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AIBU to feel frustrated about future inheritance when money is tight now?

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Giraffeowlllama · 20/05/2026 15:53

Vent rather than aibu.
Just been out for lunch with my dm. It was lovely she always insists on paying.
Her card was declined as she forgot her pin so I paid around £100. Restaurant didn't take cash.
Unfortunately/ fortunately this was about all I had in my bank account ( get paid on Friday)We then went and she took cash out for me.
All good. She knows things are tight for me. She asked me to check her balance. I was shocked just over £50k!
She had spent lunch telling me she's updated her will as an only child I'll inherit most- I dont really like talking about death.
The thing is I'm 50, in rented accommodation with disabled dh, 2 dds and work full time. I can just pay for everything but it's tight.
It just seems mad that help now would really change my life rather than in 10 odd years.
Its not a moan about inheritance just a moan. We moved here to their town so I can support them as they get older but it does sometimes feel like a 'kick in the teeth' ( if that's the right expression) when we are struggling and only in this location to help.

Sorry vent over

OP posts:
rubyslippers · 20/05/2026 16:05

You say help them - is you dad still around?

rubyslippers · 20/05/2026 16:04

£50k
is she retired? Is that all she has because if it is and she’s not working it won’t last long

MidnightPatrol · 20/05/2026 16:01

A) it’s her money

B) she may need it for her own living costs.

£50k isn’t a lot of money in the grand scheme of the gs, given she can’t really work.

She needs to look out for herself too.

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