To think telling a child to "cover up" because of male teachers is ewwww?

Appropriate clothing means not skin tight, not bum showing, not hot pants, not underwear as clothes.

So jeans and a tshirt, or trousers / shorts , top. It’s not appropriate to wear skin tight clothing to school or work imo. Doesn’t matter who you are or what age, it’s poor taste / judgement.

Could we organise an event where all the male teachers went to school with their bum cheeks hanging out of their hotpants? Then when any female that looked, glanced, noticed, giggled, commented were told they were sexual predators and perverts.

Let's see how that would go down with pupils and their parents.

I'm amazed that a school in 2026 would openly make that statement about male staff.
That's a whole assumption about the sex of teachers which modern SLTs have to avoid.

Called-out by her teacher, to teach her how to dress appropriately in certain settings.

It’s a shame that this type of teaching has to fall to her school to do. It should come from home. This would have saved her being humiliated.

It’s on you OP.

FFS. The look required for a Chancellor of the Exchequer making a public announcement on a serious subject with major effects on the national economy is hardly comparable to the look required for an own-clothes day in school. I've heard some absurd comparisons in my time, this may take some sort of prize.

Not distracting. Embarrassing them!

You actually told a student that a revealing outfit "looked amazing and suited her"? You used those words?
What kind of school do you work in, what safeguarding have you actually done?
Extraordinary.

Because other people make allegations.

🙄

Well then she has to be accept being called out by others then, and humiliated, if you’re not going to do it.

I agree with everything you've said OP.

Every single thing.

I don't think you will get anywhere with your complaint (that you are aware of) but I still think you should file it so your daughter sees you supporting her. She did nothing wrong, she was dressed like her friends.

She was singled out and humiliated because of her large chest.
She was told she was potentially responsible for distracting adult men.

It is disgusting. I'd be furious.

And yes why do we STILL have stupid dress codes? They annoy me so much. I'm not sending my DD to a school with a uniform because I don't see what it is 'preparing' her for - corporate attire is surely on its way out?

I work in a school and have had to ask a student to cover up when in a meeting with me. 6th former in very revealing bra top. I told her the outfit looked amazing and suited them, but it made me uncomfortable and not really work appropriate and to please chuck her cardigan back on. All done with smiles and no embarrassment.

But a man couldn’t give them the compliment first without weird accusations. And I don’t get accused of anything because I’m married with children. (And I’m in a role where students know I’m there to help them). I feel a sense of having to look out for my male colleagues because if they were to be accused of looking at a female student, it could very quickly escalate. I think the teacher is looking out for her colleagues. If she says something, they don’t have to.

I think it’s about mutual respect between staff and students.

Why do you think that’s funny?

I think she would be uncomfortable with both male or female teachers wearing skimpy clothes as in society we have learned to dress for the occasion.
Hot pants and a vest top is not professional workwear for a teacher.
How do you not know this?

I have a 16 year old daughter and she is certainly a child emotionally, mentally, developmentally etc. But she is physically developed, obviously, with a young woman's figure. And in just over a year she will legally be an adult and be able to do whatever she likes within the law. So basically, not a child physically and in just over a year, not a child legally. I have 14 months to get her to not be (such a) child emotionally, mentally, developmentally and especially in her comprehension of the world, its norms, expectations, men's behaviour and drivers (good and bad), how to thrive in the world as it is 😬

Unless the teacher's body was model-perfect, they would attract comments about their skin, their shape, their size, their hair, their age etc.
Students notice everything (they will be looking at the teacher for several hours in a week) and they pass judgement all the time. A teacher showing a lot of flesh would attract a lot of EW comments. And would be very distracting.
Speaking as a former classroom teacher.

Jesus, it was you mentioned your child's wet dreams. If you can't talk about it on here, then have you really talked it through with your son? You can't comment on a thread then not discuss it openly and try to scensor other people. If you can't see that you hav also been rude then you need to look again. Rude with a healthy dose of the passive aggressive.

Lots of people seem to agree with me, so I hope a few have agreed with you too, so you can feel ok with your opinions and the childrens crotches that are on display. We all know it happens and like it or not, we all know you have looked and noticed too.

Skirts are literally up their backsides these days. Im not sure if you live in England yourself but I do not agree with you. Have you seen what school girls wear? Full face of make up the lot...

That’s ridiculous! Having worked in a school it’s embarrassing for the teachers to have pupils airing their bits in the classroom. It’s totally inappropriate. All kids should be covered up and dressed for school not the beach!

@FreeeeeeeeFreeFalling A vest top on a large chested girl at school isn’t appropriate. It looks ridiculous and no one wants to be made to recognise your DD has a chest whilst at school. You should have told her to cover up before she left the house. You humiliated her, not the teacher and the reason was not because male teachers wanted to look at her, the exact opposite in fact, they don’t want to and don’t want to be forced to!

Why on earth would you be "relieved/impressed" that your daughter's teacher wore hotpants?? What does that have to do with being a good, engaging teacher? And how is that 'relatable'? I wouldn't have particularly cared as a teenager, but both my kids would've viewed her with disdain for being such an attention seeker.

What if a male teacher came into school in hotpants?

The only way the arguments you’ve heard on here aren’t valid would be if you don’t realise the humans view breasts and bottoms as sexual.

humans do view exposing part or all of breast and/or bottom is a sexual display.

Now the posters on here have started from the premise that you understand this as all adult humans understand this. They might not like this, but they understand.

So the full argument is: it is inappropriate to have part of your breasts uncovered at a work place because exposing part or all of your breasts are viewed by most humans as a sexual display and it’s not appropriate to make a sexual display in a work or educational setting.

Your dd is either year 11 or year 12, this is very close to leaving school and having a job age. She needs to learn how to dress appropriately for situations and understand the clothing we put on our bodies sends messages and which messages are appropriate to be sending in a work place and which ones are appropriate to be sending on a night out are not the same.

It sounds like the school is trying to teach her how to dress appropriate for different situations, is this something she’s going to learn at home or are you going to lie to her that no one will judge her negatively for choosing low cut breast exposing tops for work?

I fully agree! The buck stops with the parents. I think schools should enforce a rule of knee length skirts or pupils shall be sent home. It is down to the parents unfortunatly and as you can read from the thread we all have differing opinions. A local high school near to me which is catholic does not allow skirts at all (I think its unfair and thought it was odd) however giving this thread.... I can see why.

So teachers should be non conformists? And that helps prepare children for the real world...how?