It reduces the risk of contamination, but doesn't eliminate it.

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AlmondFlourmuffins · 22/05/2026 19:16

I feel like I have to say something when they go back after half term. I’m wondering if I say to her first to give her a chance to stop

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AlexaStopAlexaNo · 22/05/2026 19:16

You would be wildly unreasonable NOT to report this.

Brokentoes85 · 22/05/2026 19:14

Kids have literally died from allergens in schools.

Tumbler777 · 22/05/2026 19:13

Perhaps it would help if you didn't see it as a dilemma.
It's an absolute. Maybe because my grandson has a peanut allergy, or maybe I don't want to be friends with the kind of people who think "rules don't apply to me"

Trallers · 22/05/2026 19:13

Are the ones the girls had on the playdate definitely the exact same muffins as the lunchbox ones? I often adapt recipes so that could perhaps have happened here? Regardless, maybe just ask the mum to make sure she knows not to send nuts in.

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