Hi, A longtime poster but name changed for this. AIBU to think that I was groomed. This all happened a long time ago but it plays on my mind a lot recently. When I was 16 I had sex /affair with a married man. He and his wife were friends of my parents ( although they were quite a bit younger than them) The man in question started noticing me and complementing me when I was about 15. I had a Saturday job in the place he worked,so I would see him there as well as babysitting his 2 young children, he would pay me a lot of attention and I was young enough and silly enough to be flattered. I thought I was in love with him. His wife was a lovely person who was very kind to me ( by this time my mum was dying of cancer) He also slept with other women too. Sometimes he was very verbally nasty to me , but I kept crawling back. I still feel guilty, he is long dead and his wife left him due to his drinking and eventual DV. She was so sweet and kind to me and trusted me with her children and that is how I repaid her by sleeping with her husband. After a year or two I started avoiding him and got a boyfriend of my own age. I am in my 60s now. It did not occur to me that I could have been groomed as that really wasn't a thing in those days, think 'Rita ,Sue and Bob too!' but now I think I might have been. What do you think?