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To be absolutely sick of hearing about the cost of living crisis

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Katypp · 22/05/2026 08:59

I surely can't be the only person sick to death of hearing about the cost of living crisis?
I am tired of reporters interviewing middle-class (usually) mothers inside paid activities such as soft play and hearing them moan about how they are struggling to make ends meet.
Have we completely lost the ability to cut our cloth according to our means or does 'struggling' now mean carrying on spending as usual then complaining when there's no money left?
There have never been as many massive new cars on the road, towns are full of hairdressers, nail bars, brow bars, tanning salons, soft play, play cafes, coffee shops, ice cream parlours, dog groomers, most of which didn't exist 25 years ago and are probably the recipients of the money of the families who say they can't keep up with spiralling costs.
Yes, some families will have been hard up before prices started to go up and will have nothing else to cut back on. They have my sympathy.
But i am utterly fed up of hearing how hard households ars being hit by the cost of living crisis when all that's needed is a few minor cutbacks which they don't want to make.

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MugSh0t · 22/05/2026 18:48

darksideofthetoon · 22/05/2026 18:46

And these new cars are mostly on credit. I see range rovers and other high end cars outside social housing blocks.

Very few people have the cash to buy outright and certainly not a RR.

Exactly this!

LarksAscending · 22/05/2026 18:47

Passaggressfedup · 22/05/2026 18:44

Because 99% of jobs in my industry are in central London. No point going somewhere cheaper to do a job I’m not qualified in to buy a flat somewhere I don’t want to live and that won’t make me any money. What would be the point?
You mean even first jobs?

My oh and I lived in London and could never have afforded to buy there. We did our research, I applied to every possible jobs closer to where we could afford to buy. He continued to travel daily to London, 2 hours each way, and I traveled 1:15 minutes mornings and evenings, 5 times a week, with a one year old baby....so that we can be house owners.

We never moaned. It was really tough but the price to pay. It was worth it as we gradually got jobs closer to home not poorly paid.

Sorry but if we did it, so could many.

Yes. Plus my husband had a job at a Big 4. Going elsewhere would have meant a huge drop in future income.

MugSh0t · 22/05/2026 18:47

ForWittyTealOP · 22/05/2026 18:44

We're talking about the cost of living crisis, not individuals you disapprove of.

No we’re not we’re talking about people moaning about the cost of living whilst wasting money on shite.

Newsfalsh you aren’t the Kardashian's and life is tough. Nobody is entitled to anything.

ScotchBonnet74 · 22/05/2026 18:46

If you are truly struggling to clothe and feed your children, that's why benefits are there. People who have fallen on hard times through illness, disability, or redundancy through no fault of their own. Otherwise people need to get a grip and make cutbacks. This is nothing new. There are only so many treats that a normal (non millionaire) person can afford. New kitchen or holiday abroad? Takeaway every week or holiday abroad? Where do you draw the line?

darksideofthetoon · 22/05/2026 18:46

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 22/05/2026 09:10

The gap between the rich and poor is widening.
The fact there are massive new cars on the street just tells you some people are doing well, it doesn’t say anything about how easy it is for normal people.

And these new cars are mostly on credit. I see range rovers and other high end cars outside social housing blocks.

Very few people have the cash to buy outright and certainly not a RR.

BloominNora · 22/05/2026 18:45

ForWittyTealOP · 22/05/2026 17:54

then the others who say that of course basics should now include nice cars, new furniture, regular outings, holidays abroad.

Literally nobody has said this. Why make stuff up?

They make this stuff up because it is easier than engaging with the issues.

I was the poster that talked about what is currently included in societies view of a basic standard of living. The view of what a basic standard of living is today (which is decided by established methods and comes from structured public consensus research rather than being decided by politicians or imposed by academics) is that a basic standard of living today should include:

  1. A week’s holiday away from home - not a luxury break, but the time and finances to be able to spend a week away from home - even if it is a Sun holiday at Butlins in October.
  1. Regular meals / social eating - this means being able to afford to eat proper meals at home, afford to have friends and family over for dinner and the occasional meal out.
  1. Replacing worn‑out furniture - again, not big fancy upgrades and a new sofa every two years, simply being able to afford to replace basic necessities like beds, sofas, fridges with new basic models etc without having to rely on charity handouts or battered second hand stuff.

