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WIBU To ask for a different lady to scan my shopping?

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goodoldsussexbythesea · 20/05/2026 19:13

I do my big shop in Tesco once a week. I usually have around 100 items. I do scan as you shop and I seem to get picked a lot for a random basket check. Fine.
There's one lady who always seems to be working on the self-scan when I go in. She's an older lady and she is incredibly slow. It's so frustrating as I usually don't have a lot of time.
I don't just mean a little bit slow either. I mean about 10 seconds or so between scanning each item. With lots of sighing and breaks and stopping. I think last time she could see the frustration on my face because she said "it's stressful, isn't it?" and I'm like yes... because you are being so slow (didn't say this out loud). I almost asked if she'd like to give me the scanner and let me do it for her but I didn't want to be rude.
Last time, the scanner was telling her she needed to scan over 80 items so it took absolutely forever.
And she puts it all back into the bags wrong too.

So anyway, today I went to tesco, got selected for random bag check and saw this lady was on. My heart sank. I needed to rush home and put it all way and then go on the school run. I didn't need another 20 minutes adding on. She started making her way very slowly towards me and I said, in the politest voice I could muster "do you mind if your colleauge does it?" She looked really taken back so I said "it's just I'm in a bit of a rush, sorry" I tried to look as apologetic as I could but she looked really confused and a bit upset.

The colleague heard the conversation, came over and started scanning. I was out of there and in my care in under 5 minutes.

I feel so bad though. I don't like upsetting people and I keep thinking of her face. I just couldn't do it though, it's so bloody painful.

I don't want to be mean enough to say anything to her supervisor but I really don't think she should be on that section. She should be sitting down on one of the tills, where she's not on her feet and customers haven't chosen a quicker option.

WIBU?

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BauhausOfEliott · 21/05/2026 15:23

NoKnit · 20/05/2026 19:52

Forgot to add i don't think the self service is designed for 80 items so of course you're going to be checked. Just go to the checkout next time?

Scan-as-you-shop is absolutely designed for people with a large number of items - in fact, that's exactly who it's aimed at, because it's massive trolleys of stuff that take the most time at an ordinary checkout or a self-checkout. It's designed to save time when you're doing a big shop.

Scan-as-you-shop isn't the same thing as just using a self-checkout. At a self-checkout you scan everything at the end of your shop and then pack it. Scan-as-you-shop is when you scan and pack everything as you walk round and then all you do when you check out is pay.

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 21/05/2026 14:57

youalright · 21/05/2026 14:38

The solution is to lower retirement age and make disability benefit easier to get but people on here would hate that

No disagreement from me on either of those.

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 21/05/2026 14:57

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 21/05/2026 14:35

But OP didn't shout at her and OP didn’t swear at her.

Obviously OP didn't do that - you can tell from her posts on this thread (and actually starting it) that she is kind and considerate and didn't want to upset the woman. Many of us would be the same.

But surely you must know that lots of people are not like that, and have no patience with elderly or disabled people's needs at all and would react very differently?

LordofMisrule1 · 21/05/2026 14:56

You did the right thing OP. You don't need to martyr yourself by being late because of someone else's incompetence. She might not have been aware she was so much slower than everyone else. She might actually try speed up a bit now!

youalright · 21/05/2026 14:38

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 21/05/2026 14:19

OK... then I don't know what the solution is if they choose to ignore reasonable adjustments for disabled and otherwise lower-capability staff - and are happy to have them shouted at and sworn at by irritated customers.

The solution is to lower retirement age and make disability benefit easier to get but people on here would hate that

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 21/05/2026 14:35

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 21/05/2026 14:19

OK... then I don't know what the solution is if they choose to ignore reasonable adjustments for disabled and otherwise lower-capability staff - and are happy to have them shouted at and sworn at by irritated customers.

But OP didn't shout at her and OP didn’t swear at her.

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 21/05/2026 14:19

youalright · 21/05/2026 13:53

If you are front end of a supermarket you do it all self scan, scan and go checkouts,csd, kiosk, amazon, evri, put backs, baskets, handsets, cleaning, security. Most jobs there is half the staff there where 10 years ago people leave retire they don't get replaced. This is how companies make profit by getting everyone to do the job of 3 people.

OK... then I don't know what the solution is if they choose to ignore reasonable adjustments for disabled and otherwise lower-capability staff - and are happy to have them shouted at and sworn at by irritated customers.

