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coulditbeme2323 · 22/05/2026 09:15

Does anybody have any experience of having a hoiday home with young kids?

We have a part of the country we love, and a home in our favorite part has come up. The agent has said they don't often come up and whilst I appreciate agents don't always tell the truth - I haven't seen many of them.

We have 3 kids 12 and under so wouldn't be able to use during term time.

Here is info that might be relevant.

  1. It's only 1hr20 from our home so could use it for as long weekend.
  2. We wouldn't air bnb it or anything - but close friends and family could use.
  3. We travel abroad a fair bit in summer holidays.

It feels a few years too sign, but in just over ten years we will have 3 kids at uni and could use it lots.

Thoughts?

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Monty36 · 22/05/2026 11:23

thisisyoursign · 22/05/2026 11:14

But isn’t it the original local community property owners who initially chose to sell it to non locals?

If you have to sell a home due to a death as an executor you have to sell it for the best price you can for the beneficiaries. So no, not always.

eiteanpiobardubh · 22/05/2026 11:22

thisisyoursign · 22/05/2026 11:14

But isn’t it the original local community property owners who initially chose to sell it to non locals?

This is a vicious circle though. If I want to move house to a different house within my local area, I am forced to price my property at open market value, because whichever house I buy will be too. If locals were to sell to locals only (or other people who genuinely wanted to live and work in the area) we would all have to be "in on it" and something written in to our deeds to prevent selling on at OMV. It's not that easy.

Unabletosleep · 22/05/2026 11:21

BMW58 · 22/05/2026 11:17

Quite.

The previous "pillars of their community" wanted lots of ££££££££££ and couldn't give a shit about their wonderful ex friends and neighbours......😂

The problem is that individuals look out for their needs not the needs of the community. I can understand. Would you want to take 50 - 100k off your property value for someone else's benefit? And would the person their buying from be willing to do the same?

This is a problem that needs handling at a national level not blaming individuals who are trying to navigate a crazy housing market.

BunnyLake · 22/05/2026 11:20

I’m against second homes if they are the type of accommodation and environment that should be a permanent main home for someone.

Obviously that’s not a consideration for you so as long as you can afford it then buy it (or not 🤷‍♀️).

coulditbeme2323 · 22/05/2026 11:19

Unabletosleep · 22/05/2026 11:18

Oh so it is impossible that locals might want to buy a premium property?

That is a daft comment.

Impossible no, but it's not a family home or flat in any way shape or form.

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coulditbeme2323 · 22/05/2026 11:18

honestopinions78 · 22/05/2026 11:17

We have a holiday flat by the coast in an area where one of us grew up. Our teenage daughter loves being there and often brings friends. We feel much happier and more relaxed there and as our daughter approaches Uni etc will go there even more. Having a flat is much easier as lock and leave, no garden etc. Friends and family use it but we do not rent it.
Whilst not getting into an ideological discussion... locals in the area concerned do not have an issue with second home owners, we pay double council tax which massively assuages any guilt and actually eat and drink out, rent boats etc most of the time when there so actually spend far more in that local economy than at "home".
It is a big and expensive decision but one we do not regret. We still do one or two big holidays a year but breaks tend to be there.

Lovely, where abouts?

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Unabletosleep · 22/05/2026 11:18

coulditbeme2323 · 22/05/2026 11:09

This isn't the case re this property.

Oh so it is impossible that locals might want to buy a premium property?

That is a daft comment.

BMW58 · 22/05/2026 11:17

thisisyoursign · 22/05/2026 11:14

But isn’t it the original local community property owners who initially chose to sell it to non locals?

Quite.

The previous "pillars of their community" wanted lots of ££££££££££ and couldn't give a shit about their wonderful ex friends and neighbours......😂

honestopinions78 · 22/05/2026 11:17

We have a holiday flat by the coast in an area where one of us grew up. Our teenage daughter loves being there and often brings friends. We feel much happier and more relaxed there and as our daughter approaches Uni etc will go there even more. Having a flat is much easier as lock and leave, no garden etc. Friends and family use it but we do not rent it.
Whilst not getting into an ideological discussion... locals in the area concerned do not have an issue with second home owners, we pay double council tax which massively assuages any guilt and actually eat and drink out, rent boats etc most of the time when there so actually spend far more in that local economy than at "home".
It is a big and expensive decision but one we do not regret. We still do one or two big holidays a year but breaks tend to be there.

eiteanpiobardubh · 22/05/2026 11:17

mondaytosunday · 22/05/2026 10:47

Sounds great. We got one near the sea. My DH travelled a lot for work and it was nice to have a place I could take the kids for the weekend if the weather was good without any hassle. My DH passed away suddenly and we actually moved there after a couple years.
@eiteanpiobardubhi know towns that have up to 80% second homes and actually many of the people who live there quite enjoy the out of season times! And it does not affect the health system at all - name a place in the UK where people are giving birth at the side of the road!
OP I’m sure your children will love it.

Wow, you think I'm lying?
Midwives want to work in the northwest Highlands. They apply for jobs and get them. Then they can't find anywhere to live (thank you, second homes) so they can't take up the positions. Lack of community midwives mean more women have to attempt to get to the major hospital in Inverness instead, a journey of up to 3 hours WHILST IN LABOUR. I personally know two women who have given birth in lay-bys in the last three years. They were lucky - mum and baby both survived.

honestopinions78 · 22/05/2026 11:17

We have a holiday flat by the coast in an area where one of us grew up. Our teenage daughter loves being there and often brings friends. We feel much happier and more relaxed there and as our daughter approaches Uni etc will go there even more. Having a flat is much easier as lock and leave, no garden etc. Friends and family use it but we do not rent it.
Whilst not getting into an ideological discussion... locals in the area concerned do not have an issue with second home owners, we pay double council tax which massively assuages any guilt and actually eat and drink out, rent boats etc most of the time when there so actually spend far more in that local economy than at "home".
It is a big and expensive decision but one we do not regret. We still do one or two big holidays a year but breaks tend to be there.

coulditbeme2323 · 22/05/2026 11:15

YourShyLion · 22/05/2026 11:14

You said it's a flat so I'm not sure why locals wouldn't want to buy a flat when they're starting out or retiring.