I'm not sure that any one with an iota of social conscience or empathy could argue that those things are not a basic part of a decent standard of modern day life.

@Passaggressfedup certainly can't which is why they have obfuscated and presented a straw man argument instead.

They've turned a basic week long break away from home into a holiday abroad, regular meals and occasional social eating into regular outings and replacing worn out basic furniture into nice cars and new furniture.

It’s easier to portray these as luxuries than to engage with the reality that many people cannot afford what society now considers basic.

MugSh0t · 22/05/2026 18:45

LarksAscending · 22/05/2026 18:40

My parents were never broke raising me. Not sure who ever said it was normal to struggle to raise your children…

Both our parents were and their parents before them. But then they had no help from anybody and scrimped to pay a mortgage. We were happy. We had food, the odd treat, a battered car and a basic holiday( camping of abroad) every few years.

ForWittyTealOP · 22/05/2026 18:44

MugSh0t · 22/05/2026 18:23

Plenty of families are moaning about the cost of living when actually they’re moaning about not being able to spend money on things they don’t need.

We're talking about the cost of living crisis, not individuals you disapprove of.

Passaggressfedup · 22/05/2026 18:44

Because 99% of jobs in my industry are in central London. No point going somewhere cheaper to do a job I’m not qualified in to buy a flat somewhere I don’t want to live and that won’t make me any money. What would be the point?
You mean even first jobs?

My oh and I lived in London and could never have afforded to buy there. We did our research, I applied to every possible jobs closer to where we could afford to buy. He continued to travel daily to London, 2 hours each way, and I traveled 1:15 minutes mornings and evenings, 5 times a week, with a one year old baby....so that we can be house owners.

We never moaned. It was really tough but the price to pay. It was worth it as we gradually got jobs closer to home not poorly paid.

Sorry but if we did it, so could many.

MugSh0t · 22/05/2026 18:43

MistressoftheDarkSide · 22/05/2026 18:39

Define luxuries?

Take aways, eating out, coffees out, endless tech, expensive phones for kids, cars on finance, nails and endless beauty shit, shopping hauls, holidays, theme parks, expensive days out, skincare for kids, piles of throw away toys …it goes on and on

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 22/05/2026 18:42

Passaggressfedup · 22/05/2026 18:40

With what my DH and I bring in, we could buy a mini mansion on the North East of England. But our jobs don't exist there with the same salaries. Where we do live and work, there isn't a "cheaper area"
It doesn't have to be one extreme or the other, but many refuse to even contemplate relocation.

Relocation to where?

Please, tell me, where are the jobs with the salaries needed to buy these lovely cheap houses?

LarksAscending · 22/05/2026 18:41

@ScotchBonnet74poor people in India do not eat better than people in the UK. The vast majority of deaths from malnutrition (kwashiorkor and marasmus) and micronutrient deficiency related illnesses come from South Asia. Over 70% of deaths from these causes in the whole world are in South Asia!

Passaggressfedup · 22/05/2026 18:40

With what my DH and I bring in, we could buy a mini mansion on the North East of England. But our jobs don't exist there with the same salaries. Where we do live and work, there isn't a "cheaper area"
It doesn't have to be one extreme or the other, but many refuse to even contemplate relocation.

LarksAscending · 22/05/2026 18:40

MugSh0t · 22/05/2026 18:37

Being broke whilst raising kids is part of life and always has been. Suddenly we’re all entitled to luxuries . It’s bonkers.

My parents were never broke raising me. Not sure who ever said it was normal to struggle to raise your children…

ForWittyTealOP · 22/05/2026 18:40

ScotchBonnet74 · 22/05/2026 18:08

Agree. Also why do poor people in India amongst other places (who are really poor) eat better than 'poor' people in this country? Because they are not lazy or entitled and cook from scratch, and actually take pride in providing for their family.

