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AIBU to be upset about changes to women-only swimming ponds?

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Bertiebiscuit · 22/05/2026 12:28

The BBC (blokes broadcasting corporation) trolling women again - since they now let males in it's not a Ladies' pond any more - so there are 3 swimming ponds, a mixed sex one, a mens'pond......... And another mixed one. How greedy and destructive the TRAs are. Women must have nothing.

AIBU to be upset about changes to women-only swimming ponds?
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WallaceinAnderland · 23/05/2026 14:47

The laying of the the EHRC code of practice yesterday will massively help this case.

WallaceinAnderland · 23/05/2026 14:45

Holdinguphalfthesky · 23/05/2026 13:38

It sounds unlawful. Will there be a judicial review or an appeal or anything?

Yes, Sex Matters are on it:

Initially, the High Court refused to allow the judicial review brought by Sex Matters over the trans-inclusive policy at the Hampstead Heath bathing ponds. Mrs Justice Lieven ruled in January 2026 that the case should not proceed, mainly on procedural grounds, saying the claim was premature and that an individual claimant would be more appropriate.

However, in March 2026, the Court of Appeal overturned that refusal. Lady Justice Elisabeth Laing granted permission for judicial review, meaning the challenge is now allowed to go ahead to a full hearing.

MabelAnderson · 23/05/2026 14:39

LlynTegid · 22/05/2026 12:53

I have met several women over the years who use it, and they would not want someone born male to be there.

It's not just about swimming, the rest area is somewhere you can read a book or just sit outdoors in peace. One of those felt it the only place they could sunbathe topless without male interruption.

Agree. I no longer live near, but I used to swim in the pond in the 90s, and it was so nice being surrounded by women of all ages. All shapes and sizes happily lounging in the sun after a swim. No worrying about lecherous men. I went to an all girls school and the pond made me realise how much I’d missed female only space, and how much more relaxing it is being around just women and girls when you are undressed or feel vulnerable. It was like being a child again, just free and easy.

vdbfamily · 23/05/2026 14:30

InterestedDad37 · 22/05/2026 12:34

(For clarity, trans men can use the men's pond)
Not saying I disagree with OP's possible reasons for positing, just pointing out it applies also to the other 'single sex' pond.
I used to use them years ago, but no longer live in the area.

The difference here is that if a biological woman identifying as a man chooses to swim with men, that is her choice, but the biological women wanting to swim without penises nearby are not being given that choice . And for those who say the local women are supportive, you are ignoring those who have up long ago because men were using their private spaces.

EasternStandard · 23/05/2026 14:25

TheKeatingFive · 23/05/2026 08:32

Even if the results of the consultation were valid (and I doubt it) you can't just consult your way out of the law.

Imagine something like club of car enthusiasts holding a 'consultation' on obeying the speed limit. 🙄

Exactly. A consultation doesn’t mean you can ignore the law.

SadTimesInFife · 23/05/2026 14:21

NotDarkGothicMama · 23/05/2026 12:42

I work 10 minutes up the road and would love to use it, but don't because I wouldn't feel safe.

I took part in the ManFriday protest swims in the men's pond. Last time, the staff took two of the protesters' belongings and threw them in the bin, including car keys. I have no faith that if a man in the ladies pond was behaving in the way some PPs have experienced, the staff would do anything other than vilify the women who complained.

So...chuck the man's clothes in the pond?
Or drown him?
No one will tell....

Northermcharn · 23/05/2026 14:16

BigYellowBus · 22/05/2026 12:43

Do you swim at the Ladies' Pond, OP? The people who actually do are very supportive of the policy, whatever the Mumsnet Hive Mind opinion is

That's not true.

Cailleach1 · 23/05/2026 14:14

InterestedDad37 · 22/05/2026 12:34

(For clarity, trans men can use the men's pond)
Not saying I disagree with OP's possible reasons for positing, just pointing out it applies also to the other 'single sex' pond.
I used to use them years ago, but no longer live in the area.

Not sure that is true. To make a point, some women went to the men’s pool and said they identified as men. They were chucked out. I think the police were even called.

Whereas men are indulged to the hilt and allowed free roam into the ostensibly women’s pool. I seem to remember someone saying even a chap sitting at the side of the women’s pool, with his testicles spilling out of his inadequate, bolleaux containing women’s swimsuit, wasn’t chucked out from the women’s pool. Maybe Keir Starmer would have identified these as lady boll&cks. The percentage of women he thinks have a penis must have testicles too.

TrufflePigs · 23/05/2026 14:08

TheKeatingFive · 23/05/2026 14:03

How are you going to stop a man using the man's pond?

Is that a no?

MargaretThursday · 23/05/2026 14:03

This is the sort of time when mass objection could make the owners uncomfortable enough to change things. Those living close need to get a large group of ladies who all turn up and go into the men's one at once - several times if necessary.
Then point out that it's unfair if the men have the choice of three pools, but no ladies only.

I suspect it will go to three mixed, but it could be worth a shot.

TheKeatingFive · 23/05/2026 14:03

TrufflePigs · 23/05/2026 13:42

so there are 3 swimming ponds, a mixed sex one, a mens'pond......... And another mixed one.

Does the men’s pond exclude trans identified women?

