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To ask how many times you have seen anyone wearing a niqab (full face veil revealing eyes) or burqa (full face veil with mesh cover for eyes)?

317 replies

Jane379 · 20/05/2026 17:18

I've seen recent talk on UK Reddit about banning them, and I think we should, for several reasons, but I also think in some ways banning is easy but actually integrating people leading a very conservative Muslim lifestyle is much harder, and should be the main discussion.
European countries that have banned found not many women wore them. What about here? Some estimates say 1%-2% of Muslim women, but we don't really know.

I live in S London in an area with quite a few Muslims and have only seen about 10 niqab wearers in my life. Most in more central areas. I've never seen anyone wearing a burqa.

How typical is this?

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Jane379 · 21/05/2026 15:45

MikeRafone · 21/05/2026 12:16

Coventry and Birmingham have plenty of people wearing full covering.

I've had female students living with me from the Middle East and they put on their covering (never face or eyes) to travel home. The find that it is better for them with Middle Eastern men staring at them if they don't and making them feel very uncomfortable. They don't wear full covering here in uk as they feel comfortable without - but have always kept hair covered and wrists and ankles

Interdsting men are treating women worse sometimes for not covering enough...

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Jane379 · 21/05/2026 15:44

Beachforever · 21/05/2026 14:26

A beautiful Italian lady that works for me has married an Indian Muslim man and has adopted the hijab and abaya. Her husband didn’t make her, he doesn’t care one way or another.

She has chosen to do it and she is converting from Catholicism to Islam out of free choice as she has said that a lot of the religion resonates with her.

She is enjoying wearing the hijab/abaya and has loved not being subject to the male gaze.

In our team we’ve quizzed her a lot about this as it’s such a radical change for her but she is very happy. It’s not something I could see myself doing, but each to their own.

She is enjoying wearing the hijab/abaya and has loved not being subject to the male gaze.

  • doesn't it seem sad that the male gaze makes women go to such efforts to avoid it though? Interesting we never see men covering to avoid women's gazes...
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Jane379 · 21/05/2026 15:43

ChequerToRed · 21/05/2026 13:51

Every Saturday at the car boot there’s a couple of women in niqabs.
Tbh, I have no problem with a generalised ban on face coverings in public, but they need to be generalised. Niqabs are one thing, but it also needs to include face coverings at protests (if you have any courage in your convictionsa d you’re not thee to cause trouble, you shouldn’t be hiding) as well as balaclavas and pulled up snoods, which are the headgear of choice for snatch and grab phone thieves, young county lines e-bike riders and illegal motorbike riders in my city.

This totally

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Jane379 · 21/05/2026 15:42

inkognitha · 21/05/2026 15:40

And Marco Polo went to live in Imperial China, that didn't make China a Western or Italian nation.

Are we talking continuous presence, structured, and large enough to be significative at a national scale?
Nope, we are not until the late end of the 20th century.

I am looking forward to your next assumption or erroneous fact, it's gonna be a doozy, I am sure. And please, help me out for this bingo card, I am almost there.

Hindus and Sikhs are fairly new in historical terms too. A community being new isn't the issue, practices like niqabs etc are.

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Jane379 · 21/05/2026 15:41

cvgji · 21/05/2026 12:14

I agree. The idea that it’s an empowering choice that women make with absolutely no outside influence either culturally or from family traditions/expectations,
is just nonsense.
One of the saddest thing I ever saw was on a beach in Spain a few years ago. A family of four. Dad and kids were in shorts, bare chests, swimming and playing ball.
Mum was in full covering on a boiling hot day.
Just awful.

Re this : ' The idea that it’s an empowering choice that women make with absolutely no outside influence either culturally or from family traditions/expectations,
is just nonsense.'

I see what you mean but arguably lots of choices are made due to outside pressures we don't ban. The burqa & niqab are ban-worthy imo for several reasons, not solely this one.

Agree double standard like that is awful.

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inkognitha · 21/05/2026 15:40

pointythings · 21/05/2026 15:21

The earliest evidence of Islamic presence in the UK dates back to 794 AD.

And Marco Polo went to live in Imperial China, that didn't make China a Western or Italian nation.

Are we talking continuous presence, structured, and large enough to be significative at a national scale?
Nope, we are not until the late end of the 20th century.

