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AIBU to think showering daily in hot weather is normal?

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TheOpalFox · 22/05/2026 14:44

I just had a shower as it’s boiling. My friend said I can’t believe you shower a few times a day? Lol she said even when it’s hot I bath once a week 🫢🤣

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Boomer55 · 23/05/2026 14:30

TheOpalFox · 22/05/2026 14:44

I just had a shower as it’s boiling. My friend said I can’t believe you shower a few times a day? Lol she said even when it’s hot I bath once a week 🫢🤣

I shower twice a day anyway. More in hot weather. Wash my hair daily, I couldn’t care less what anyone else thinks.

vanillasugar2 · 23/05/2026 14:28

TotalBaloney · 23/05/2026 14:24

You can’t. But the point is that even if your hair doesn’t need washing, your scalp does. So you may have to wash your hair when it doesn’t necessarily need it, in order to keep your scalp clean and non smelly.

I do wash my scalp when it needs it which is twice a week. Really not seeing an issue with every 3-4 days
some people go 7-14 depending on hair and whether it’s in a protective style or not
I tried every other day and my hair was breaking

TotalBaloney · 23/05/2026 14:24

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/05/2026 14:17

How can someone wash their scalp without washing their hair, @Chocolattcoffeecup?

You can’t. But the point is that even if your hair doesn’t need washing, your scalp does. So you may have to wash your hair when it doesn’t necessarily need it, in order to keep your scalp clean and non smelly.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/05/2026 14:17

Chocolattcoffeecup · 23/05/2026 13:20

Thanks for the lesson. I've got curly hair. My point is your scalp still needs washing whether your hair is greasy or not.

How can someone wash their scalp without washing their hair, @Chocolattcoffeecup?

TotalBaloney · 23/05/2026 13:59

Shodan · 23/05/2026 07:42

Strip washes are pretty good, if you know how to do them properly (which it seems a lot of showerers don't). The stunning arrogance of those who believe that just because showers weren't a regular part of bathrooms 50-odd years ago, everyone smelled, is shocking.

If you have a tepid shower in which you don't wash your hair, it's unlikely your scalp smells. But if you have a hot shower, somehow managing to keep your hair dry, your scalp still gets damp in the steam. That means excess sebum, trapped sweat, maybe hair products baked in...all leading to a stale-smelling scalp.

So while the ardent showerers are busy pouring scorn on those who clean themselves in a different way, they might like to ponder on that.

I shower because it’s far quicker and easier than a ‘good’ strip wash. I don’t really get why people would make more work for themselves unless down to necessity (no shower, physical disabilities etc), but each to their own.

Hassell · 23/05/2026 13:57

Wishingplenty · 23/05/2026 07:59

It is very over indulgent and unnecessary to shower/bath everyday. There literally is not enough hours in the day for this.

This honestly made me laugh out loud @Wishingplenty !

TotalBaloney · 23/05/2026 13:55

Wishingplenty · 23/05/2026 07:59

It is very over indulgent and unnecessary to shower/bath everyday. There literally is not enough hours in the day for this.

I have 3 kids, one is disabled and requires far more care than the average child, and a full time job. I still manage a 5 min shower every day. I don’t watch TV though; maybe if I did I wouldn’t have time to shower. I reckon I could still fit it in even if I did watch TV though.

Notmyreality · 23/05/2026 13:22

A daily shower in any weather is normal. More in hot weather. I used to live in a hot climate and would shower 3 times a day or more depending on activity.

Chocolattcoffeecup · 23/05/2026 13:20

vanillasugar2 · 23/05/2026 12:26

Curly hair is more fragile, it often doesn’t get greasy (mine never gets greasy at all no matter how long I leave it)
it also can take a long time to dry and style. Afro hair in particular is incredibly fragile and too much washing can cause hygral fatigue or brittle hair and you generally wash because of scalp tightness, to restyle or because the scalp is itchy. The shape means that oils are slower to travel down the hair shaft too so if you wash too often you strip the hair

you’ve also got how long it takes to dry which can lead to over moisturised hair. Mine takes maybe 45 minutes diffusing to dry and I don’t have that time daily or every 2 days - it would wreck my hair as it’s so fragile

Thanks for the lesson. I've got curly hair. My point is your scalp still needs washing whether your hair is greasy or not.

BadLad · 23/05/2026 12:34

I shower every morning when I’m on my own. Every morning and evening when I’m with my wife as she and her country people think going to bed without showering is disgusting.

Australians call us Brits soap dodgers. I thought they were talking bollocks until I read Mumsnet showering threads.

vanillasugar2 · 23/05/2026 12:26

Chocolattcoffeecup · 23/05/2026 12:00

I don't get why people think they don't need to wash their scalps because they have curly hair.

