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AIBU to wonder what age most people felt they looked best?

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Grilledchicken · 22/05/2026 12:12

I have recently turned 36 and feel like I am starting to lose my looks.

out of curiosity what age did you feel you looked your best?

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FastFood · 23/05/2026 06:09

Right now, at 46.
So much more confidence, so much fewer fucks to give.

WhatAMarvelousTune · 23/05/2026 05:59

Now (I’m 34). I exercise more than I ever have before (which isn’t hard because I never used to do any!) so I look fit and strong.

I also think I physically suited pregnancy as well. Mentally not so much, I hated it both times, but I had bigger breasts, lovely thick hair, and a nice bump.

DontKillSteve · 23/05/2026 05:46

Early to mid 20s. Then gained a bit of weight. Lost weight early 30s and looked good again. Then gained weight. Now mid 50s and slim again but I look my age. Don’t really care now, just want to be healthy.

Alittlefrustrated · 23/05/2026 05:39

30 - 47 precisely 🤣

icannotlivelaughloveintheseconditions · 23/05/2026 05:37

I had two periods of looking good, the first when I was 16/17. I’d had horrendous bullying at school, I went to college and found myself there. I became popular and got a lot of attention.

The second time was after I left my ex after a long term relationship. I was 27 and suddenly it n a position where I could go out, have fun , dress how i wanted.

my looks properly started to fade in my early forties along with menopausal weight gain.

HappiestSleeping · 23/05/2026 05:09

I was a very cheeky little 2 year old. It's been downhill since then.

blubberball · 23/05/2026 05:07

I think early 30s. Strangely, it was also one of the most stressful times of my life. I've never been all that, but for some reason at that time, I embraced everything and ran with it. I embraced my curves, my hair for the first time, and did my make up. I was going out and meeting a lot of people

midwalker · 23/05/2026 04:32

3678194b · 22/05/2026 13:33

Early 30's and IMO that's when I think most people (who I know) looked their best. This is naturally, without fillers etc.

I agree, as a general rule I think women are at their most attractive in their early 30s. Men perhaps a little older.

StarCourt · 23/05/2026 03:18

30, I’m 59 now and have lost my looks and confidence

Ladyymuck · 22/05/2026 23:57

My twenties. I was forwarded photos from when I was a student and I look so happy and carefree. I guess you just don’t appreciate it when you’re younger.

TiredMagpie · 22/05/2026 23:49

I’ve had phases of feeling great in my life if I think about it, rather than a single ‘at my best’ age.

I blossomed at around 20 yrs old and felt like I looked amazing until I had my first child at 27.

I then felt great again between 36-39. I lost a bit of weight, my kids weren’t so young and needy so I had more time for myself and I rediscovered fashion!

I then felt great between 46-48. Fittest I’ve ever been, flying high in my career and just had a spring in my step.

Perimenoosuse is kicking my arse now at pushing 50 and I feel like crap. Hoping I have a ‘hot 50s’ moment to look forward to 😆

Leapintothelightning · 22/05/2026 23:42

Probably 25-27. Before I had children!

JillThePlantKiller · 22/05/2026 23:42

Early twenties, but I didn’t feel good in my self until my mid thirties. Struggling a bit now in my late forties but I still feel more self acceptance than my younger years.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 22/05/2026 23:41

Fourteen. I remember it well and I was gorgeous!

Blondiney · 22/05/2026 23:40

24-32.

All started to go to shit around 38.

XenoBitch · 22/05/2026 23:37

Late 20s early 30s. But at the time, I thought I looked like shit. Now I am older, and actually do look like shit... I wish I could go back in time and kick myself up the ass.

CaramacBar · 22/05/2026 23:37

Late 20s for me

Sassysia · 22/05/2026 23:36

29 - 33 for me - looked great. After my kids too! Now at 40 I’ve lost it! Sad times 😭

LarksAscending · 22/05/2026 23:09

I’m 31 and think I currently look the best I ever have

MemorableLlama · 22/05/2026 22:49

Between 17 and 22. I remember thinking I could go into any pub or club and be one of the most attractive girls there. It was so short lived! 😫
By 30, I was married and had put on 2 stone. And became invisible. 😔
I’m 56 now and have embraced being an old lady. I love it!

Victoriawould24 · 22/05/2026 22:45

40 but I was in an abusive relationship and very fucked up. A decade later I probably look my worst in terms of weight and effort but I’m also incredibly content, very loved and at peace with myself.

Esperanza25 · 22/05/2026 22:17

Early to mid 40s for me actually.
I still don’t dislike how I look 20 years later, but obviously I don’t look my absolute best!
I feel a lot of it comes from confidence and unfortunately I had zero in my late teens and twenties when lookimg back now, I really was pretty. Oh well …grateful to still be here and in good health.

herbalteabag · 22/05/2026 22:08

Probably late 20s up to about 35.

MrsArcher23 · 22/05/2026 22:05

Late 30s/early 40s but I didn’t appreciate it- only with hindsight when I see photos. Mid 50s now and I can feel the slippage.

Fidgety31 · 22/05/2026 22:02

Early 40s were my best years but I didn’t know it at the time - don’t think you ever do .

Aged overnight at 50 and have become invisible, old and fat .

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