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Children eating packed lunch outside?

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OldMaaa · 21/05/2026 18:09

Is it just me or is this a bit bonkers?

My children are at Primary school.

I found out recently (from my child not via school communication) that the children who bring in packed lunches are allowed to take them outside to eat in the playground.

This first came up as my children sometimes take in soup in a thermos cup. Recently eldest child reported that their soup was kicked over before they had consumed any, so essentially missing the main portion of their lunch. After a bit of (quite confused) discussion I discovered soup was on the floor outside, which led to a conversation about why?! This is normal apparently.

I'm thinking about it again today, as I noticed child had brought home most of their sandwiches and when I asked if there was something wrong with them they said no. "They were lovely but I got distracted".

Am I mad/out of touch to be thinking that children should be sat down at tables while they're eating their lunch regardless of whether they're packed lunch or school dinners. Or is this common in other schools?

I never want to be the kind of parent who bothers the school unnecessarily, but I am considering asking them about this as I don't understand it.

But I would appreciate some other perspectives as maybe my perspective is wrong?

OP posts:
ByRoseBiscuit · 21/05/2026 21:34

My children would eat their packed lunches outside at primary school, in the field like a picnic. They enjoyed it, I thought it was nice. They aren’t supposed to be playing and eating at the same time! They are still supposed to sit down and eat/ finish their lunch before playing so maybe reinforce that with your child.

rollerblind · 21/05/2026 21:30

my class would love to be allowed to eat outside!

HangingOver · 21/05/2026 21:18

FeelingSadToday1 · 21/05/2026 19:34

I am more surprised your child has soup for lunch. She must be starving. I would rather my child be outside as much as possible during the school day.

I've spend 38 years trying to like soup (not just that, I've done other things too) but it just isn't proper food.

And if anyone disagrees with me using terms like "hearty" or "packed with" I shall call the police. It's not food.

dontmalbeconme · 21/05/2026 21:06

If your children can't be relied upon to keep their soup safe and unspilt, then soup is a stupid choice to give them for lunch (not even starting on it's inappropriateness in this weather).

Now you know they're eating outside and apparently unable to hold on to their soup or put the lid on it, make better choices for their packed lunches instead.

Zippidydoodah · 21/05/2026 20:55

Soup in colder months, yes. I was boiling hot all day today and couldn’t have managed to eat soup 🥵

MasterBeth · 21/05/2026 20:54

OldMaaa · 21/05/2026 18:24

If they were sat down at tables/on the floor I wouldn't have queried it TBH. Not so much the lack of being indoors. I like the outdoors and we eat outside a lot at home. But we sit down to do it and don't like the kids eat and play at the same time. Eat then play. Maybe we are weird.

You're weird to give them soup. Probably spilled it on purpose.

CoudyWithAChanceOfCustard · 21/05/2026 20:54

EvieBB · 21/05/2026 20:30

She isn't. I think the kids should be able to choose

NOWHERE does the OP say that they are being forced outside!! In fact she specifically says ‘they are allowed to’…which indicates it’s a choice, ie ‘they can if they want to’. Which happens at most primary schools in good weather.

Gingercatlover · 21/05/2026 20:53

We picnic at our school in the summer months, children sit together on the playing field and then go to play, they love it.

LarksAscending · 21/05/2026 20:50

Why are you sending soup to school? What a faff.

But yes I think sitting and paying attention to meals is important.

HouseMartinsHome · 21/05/2026 20:49

EvieBB · 21/05/2026 20:30

She isn't. I think the kids should be able to choose

I don't thibj the OP was suggesting her dc were desperately wanting to eat indoors and being prevented from doing so...

EvieBB · 21/05/2026 20:31

SooPanda · 21/05/2026 18:13

At both our schools the kids eat on the grass/ field in summer, picnic style. They love it.

Yeah, but they should be allowed to choose, like we could

EvieBB · 21/05/2026 20:30

CoudyWithAChanceOfCustard · 21/05/2026 18:17

You’re being weird OP 😂

She isn't. I think the kids should be able to choose

FlockofSquirrels · 21/05/2026 20:26

Having an outdoor lunch option is great. School canteens can be sensory nightmares and kids need more time outside in the sun, spread out a bit from fellows, and out of traditional chairs. I grew up in the states (admittedly somewhere warm and relatively dry) and two of my primary schools didn't even have indoor lunch facilities - if the rain was too awful to be outside we ate in the corridors or classrooms. At another one outdoor lunch privileges were something that had to be earned and it was a high-value reward.

Neutrally comment to your DC that spilling/ruining food while horsing around or playing too much and forgetting to eat might mean being hungry in the afternoon. Then ask if there are foods that are easier to eat outside and if they'd like those this term.

MyDogIsBetterThanYou · 21/05/2026 20:12

Maybe you could offer to help feed them lunch outside so they don’t get distracted and play too much without eating ?

MyDogIsBetterThanYou · 21/05/2026 20:10

lol just send a note that your children must be kept inside until they finish their lunch.

Calliopespa · 21/05/2026 20:03

What is weird is that your dc and friends were not sitting eating their lunch. Or was it just a rogue foot in sitting position that knocked if? If so, it happens ...

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 21/05/2026 20:01

It will never cease to amaze me to see the various things that people on MN get annoyed about. This practice has been happening for decades, and I personally think it's rather nice!

C152 · 21/05/2026 19:58

I think YABU purely because when I went to school there was no such thing as school lunches. Everyone brought a packed lunch and ate in the playground, so this seems normal to me. However, it does seem to be standard in English primary schools for kids to eat inside (in somewhere totally inappropriate!).

0180oi · 21/05/2026 19:58

We did this when I was at school in the 00s, I loved it, so relaxing. Kids often mess around, get lost in the crowd, dont eat as theyre too busy chatting/mucking about even in dinner halls.

AgnesMcDoo · 21/05/2026 19:53

peppaispoop · 21/05/2026 19:48

You give soup in a packed lunch?

So do I. One of my kids doesn’t really like sandwiches. Soup in a flask is great.

Secretseverywhere · 21/05/2026 19:51

One of the benefits of a packed lunch is being able to sit outside. I include lots of nibbly bits thst can be eaten on the go. Hard boiled eggs, chicken legs, little tub of nuts ( school is not nut free) cheese, crackers, oatcakes, sliced cucumber type stuff. Homemade savoury muffins or slice of frittata are popular too.

Id save the soup for cold weather when they want to eat indoors.

peppaispoop · 21/05/2026 19:48

You give soup in a packed lunch?

AgnesMcDoo · 21/05/2026 19:47

Eating outside is great. I don’t see what’s wrong with it.

FlamingoFloss · 21/05/2026 19:44

Maybe reframe it as a picnic. It’s lovely for children

housepaidoff · 21/05/2026 19:42

OldMaaa · 21/05/2026 18:20

Well lunch not being eaten/soup kicked over and spilled due to not having a proper sit down mealtime. I thought that would have been obvious from my post. Confused

Realistically it won’t do them any harm. They’ll just be hungry at dinner