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 21/05/2026 14:18

Isobel201 · 21/05/2026 13:47

I went to Tesco today, you can actually go in the trolley manual checkout area and still use the scanner - my store has a trolley self checkout, where you can use the scanner if you wish to, as well as a basket self checkout, and then a dedicated scanner checkout. So you could use a different area if your store is the same.
But yeah, doing it online does not mean that the money will get taken out of your account before Thursday. But if its so important, why not use a Tesco credit card so you can pay regardless of whether its pay day or not?

That's if you can get a credit card, of course.

Even if they can, maybe more privileged people just don't understand the fear that many poor people have of getting into unpayable debt and/or falling foul of the rules and having to pay a lot of interest or other penalty charges. If you have very little money to work with, it's much, much better for your peace of mind to be able to know that what you've just bought is now completely paid for and you don't owe anybody anything for it at a later stage.

Yes, many people do manage credit card accounts very successfully and never pay a penny in interest or charges for them; but those people aren't the driving force for banks offering credit cards in the first place, are they? Like with the gambling companies who protest too much keep insisting that they genuinely don't want to make millions and millions of pounds from problem gamblers.

Coconutter24 · 21/05/2026 14:07

Isittimeformynapyet · 21/05/2026 13:09

You missed this update:

Sorry. This week was a one off. My boss asked me to do a couple of extra hours at the pub I work in at weekends tomorrow (I take my daughter with me to this btw and she sits quietly in the staff room, it's a tiny family pub with a friendly and understanding owner), so as a return favour I asked him to pay me early so I could do the shopping today instead of tomorrow and this has totally thrown me and made me think today is Thursday when its Wednesday.

I didn’t miss that update the update was sent after the person asked the question

youalright · 21/05/2026 13:53

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 21/05/2026 13:46

What's changed, then, as there always used to be loads of traditional checkouts, each staffed full-time by a worker - rather than one or two people overseeing a dozen or more where customers are doing most of the work themselves? It's not like the prices have come down to take the reduced staff costs into account!

I guess it's up to the shops - the usually enormous businesses that routinely get hardworking staff making them lots of money by paying them less than a living wage which the taxpayer than has to top up via UC - whether they want to support disabled staff whilst also enabling their customers to shop in a satisfactory timescale; or otherwise risk customers abandoning them for a rival if shopping there no longer works for them.

Actually, I should have thought of it before, but why couldn't this lady work on the self-service tills, rather than the scan and shop? That way, she would never be in a position of having to scan scores of items, but would just be pressing a button now and then to confirm alcohol/other restricted purchases or to override it when people tell it that they're using their own bags and then it complains because there's something the weight of a bag on there.

If you are front end of a supermarket you do it all self scan, scan and go checkouts,csd, kiosk, amazon, evri, put backs, baskets, handsets, cleaning, security. Most jobs there is half the staff there where 10 years ago people leave retire they don't get replaced. This is how companies make profit by getting everyone to do the job of 3 people.

Isobel201 · 21/05/2026 13:47

I went to Tesco today, you can actually go in the trolley manual checkout area and still use the scanner - my store has a trolley self checkout, where you can use the scanner if you wish to, as well as a basket self checkout, and then a dedicated scanner checkout. So you could use a different area if your store is the same.
But yeah, doing it online does not mean that the money will get taken out of your account before Thursday. But if its so important, why not use a Tesco credit card so you can pay regardless of whether its pay day or not?

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 21/05/2026 13:46

youalright · 21/05/2026 13:34

There isn't the staff levels to do anything you mentioned

What's changed, then, as there always used to be loads of traditional checkouts, each staffed full-time by a worker - rather than one or two people overseeing a dozen or more where customers are doing most of the work themselves? It's not like the prices have come down to take the reduced staff costs into account!

I guess it's up to the shops - the usually enormous businesses that routinely get hardworking staff making them lots of money by paying them less than a living wage which the taxpayer than has to top up via UC - whether they want to support disabled staff whilst also enabling their customers to shop in a satisfactory timescale; or otherwise risk customers abandoning them for a rival if shopping there no longer works for them.

Actually, I should have thought of it before, but why couldn't this lady work on the self-service tills, rather than the scan and shop? That way, she would never be in a position of having to scan scores of items, but would just be pressing a button now and then to confirm alcohol/other restricted purchases or to override it when people tell it that they're using their own bags and then it complains because there's something the weight of a bag on there.

dosja · 21/05/2026 13:41

youalright · 21/05/2026 13:34

There isn't the staff levels to do anything you mentioned

Plus, essentially blocking someone from taking overtime marked as ss would reduce her earning ability. Tesco is not a full-time contract; you are at the mercy of picking up overtime.