I am looking forward to your next assumption or erroneous fact, it's gonna be a doozy, I am sure. And please, help me out for this bingo card, I am almost there.

Jane379 · 21/05/2026 15:39

pointythings · 21/05/2026 15:21

The earliest evidence of Islamic presence in the UK dates back to 794 AD.

That's interesting. I will need to read up on this- I'd assumed Muslims in UK were generally temporarily there as merchants, diplomats etc I hadn't expected there to be signs from so long ago.

Even if there were a wholly new community in the UK, that wouldn't be a problem in itself. The issue is face covering & similar.

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Jane379 · 21/05/2026 15:37

Ginmonkeyagain · 21/05/2026 09:52

I am surprised people see so many niqabs outside certain areas in the UK. I live in South London and work centrally and see a fair few women (including friends and colleagues) who wear hijabs. But I don't regularly see a lot of women wearing niqabs (to be clear the niqab is a head and face covering where only the eyes are visible.)

My general view on this stuff is men, including those in government, should not be telling women what to wear.

I see what you mean but clearly plenty of women, including those in government may object too. And plenty would also object to men wearing balaclavas, etc, as you can't see their faces.

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BauhausOfEliott · 21/05/2026 15:36

Jane379 · 21/05/2026 14:57

It could be argued that Judaism is less foreign given Jews have lived here since medieval times. I don't really think this kind of debate is relevant or helpful though to this issue.

It could be argued that Judaism is less foreign given Jews have lived here since medieval times

You could certainly argue it, but your argument would be wrong.

BauhausOfEliott · 21/05/2026 15:30

I live in Manchester and I see women wearing a niqab, with just eyes showing, pretty much every time I go into the city centre, and occasionally also in the suburb where I live.

I don't think I've ever seen anyone in a full burqa in my entire life, and that includes when I've travelled in predominantly Muslim countries.

pointythings · 21/05/2026 15:21

Jane379 · 21/05/2026 14:57

It could be argued that Judaism is less foreign given Jews have lived here since medieval times. I don't really think this kind of debate is relevant or helpful though to this issue.

The earliest evidence of Islamic presence in the UK dates back to 794 AD.

Jane379 · 21/05/2026 15:20

inkognitha · 21/05/2026 11:56

Everyone in the UK, born here or not, with a passport or not should abide to this simple rule: British law comes first, British society comes first, British values come first.

Muslim religion is significant in the UK solely because of recent immigration. It is not an established British tradition.

Western civilisation has fought for centuries to get rid of the dominance of the Church and make it a personal matter of faith rather than a political system.

Accepting as equal a foreign religion who has largely not gone through the same evolution is taking us all back to dark times of obscurantism.

I m going back to work, have all a lovely time calling me names.

Arguably the problem is that Islam has actually often got more conservative rather than less. Part of this is due to our deeply unhelpful dependence on Saudi Arabia. For years Saudi Arabia promoted their fundamentalist 18-th century Wahhabi version of Islam in UK mosques and I think we're reaping the consequences

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Jane379 · 21/05/2026 14:57

AlexaStopAlexaNo · 21/05/2026 12:13

How is a Muslim who is born in Britain not part of society?

Is Judaism equally not a “foreign religion”?

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It could be argued that Judaism is less foreign given Jews have lived here since medieval times. I don't really think this kind of debate is relevant or helpful though to this issue.

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Jane379 · 21/05/2026 14:56

TheWytch · 21/05/2026 14:03

Quite a few in the city.

I can only hope they are wearing it through deliberate choice, not religious and cultural pressure, especially when the men and boys accompanying them are cool and comfortable in t shirts and shorts.

Yes, as Sartre said this may not be strictly religiously mandated but traditionally Muslim men have had dress requirements too.

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TreeDudette · 21/05/2026 14:55

I live rurally in Wales and have never seen anyone wearing one. I am not in favour of the repression of women but also not in favour of the governement telling people what to wear!

Jane379 · 21/05/2026 14:54

EmeraldShamrock000 · 21/05/2026 14:50

Some might say that allowing children and young teens wear western skimpy clothes is abuse, sexualising children, wearing crop tops and skin tight shorts, teenagers with their skirts rolled up to the arse, breasts on show, the teenagers and younger girls only want to dress like that because of the adults, we blindside them with the beauty industry from a very young age.
Neither is perfect. I’m not foolish enough into thinking our girls aren’t brainwashed by society too.

