AIBU to keep my Monday off rather than swap for a new parent?

YRNBU. I always loved having a Wednesday off. Only had to work 2 days before having a break

May be give her 6 months until her baby is abit older. Remember whatever you give for the sake of God more reward will follow

She will probably think you should retire once the kids are 18 because you won't need the money and it frees up jobs for people with young children (who she will not be swapping her day off with, I'm certain).

Dont swap.

I know several people who opted for a Wednesday as it broke the week up and they didn’t spend it doing housework. Monday’s or Friday’s are great for creating long weekends to go away but a Wednesday is just as good.

Just ignore and enjoy your Mondays!

Yep, this

None of your business wgat she wants. Don't let her bully you.

Me? I'd prefer the Wednesday off in some ways - midweek break! 😂

She’s got a nerve!
Sounds like one of those entitled mothers who think they come first because they’ve given birth!
She would get a firm ‘No’ from me and if she carried on complaining about colleagues, I would report her.
Cheeky mare!

If you do longer Mondays than everyone else you're getting more time off than the 8 standard work days a year that everyone else gets! Nice if you can get it, I'd keep quiet.

Extremely rude of her.
If she approaches you directly contact HR.
I would consider her behaviour harassment.
Your agreed contract hours are none of her business.
Keep careful notes of anything she says.
Such entitlement.

She’s being unreasonable as wednesday is the best day to have off as you only ever work two days in a row.

I work full time hours over 4 days so I'm entitled to the same AL and BH hours as anyone else, nothing unfair about it 🙃

It obviously goes without saying it's dependant on your own t&c but the OP already has a Monday off, is happy with this, and doesn't want to change it.

Does she seriously think you'd give up what's best for your family for her to have her way?

That last point depends on your T&Cs. Our work changed 20 years ago to accruing leave in hours for part timers. Working Mondays means the exact same amount of leave but a lot less flexibility on when to take it, and sometimes Monday workers are forced to take more Mondays off than their BH allowance, so they have to dip into their annual leave allowance or work extra hours to cover the difference. It's not fair, but it's less unfair than Monday workers just getting more gratis days off than others.

I've tried a few and sorry but Monday is by far the BEST day off!! (There's a reason it's the most popular) so definitely don't give that up!
A long weekend every weekend
No Sunday night feeling (in 10yrs mine has never transferred to the Monday night)
Busy non stop weekends of fun with the kids are followed by a lovely chill day
And the best bit....the credit for all the Bank Holiday Mondays meaning you can get an extra week Annual Leave somewhere while still having the BH Monday's off!

Absolutely not unreasonable! I would love to work four days and I would ask for it, except the workload wouldn’t change!

I did use to work 4 days a long time ago and had Wednesday as my day off. I loved it, as others have said, but the only issue is that it’s a busier work day and you miss regular meetings which don’t seem to be held on Mondays or Fridays.

Not the point I know but having done different 4 day weeks Wednesdays is definitely the best day to have off. A Monday or a Friday just merges into the weekend. A Wednesday you never have to work more than 2 days off without having a day off. Shops etc are often quieter etc..

I get your point but my pension is healthy so I’m good.

She is NBU to be disappointed she can’t get the day off she wants, but she is BVU to think that you are her problem.

Ignore her, commiserate with her, but don’t accept any blame, refer to manager if she is causing issues or bad feelings within the team.

I wouldn’t think a particular day would make much difference to a parent. When they’ll have to have childminding around it or eventually when the child is at school, it won’t matter what day it is that they have off, it’ll be a school day. I’d rather have a long weekend without children as I could go away. With children, it would be nice to have the weds off and have some respite or time with them during the week.

Also, it’s not your problem that she wants your day off.

YANBU. However I have worked 4 days in the past with different jobs. With one I had a Monday off and with the other a Wednesday and I much preferred the Wednesday off.

Her comments are really inappropriate and I would ignore her and enjoy your 4-days as agreed with your employer. You dont have to justify your agreed employment terms to anyone. If she has a complaint about being denied a Monday or Friday she needs to go through the proper channels - it is absolutely not your problem.

She sounds very entitled so I would avoid her as far as possible. Rest assured she’ll be raising a few hackles if she’s making these kind of comments - with everyone not just those with a Friday or Monday off.

What a passive aggressive entitled nightmare colleague she sounds like.

Your job, your days, carry on.