Curly hair is more fragile, it often doesn’t get greasy (mine never gets greasy at all no matter how long I leave it)
it also can take a long time to dry and style. Afro hair in particular is incredibly fragile and too much washing can cause hygral fatigue or brittle hair and you generally wash because of scalp tightness, to restyle or because the scalp is itchy. The shape means that oils are slower to travel down the hair shaft too so if you wash too often you strip the hair

you’ve also got how long it takes to dry which can lead to over moisturised hair. Mine takes maybe 45 minutes diffusing to dry and I don’t have that time daily or every 2 days - it would wreck my hair as it’s so fragile

LathkillDale · 23/05/2026 12:13

I’ve read several articles about showers for people over 65. They said a daily shower strips too much oil from older people’s skin, which is drier and thinner. The ideal is say a shower Monday, Wednesday and Friday, with a strip wash on the days between. My hair is so dry, I only need to wash it twice a week maximum, otherwise it looks like straw despite conditioner, etc.

If climate change continues, then water is going to become scarcer in the UK, and the price will go up. I imagine an electric pump shower uses more water in five minutes than a strip wash?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/05/2026 12:01

I had to share my sister’s bath water, @SaltShark - I hated it. Initially it was because I stayed up later but in our teens, when we had the same bedtime, it didn’t change.

We had baths on Sunday and Wednesday so I asked mum if my sister and I could take turns to go first and get the clean, hot water - and she said No!. Partly, I think, because she favoured my sister and partly because she and dad shared bath water and she always went first so she didn’t want to admit this wasn’t fair to him!

Chocolattcoffeecup · 23/05/2026 12:00

bongo28 · 23/05/2026 08:42

I’m going to stick my head up over the parapet here and say I shower roughly every other day and wash my hair once or twice a week. My hair is very thick and curly, so it doesn’t need washing every day. I live with a partner who would certainly tell me if I stink, so I know I don’t. I just don’t see the need to shower if I’ve done nothing 🤷🏻‍♀️ obviously I will shower more if I’ve done exercise/swimming etc etc, but if I’ve just been to work and come home or been at home all day I don’t necessarily feel the need. To make things even worse i’ll add that if I’m not leaving the house I just stay in my pyjamas all day 🤣

I don't get why people think they don't need to wash their scalps because they have curly hair.

SaltShark · 23/05/2026 11:55

I shower everyday sometimes twice aday depends on what im doing.
Morning and night.

I was fed up as a child having to bath once aweek in the same dirty warter after my mother.
Having a sprip wash in the holidays as baths was once aweek in tearm times only, i was rank and i smelled.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/05/2026 11:53

Lostsadandconfused · 23/05/2026 04:39

Twice a day usually.

Anyone who doesn’t wash at least once per day, can’t you smell yourself or are you just nose blind? The smell of unwashed bodies is quite noticeable and unpleasant.

I agree a daily wash is essential.

vanillasugar2 · 23/05/2026 10:59

Shodan · 23/05/2026 07:42

Strip washes are pretty good, if you know how to do them properly (which it seems a lot of showerers don't). The stunning arrogance of those who believe that just because showers weren't a regular part of bathrooms 50-odd years ago, everyone smelled, is shocking.

If you have a tepid shower in which you don't wash your hair, it's unlikely your scalp smells. But if you have a hot shower, somehow managing to keep your hair dry, your scalp still gets damp in the steam. That means excess sebum, trapped sweat, maybe hair products baked in...all leading to a stale-smelling scalp.

So while the ardent showerers are busy pouring scorn on those who clean themselves in a different way, they might like to ponder on that.

I wrap mine before a shower, then put a shower cap on
I mean if my scalp did smell a bit for whatever reason, I can’t wash it more often as my hair would be damaged
it copes with twice a week best

CoffeeCantata · 23/05/2026 10:48

Or some kind of washing.

I like baths, personally. I'm pretty environmentally aware so, if it's hot and I'm at home with some sweaty chores to do, I'll get up, bung on something old and do those first (mowing the lawn, serious cleaning) and then have my bath, rather than have two baths.

This isn't set in stone, though - obviously if I was going out early and seeing other people I'd always make sure I was freshly washed and dressed in clean clothes.

rosydreams · 23/05/2026 10:41

different people different shakes .I recall as a teenager on a school trip during a heat wave wearing very typical summer clothes my best friend however she was wearing full goth armour .Like all black the leathers chains the lot ,absolutely fine no issues with the heat. Rightio then

Some people are chill with it but personally i love having a shower before bed in the heat then lying directly in front of a fan its so much better feeling than roasting .Its so weird to see how how people live in comparison to yourself but everyone has their own cup of tea

MangosCarlsen · 23/05/2026 10:39

It takes less than 5 minutes to shower, barely two minutes if not washing hair. I don’t understand why anyone would want to get into bed without washing off the day, or start the day without freshening up from whatever you get up to in the night. This may not apply so much during winter!

Bilbobagginsbollox · 23/05/2026 10:32

Shower once a day. I would stink if I only had one bath a week but I do know people who are less stinky than me!

QuietComet · 23/05/2026 10:27

I shower every other day, mainly for skin and hair health.

I would never judge / call people names because of their own habits.

TheBeaTgoeson1 · 23/05/2026 10:05

Did she aye

Pricelessadvice · 23/05/2026 09:25

I shower daily all year. If I get really sticky hot in summer, I might have 2 showers in a day.

Itsallsostressful · 23/05/2026 09:24

SweetnsourNZ · 23/05/2026 04:31

Also called a whores wash.

🤣🤣

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