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 21/05/2026 13:37

Incidentally, make of this what you will, but I have a personal theory that one way to lessen your chances of being called for a rescan is to scan one or more new bags for life (scan them as ordinary items, rather than waiting to add them in the screen that comes after the barcode or the recall instruction.

Obviously this rather depends on whether you actually need any new bags; but considering that their algorithms will be trying to identify people who accidentally or deliberately leave items unscanned, with my layperson's hat on, I would guess that actually remembering and being honest enough to scan your new bags to pay for them would go heavily in your favour, and increase the likelihood that you have indeed scanned all of your other purchases too!

youalright · 21/05/2026 13:34

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 21/05/2026 13:32

Of course I'm not proposing that she have to leave the store. I'm just not convinced that she is in the best place - especially as, with scan and shop, you don't usually get a choice of assistants who come over to deal with a rescan.

Might it be possible to filter it out so that she's only called over for rescans when it's half a dozen items or fewer, and one of her much speedier colleagues is called for massive/full rescans (or could she just refer the big ones to other colleagues herself)? Could she possibly work in partnership with another colleague, so they each scan some of the items - albeit she scans 5 and they scan 75?

Maybe she could work on one of the traditional checkouts (assuming they have at least two). There would probably be a lot of people who are in no hurry and would appreciate a slow-paced service along with a nice chat - some people don't have hugely busy schedules and see going to the shops as a social event, or at least an enjoyable, significant part of their day. She could also then sit down, which would likely be more comfortable than being on her feet all day for an older person.

So there are two traditional tills operational: one which is clearly moving faster with less of a queue, which many people will automatically opt for; and then Sheila's till, where the people who are happy to take their time, and maybe appreciate not feeling rushed Aldi-style to pack their shopping at lightning speed, and who know that Sheila is friendly and 'methodical' and thus will gladly queue up and wait for her till.

I think it's great that she is employed, valued and included; but any considerable slack must be supported and mitigated by the employer and not the customer. It can't be nice for her at present, as I bet a load of people complain about her slowness and there will always be some who will verbally lay into her personally. 20 extra minutes is a completely unacceptable time to make people wait to pay, after they've already taken the time to scan their own shopping.

There isn't the staff levels to do anything you mentioned

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 21/05/2026 13:32

Sunshineonacloudyday111 · 21/05/2026 12:08

So what do you propose companies like the one this supposedly 'slow lady' works for do?
Do you think she should be turfed out of her job (which maybe a job she's been doing in the same place for years) because she's slower than she used to be?

The OP has no idea how long the lady has worked for the company, or what she may be going through in her own life. Maybe she's developed a few health issues lately which make working a bit harder for her. Do you think her bosses should tell her 'sorry, we know you've been a good loyal employee, but now as times go on you're a bit past it and not fit for purpose any more so you know where the door is'?

Do you think they should move her elsewhere in the store? If so, where? Doing deliveries and putting stock out? You do realise that might even be more difficult for her.

@goodoldsussexbythesea said herself that another colleague came over when she asked for someone else to check her shopping, so clearly there are other staff members about who can step in to help if necessary.

Of course I'm not proposing that she have to leave the store. I'm just not convinced that she is in the best place - especially as, with scan and shop, you don't usually get a choice of assistants who come over to deal with a rescan.

Might it be possible to filter it out so that she's only called over for rescans when it's half a dozen items or fewer, and one of her much speedier colleagues is called for massive/full rescans (or could she just refer the big ones to other colleagues herself)? Could she possibly work in partnership with another colleague, so they each scan some of the items - albeit she scans 5 and they scan 75?

Maybe she could work on one of the traditional checkouts (assuming they have at least two). There would probably be a lot of people who are in no hurry and would appreciate a slow-paced service along with a nice chat - some people don't have hugely busy schedules and see going to the shops as a social event, or at least an enjoyable, significant part of their day. She could also then sit down, which would likely be more comfortable than being on her feet all day for an older person.

So there are two traditional tills operational: one which is clearly moving faster with less of a queue, which many people will automatically opt for; and then Sheila's till, where the people who are happy to take their time, and maybe appreciate not feeling rushed Aldi-style to pack their shopping at lightning speed, and who know that Sheila is friendly and 'methodical' and thus will gladly queue up and wait for her till.

I think it's great that she is employed, valued and included; but any considerable slack must be supported and mitigated by the employer and not the customer. It can't be nice for her at present, as I bet a load of people complain about her slowness and there will always be some who will verbally lay into her personally. 20 extra minutes is a completely unacceptable time to make people wait to pay, after they've already taken the time to scan their own shopping.

youalright · 21/05/2026 13:29

looselegs · 21/05/2026 13:17

Checking 80 items on a Scan and Shop is ridiculous!