Oh blimey the racist "noble savage" trope. Romanticising people in that way is really not acceptable these days.

MugSh0t · 22/05/2026 18:39

Passaggressfedup · 22/05/2026 18:38

The people struggling in the cost of living crisis are struggling to afford basics
I also get to meet some of these people with my job. They are usually much less likely to moan and much more grateful for what they receive.

It's those like a few posters here who think that working hard gives them the instant rights to rewards, who then moan when they get their gas bill and there isn't much left to pay it...and then say they can't afford to heat their home.

Yep the very ones who jet off on holiday every year!

MistressoftheDarkSide · 22/05/2026 18:39

MugSh0t · 22/05/2026 18:37

Being broke whilst raising kids is part of life and always has been. Suddenly we’re all entitled to luxuries . It’s bonkers.

Define luxuries?

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 22/05/2026 18:39

MugSh0t · 22/05/2026 18:35

I see them!!!! I don’t know how they afford these things- and holidays! We never had those things the last 20 years raising young children and we didn’t moan about it.

That's the whole point....THEY AREN'T.

FFS.

LarksAscending · 22/05/2026 18:39

Passaggressfedup · 22/05/2026 18:30

If I’d saved half of my salary every month from my first full time job after university I’d have had £9,000. The average flat price in my area in 2018 was £400,000. Houses were £550,000. Tell me… what percentage deposit would I have had with 9,000? 2.25%
Why didn't you consider moving to a cheaper area for a few years of ownership was so important? The average cost of a flat in England in 2018 was just over £220k.

Because 99% of jobs in my industry are in central London. No point going somewhere cheaper to do a job I’m not qualified in to buy a flat somewhere I don’t want to live and that won’t make me any money. What would be the point?

Thankfully I had family who helped with the money to buy but what I’m showing is that the posters point that people should just not go to university and should buy at 19 having saved half their income for a year is nonsense.

Passaggressfedup · 22/05/2026 18:38

The people struggling in the cost of living crisis are struggling to afford basics
I also get to meet some of these people with my job. They are usually much less likely to moan and much more grateful for what they receive.

It's those like a few posters here who think that working hard gives them the instant rights to rewards, who then moan when they get their gas bill and there isn't much left to pay it...and then say they can't afford to heat their home.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 22/05/2026 18:38

MugSh0t · 22/05/2026 18:37

Being broke whilst raising kids is part of life and always has been. Suddenly we’re all entitled to luxuries . It’s bonkers.

God forbid things get better, hey?

MugSh0t · 22/05/2026 18:37

Being broke whilst raising kids is part of life and always has been. Suddenly we’re all entitled to luxuries . It’s bonkers.

MugSh0t · 22/05/2026 18:35

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 22/05/2026 18:29

Please go read the numbers in the post you'd quoted where you're saying they are moaning that they can't afford things they don't need.

Someone getting £98 a week and having to pay rent from that as well as other bills and food is not "wasting" money on eating out then complaining.

I see them!!!! I don’t know how they afford these things- and holidays! We never had those things the last 20 years raising young children and we didn’t moan about it.

EdithBond · 22/05/2026 18:35

Passaggressfedup · 22/05/2026 18:30

If I’d saved half of my salary every month from my first full time job after university I’d have had £9,000. The average flat price in my area in 2018 was £400,000. Houses were £550,000. Tell me… what percentage deposit would I have had with 9,000? 2.25%
Why didn't you consider moving to a cheaper area for a few years of ownership was so important? The average cost of a flat in England in 2018 was just over £220k.

Then who does the low-paid or public sector jobs in the expensive areas?

Should expensive areas go without hospital cleaners, porters or teaching assistants?

And when everyone moves to the cheap areas, they become more expensive, which is exactly what’s been happening.

Passaggressfedup · 22/05/2026 18:34

Lots of people had gap years in the 80s and went on to buy a house. Lots went to uni with grants and no or small student loans and later bought a house
I don't think it was anywhere as common to go and travel the world during gap years then but ultimately, they did so at a time when a university degree was worth a lot more and the job market was better.

Why do it now knowing how much harder it is to get that first job?