How are you going to stop a man using the man's pond?

soupycustard · 23/05/2026 13:43

The 'consultation' mentioned upthread was a total nonsense because the words 'sex' and 'gender' were used as if they mean the same thing.
So aside from the fact that an oddly large percentage of respondents claimed to be T - far larger than presence in the general population - the answers to the questions had to be nonsensical, looked at in the round, because the questions were nonsensical.
Bear in mind that surveys are only as good as the questions asked; statistics can be used to argue anything you want to argue; and that surveys are paid for and consultancy firms are a business.
City of London wanted a certain answer, namely that males should be allowed to use the female pond. City of London paid for the 'consultation'. The consultation was prepared by a business, which is hardly going to spend hours drafting biologically, legally and linguistically accurate questions when it is clear that that would lead to answers their client - and any other potential council/quango/nhs etc client - wouldn't want.

TrufflePigs · 23/05/2026 13:42

so there are 3 swimming ponds, a mixed sex one, a mens'pond......... And another mixed one.

Does the men’s pond exclude trans identified women?

jeffgoldblum · 23/05/2026 13:40

Holdinguphalfthesky · 23/05/2026 13:38

It sounds unlawful. Will there be a judicial review or an appeal or anything?

I doubt it! , on certain sm platforms apparently they are all planning to ignore the guidelines and continue as before! 🤷‍♀️
women’s feelings are apparently wrong and not as relevant as trans peoples and are a sign we are all bigots!

Holdinguphalfthesky · 23/05/2026 13:38

It sounds unlawful. Will there be a judicial review or an appeal or anything?

fantam · 23/05/2026 13:32

So it will take another court case then? The guidelines are clear enough I thought to prevent this sort of discrimination. It is so blatant it is ridiculous. So what's next, or will the current status quo just be accepted and leave it to the menz now...

Rage is an understatement of how I feel about this and I don't even live anywhere near it!

TheKeatingFive · 23/05/2026 13:26

EasternStandard · 23/05/2026 13:08

What, how do men get access to all three? And women nothing of their own

I don't know how people can see this misogyny staring them in the face not be furious. It's baffling

TheLocust · 23/05/2026 13:20

EasternStandard · 23/05/2026 13:08

What, how do men get access to all three? And women nothing of their own

This kind of horse shit is everywhere now. Look at M&S fitting rooms for example. Someone posted photos on here a while ago, I forget which store it was. One fitting room was labeled "men's". The other was labeled "try on" (or something similar) and could be used by anyone.

EasternStandard · 23/05/2026 13:08

jeaux90 · 23/05/2026 12:03

Now the EHRC guidance is out they have no excuse to not follow the law. I want these males out of our spaces. They are already well provided for.

Will this change it so women get it back?

EasternStandard · 23/05/2026 13:08

What, how do men get access to all three? And women nothing of their own

jeffgoldblum · 23/05/2026 12:59

Helleofabore · 23/05/2026 12:51

I think there is the misconception that comes from only listening to people from within a narrow frame work. That is where you see these empty accusations of, none of you live there and you are the minority.

I wonder sometimes whether those repeating the line that it is only the minority of women who care about this actually understand the issues clearly or understand just how poll after poll is showing that it is the majority of the UK who want female single sex provisions and this is replicated in polling around the world.

It really must make some people feel good about themselves to diminish the needs of female people so much that they then rely of false statements that come across as platitudes to prop up their own misinformed views.

Fully agree! , many people, including myself and all the women ( and men ) I know or engage with don’t believe or agree with this at all!
the reason why we don’t say this out loud or in public is because of the immediate abuse and name calling it provokes!
it isn’t cowardice but a real worry , when people are being doxed , threatened with rape and violence, why would any sensible person want to expose themselves and their family to that?
the silent majority just voted quietly instead, however change will come as we teach our children to ignore these things and believe in the material truth.

Helleofabore · 23/05/2026 12:51

I think there is the misconception that comes from only listening to people from within a narrow frame work. That is where you see these empty accusations of, none of you live there and you are the minority.

I wonder sometimes whether those repeating the line that it is only the minority of women who care about this actually understand the issues clearly or understand just how poll after poll is showing that it is the majority of the UK who want female single sex provisions and this is replicated in polling around the world.

It really must make some people feel good about themselves to diminish the needs of female people so much that they then rely of false statements that come across as platitudes to prop up their own misinformed views.

NotDarkGothicMama · 23/05/2026 12:42

I work 10 minutes up the road and would love to use it, but don't because I wouldn't feel safe.

I took part in the ManFriday protest swims in the men's pond. Last time, the staff took two of the protesters' belongings and threw them in the bin, including car keys. I have no faith that if a man in the ladies pond was behaving in the way some PPs have experienced, the staff would do anything other than vilify the women who complained.

CuntAmongstThePigeons · 23/05/2026 12:36

I use it and I don't want it to be mixed sex. It also means I can no longer attend with my religious friends. A Muslim friend and I used to go on occasion, but sadly she can no longer use it.

Another example of being inclusive and actually ending up being exclusive.

AnnieBond · 23/05/2026 12:33

slug · 22/05/2026 13:33

@BigYellowBusI swim in the women’s pond and that’s definitely NOT the impression I’ve had from other women. I had the deeply uncomfortable experience of encountering a man in the changing room once. He was just sitting watching women shower while wearing a really inappropriate swimming costume and sporting an obvious erection.

I'll come down & frighten him
off for you!

I thought all this had been resolved last summer?

im too far away to use them these days.