I don't think that's good either. Certainly parents putting young kids in sexualised clothes IS abuse. We can criticise both.

I agree that all societies pressure people to do things that are bad for their wellbeing, to some extent at least.

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Jane379 · 21/05/2026 14:53

inkognitha · 21/05/2026 11:56

Everyone in the UK, born here or not, with a passport or not should abide to this simple rule: British law comes first, British society comes first, British values come first.

Muslim religion is significant in the UK solely because of recent immigration. It is not an established British tradition.

Western civilisation has fought for centuries to get rid of the dominance of the Church and make it a personal matter of faith rather than a political system.

Accepting as equal a foreign religion who has largely not gone through the same evolution is taking us all back to dark times of obscurantism.

I m going back to work, have all a lovely time calling me names.

I agree mainly with this. Except I don't think it really matters if it's a foreign religion or not. What matters is it doesn't fit with the British values currently held that you show your face in public.

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EmeraldShamrock000 · 21/05/2026 14:51

Sartre · 21/05/2026 12:00

I didn’t think Mumsnet would be your bag, Tommy.

🫣🤣

EmeraldShamrock000 · 21/05/2026 14:50

Manchegomango · 21/05/2026 11:17

It's completely different and you know it, and no amount of the sycophantic "its so beautiful" takes away from the reality which is that it is a tool of oppression

Some might say that allowing children and young teens wear western skimpy clothes is abuse, sexualising children, wearing crop tops and skin tight shorts, teenagers with their skirts rolled up to the arse, breasts on show, the teenagers and younger girls only want to dress like that because of the adults, we blindside them with the beauty industry from a very young age.
Neither is perfect. I’m not foolish enough into thinking our girls aren’t brainwashed by society too.

Crocsarentslippers · 21/05/2026 14:41

Genuinely wouldn't be able to tell you, it's not something I notice. I guess a few a day based on where I live and my route too and from work?

It absolutely does depend on where you live. Maybe not so many in the Cotswolds or Falmouth as there are in Small Heath, Birmingham.

Beachforever · 21/05/2026 14:36

quantumbutterfly · 21/05/2026 14:34

So no face covering....

Not yet anyway! But my point is that women do choose to wear these clothes. Just because we don’t understand it, that doesn’t mean it’s oppression.

But I was also replying to a lot of the PP who were saying that even the hijab is a form of oppression.

Jane379 · 21/05/2026 14:36

NoGarlic · 21/05/2026 06:47

This is the sort of thing that has be researched and considered before passing laws. You and I can't realistically assess the balance of interests.

Should our legal system pander to the illegal actions of abusive men? Probably not.

What groups may benefit from a ban, and how? I can think of deaf people who lip-read. There will be other considerations that I haven't thought of, and then the relative balance has to be assessed.

This, definitely. I feel like online at least, quite a few people call for a ban with a vague belief that it will help women or promote integration : hopefully yes, but it needs to be considered properly.

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Sartre · 21/05/2026 14:35

Manchegomango · 21/05/2026 12:35

Judaism poses no threat to western society.
Hence the term Judeo-Christian

I think you need a lesson in both history AND theology. All three of the main religions originated in the Middle East so ALL are “foreign” to the UK in equal measure. Christianity grew out of Judaism and they broadly share similar beliefs as a result.

“Judeo Christian” as a term gained prominence in the US in the 30s basically as a way to fight fascism. They’re ALL Abrahamic and monotheistic religions and Islam shares many similarities, including respect for Jesus and they share many morals.

quantumbutterfly · 21/05/2026 14:34

Beachforever · 21/05/2026 14:26

A beautiful Italian lady that works for me has married an Indian Muslim man and has adopted the hijab and abaya. Her husband didn’t make her, he doesn’t care one way or another.

She has chosen to do it and she is converting from Catholicism to Islam out of free choice as she has said that a lot of the religion resonates with her.

She is enjoying wearing the hijab/abaya and has loved not being subject to the male gaze.

In our team we’ve quizzed her a lot about this as it’s such a radical change for her but she is very happy. It’s not something I could see myself doing, but each to their own.

So no face covering....

pointythings · 21/05/2026 14:29

Sartre · 21/05/2026 14:27

And Christianity…

Agree - if we want homegrown religion we need to go back to paganism, with KC as Chief Druid.

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