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AIBU here re parents and driving

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lavandermatcha · 22/05/2026 12:38

We have a family occasion coming up soon and we’ve booked a meal afterwards at a restaurant for us, my parents and in-laws. This was all confirmed 6 weeks ago with everyone.
My parents are staying overnight as they don’t like driving back too late and they recently downsized and moved further away. They do drive occasionally and bought a new car only last year.
They've now decided in the last day they’re not driving now which now means either both me and dh have to take two cars or order and pay for a taxi for them approx £70 which we weren’t even doing for ourselves, see if in laws would take their car and take them now as originally they were planning on travelling with bil and sil. Public transport is an option but too but they would need to get one bus walk a bit then get another bus. The bus service isn’t the most reliable and is hourly.
My husband is being brilliant and offering to do two runs dropping me and dc at the restaurent then come back and get them then do it again for going home but that’s ridiculous as it will mean he will have 4 hours of driving as opposed to just 1

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PeeledOranges · 22/05/2026 12:46

I'm really not sure why this is your problem to sort out. If they have decided not to drive at this point then ask them what their plan is for attending the event.

I really don't see why they can make this decision and then if falls on you to stress about sorting it out or paying for it.
Maybe they can sell their one year old car and pay for a taxi?

Chasingsquirrels · 22/05/2026 12:46

Why are you taking on the logistics?

Summerbay23 · 22/05/2026 12:44

Just tell them that you won’t all fit in the one car unfortunately but you can book them a taxi if they would prefer to do that rather than take their car.

Imbusytodaysorry · 22/05/2026 12:44

@lavandermatcha id say “you will need to take your car so you can get the restaurant “ or it will cost YOU £70 for a taxi.

MaryBennetsGlasses · 22/05/2026 12:41

They should pay for their own taxi

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