AIBU to keep my Monday off rather than swap for a new parent?

Not a bad deal for me, you still get the same number of days off overall regardless of which day of the week you work. I love the weeks where there’s a bank holiday on a Monday, it means I only work two days (or 3 if you’re 4 days a week) - bliss!

So, she wants everyone at her place of work to dance to her tune.

What an entitled little madam she is! I have a vision of Violet Elizabeth Bott, stamping her feet and telling everyone that she'll 'thcream and thcream and thcream until I'm thick'.

I'd either ignore or roll my eyes at her. I definitely would not swap to allow her to get Monday off. And I'd laugh in her face about working 5 days not 4. I mean - who died and made her God?

You will probably have child care and after school activities booked based on your day off.

Of course she can fuck off.

I worked a four day week in England and chose Thursday as my day off because statistically it enjoys the best weather.

Of course not while I sympathise with her, a Wednesday is still a good day and it's a fixed day too. Don't feel bad, I don't see how having a Monday off helps with childcare anyway.

Monday is a good day to have off. Don't give it up if it doesn't suit you. But a break in the middle of the week is good too.

I have Wednesday off and it's great. It breaks the week up. This week I had to change my day off to Friday and I was exhausted today after working 4 days in a row . ( Poor me) I get loads more done on Wednesday

Not unreasonable but as someone with a two year old and Mondays off I sometimes wish I had Wednesday 😆 Saturday to Monday with her is full on!! Your colleague may actually end up enjoying having a midweek day off

If you work in a role where you get Bank holidays off, bear in mind that as a part-timer who works on Mondays it’s a bad deal! You will lose annual leave for each Bank Holiday to make up the difference between the pro-rata hours you’re entitled to for each bank holiday and the rest of the full working day. It takes a chunk out of your annual leave balance, especially when Easter falls twice during the same 12 month period.

This

Sucks to be her huh

It also not up to part timers to increase their hours so she can get the time off she wants

She sounds like an entitled pain in the arse

Don't give up your Mondays. It's very cheeky of her to try and guilt you into doing so it's nothing to do with you. She has to make her own arrangements. She can have Wednesday!

Wednesday’s good as it breaks the working week. I can see the like for Monday and Friday, ahead of can ask to swap if someone leaves / returns to full time … it shouldn’t be expected, she’s being entitled, HR should say Wednesday or 5 days

No, not at all OP. If she couldn't have any day off at all, then yeah, maybe it would be good for someone who has had years of benefit to give it up for a new mum, but she's been offered a regular day and will just have to make it work.

My mil went down to three days when she had my dh. She still works three days.

Sure it sucks for new parents trying to get the same balance when they can’t but it’s just one of those things.

At least your fellow staff member is getting the 1 day even if it’s not the one she wanted.

I love my Mondays off and wouldn’t give them up without a fight. I give my friend a lift somewhere on a Monday as she doesn’t have access to the family car in that day (it’s to do yoga together but work don’t need to know this!) so I always just say I help a friend with an appointment in a Monday and can’t let her down if anybody questions me on this.

You get the BH off the same as everyone else, and then - certainly in any organisation I've worked for - you get the BH leave hours added to your leave allowance to take whenever you want. Perfect.

No, employees already have their non working days, she just needs to take what's currently available. No consultation needed. First come first served.

She’s BU. When you said it was because your kids were grown up I thought you were going to say they were teenagers! Keep the day as long as it suits you.

Of course it's not unreasonable. Nobody is obliged to organize their lives around her convenience.

i work full time in 4 days but drop back to my original part time hours in school holidays, so am off on a Wednesday (off a Friday generally) my kids are 20 and 16. I offered to go full time in school holidays when I was promoted but my boss said not needed - only stipulation is if I was needed or had something I needed the extra day to finish then I do that. Works well for me and not sure I officially I want to give up my 12 weeks of 3 days per year

Not at all unreasonable not to swap or never go back to 5 days.

Lots of people think Monday or Friday are the 'premium' days off it's debatable BUT why does she think new parents should have them? What does she think makes them more important to new parents?

(she's nuts, but just curious what she thinks🤣)

I wouldn't give up my Mondays,
Schools have so many Mondays off, more Mondays than I'd get bank holidays.

My kids do homework & various kids clubs on Mondays too.

I used to have Wednesday and loved it! It felt like I was on semi holiday all the time 🤣

You haven’t been asked to do anything, so there is nothing to be unreasonable about.

I had weds off for about a year. Worked quite well tbh as never had to be organised for more than 2 days off at a time… never had to be without DC for more than 2 days either! I have had Fridays off for about 12 years now tho!