I've worked in a supermarket for 20 years and never seen one this high even on a double trolley Christmas shop I think there is some exaggerating going on in this post

dosja · 21/05/2026 13:27

I'm finding it funny that posters (who have clearly never worked in retail!) being like just move her to another department like stocking shelves, yes doing fill and dragging around cages and hefting products up onto shelves is notoriously much easier physically than serving on self service or tills Hmm . Realistically, serve is probably the most appropriate place for the woman.

looselegs · 21/05/2026 13:17

Checking 80 items on a Scan and Shop is ridiculous!

looselegs · 21/05/2026 13:16

goodoldsussexbythesea · 20/05/2026 20:20

That's not been my experience. It always checks my card for available funds whenever I try to place an order or edit one.
I don't have time available to go on a Friday either. So I can't edit it the day I get paid and then go the next day.

We have a tesco delivery every Friday morning.
The money is never in the account until Friday morning, which is when tesco take their payment.

Isittimeformynapyet · 21/05/2026 13:14

Sunshineonacloudyday111 · 21/05/2026 12:08

So what do you propose companies like the one this supposedly 'slow lady' works for do?
Do you think she should be turfed out of her job (which maybe a job she's been doing in the same place for years) because she's slower than she used to be?

The OP has no idea how long the lady has worked for the company, or what she may be going through in her own life. Maybe she's developed a few health issues lately which make working a bit harder for her. Do you think her bosses should tell her 'sorry, we know you've been a good loyal employee, but now as times go on you're a bit past it and not fit for purpose any more so you know where the door is'?

Do you think they should move her elsewhere in the store? If so, where? Doing deliveries and putting stock out? You do realise that might even be more difficult for her.

@goodoldsussexbythesea said herself that another colleague came over when she asked for someone else to check her shopping, so clearly there are other staff members about who can step in to help if necessary.

OP has not advocated for the staff member to be dismissed, especially in the overdramatic way you have childishly conjured up.

The question was, was she unreasonable to request the other available staff member instead.

You think SWBU and I think she wasn't. That's all that was required here.

Isittimeformynapyet · 21/05/2026 13:09

Coconutter24 · 21/05/2026 12:21

So anyway, today I went to tesco, got selected for random bag check and saw this lady was on.

OP said they went today, (on the day they posted) I can’t see any mention of a Thursday in the OP

You missed this update:

Sorry. This week was a one off. My boss asked me to do a couple of extra hours at the pub I work in at weekends tomorrow (I take my daughter with me to this btw and she sits quietly in the staff room, it's a tiny family pub with a friendly and understanding owner), so as a return favour I asked him to pay me early so I could do the shopping today instead of tomorrow and this has totally thrown me and made me think today is Thursday when its Wednesday.

Isittimeformynapyet · 21/05/2026 13:04

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 21/05/2026 11:20

If scan and shop is so fraught with problems and customers can't be trusted (either incompetent or dishonest), why do the shops have it as an option in the first place?

Either they accept that some people might genuinely forget to scan some items and others will deliberately not scan some stuff, but they accept the pay-off of much less in staff wages for them, or they just don't offer it.

Incidentally, I bet there are at least some people who will accidentally scan items twice and others who will change their mind and put a scanned item back on the shelf, but forget to 'unscan' it first - so they end up paying more than what their shopping actually costs!

All this bearing in mind that determined hardline shoplifters will just fill their rucksacks or hold-alls and walk out with it, unchallenged, without going anywhere near any format of checkout at all...

My mum wrote a shopping list on the back of packaging from a premium brand of ready meal fish pie and I somehow scanned the barcode accidentally. Sainsbury's gifted £9.50 by my mistake!

ginasevern · 21/05/2026 13:03

With a big shop I find it easier just to use a manned checkout.

FunMustard · 21/05/2026 12:35

YANBU @goodoldsussexbythesea - I recommend next time you are bag checked, go to customer service and ask them to check your account as you seem to be getting a lot of them. This is what we did when we had the same (on the recommendation of staff) as they told us that sometimes if you're picked once, the system puts in you in a cycle which can be long! Whatever they did sorted it out for us (PS husband works for a Tesco sister company so a bit weird we were checked every week).

Also, not sure why everyone is trying to get you to do an online shop when it's absolutely fine to just ask for someone else. We all shop to suit ourselves and our family, not sure why you're being asked to consider someone else's feelings quite so much.

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