Flats are always fairly popular to buy.

It is, but it isn't a regular flat.

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YourShyLion · 22/05/2026 11:14

coulditbeme2323 · 22/05/2026 11:04

I really don't think this is a home that a local family would be buying.

You said it's a flat so I'm not sure why locals wouldn't want to buy a flat when they're starting out or retiring.

Flats are always fairly popular to buy.

thisisyoursign · 22/05/2026 11:14

MabelAnderson · 22/05/2026 11:07

This. Beyond selfish.
Holiday homes destroy communities, particularly in rural areas.

But isn’t it the original local community property owners who initially chose to sell it to non locals?

Dancingsquirrels · 22/05/2026 11:13

Unabletosleep · 22/05/2026 11:03

The size is irrelevant. People buying second homes destroy communities. You say people will be there a fair bit. Great. But they won't be using the local shop every week, going to the pub, registering with the doctors, the dentist etc. That house is no longer available for a family who would have children at the school, get involved in hobbies and local life.

Some areas of the country have over 75% second homes. They are ghost towns. All services close. The buses stop running. Local people are forced out.

But you want to contribute to killing our communities for the convenience of your family then crack on.

I would happily support a national policy of charging 20% of second homes latest value a year in tax personally to fund the communities you are trying to destroy. Hopefully it would stop this stupidity.

Agree with this

I used to think I'd like a second home. But, morally, I now think it's problematic

And I think that second homes are worse than holiday homes, as they sit empty more often. At least holiday homes are likely to be rented out / used for longer

coulditbeme2323 · 22/05/2026 11:09

MabelAnderson · 22/05/2026 11:07

This. Beyond selfish.
Holiday homes destroy communities, particularly in rural areas.

This isn't the case re this property.

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coulditbeme2323 · 22/05/2026 11:09

Monty36 · 22/05/2026 11:06

Of course, keep telling yourself that.
The truth is you wouldn’t care a fig what they think.

I don't need to tell myself anything.

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MabelAnderson · 22/05/2026 11:07

HoskinsChoice · 22/05/2026 09:56

So you only want the positives then? It's going to stand empty for the vast majority of the year whilst you're working, at school and abroad but you don't want to hear about how that impacts the housing crisis?

This. Beyond selfish.
Holiday homes destroy communities, particularly in rural areas.

Monty36 · 22/05/2026 11:06

coulditbeme2323 · 22/05/2026 11:03

I am sure they will with all the money we will be spending in their local business's.

Of course, keep telling yourself that.
The truth is you wouldn’t care a fig what they think.

coulditbeme2323 · 22/05/2026 11:05

ParadiseIsNoBunker · 22/05/2026 11:04

I grew up with one and it was great. My parents bought a derelict house and renovated it - we’d go most weekends but I stopped going with them from the age of about 15. Lots of family used it and I started going with friends when I hit my twenties.

My parents had it for around twenty years I reckon.

Sounds a lot of fun, where was it?

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ParadiseIsNoBunker · 22/05/2026 11:04

I grew up with one and it was great. My parents bought a derelict house and renovated it - we’d go most weekends but I stopped going with them from the age of about 15. Lots of family used it and I started going with friends when I hit my twenties.

My parents had it for around twenty years I reckon.

coulditbeme2323 · 22/05/2026 11:04

Unabletosleep · 22/05/2026 11:03

The size is irrelevant. People buying second homes destroy communities. You say people will be there a fair bit. Great. But they won't be using the local shop every week, going to the pub, registering with the doctors, the dentist etc. That house is no longer available for a family who would have children at the school, get involved in hobbies and local life.

Some areas of the country have over 75% second homes. They are ghost towns. All services close. The buses stop running. Local people are forced out.

But you want to contribute to killing our communities for the convenience of your family then crack on.

I would happily support a national policy of charging 20% of second homes latest value a year in tax personally to fund the communities you are trying to destroy. Hopefully it would stop this stupidity.

I really don't think this is a home that a local family would be buying.

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Unabletosleep · 22/05/2026 11:03

coulditbeme2323 · 22/05/2026 10:43

It isn't modest.

The size is irrelevant. People buying second homes destroy communities. You say people will be there a fair bit. Great. But they won't be using the local shop every week, going to the pub, registering with the doctors, the dentist etc. That house is no longer available for a family who would have children at the school, get involved in hobbies and local life.

Some areas of the country have over 75% second homes. They are ghost towns. All services close. The buses stop running. Local people are forced out.

But you want to contribute to killing our communities for the convenience of your family then crack on.

I would happily support a national policy of charging 20% of second homes latest value a year in tax personally to fund the communities you are trying to destroy. Hopefully it would stop this stupidity.

coulditbeme2323 · 22/05/2026 11:03

Monty36 · 22/05/2026 11:01

So a part time home.
The locals will really love you.

I am sure they will with all the money we will be spending in their local business's.

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Monty36 · 22/05/2026 11:01

coulditbeme2323 · 22/05/2026 10:43

It isn't modest.

So a part time home.
The locals will really love you.

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