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To charge back my card? (Hairdresser).

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Tidalwaver · 20/05/2026 15:45

Booked hairdresser for 2pm for a full head of colour (dark brown/black) and a cut and blow dry. I realised at half 12, she’d emailed me at 11am asking if I could come in any earlier. I emailed back and said earliest I could go in was 1, which she said was fine. I’ve been to her before and she’s always been fine.

Get there and she’s incredibly short with me. Seems pissed off that I didn’t come in earlier and she’s been “waiting around all morning” even though I booked a 2pm appointment. Doesn’t offer a tea or coffee or anything and slaps on the colour. Leaves it for 25 minutes, then starts saying she may not have time now to do a full blow dry as she’s busy but could blast it with the hairdryer. I’m annoyed and sense tension but say fine. She then proceeds as she’s washing it to say actually she may not have time at all, and as I’m only going home after can only towel dry it. We weren’t even at my original appointment time yet.

She then cuts it quickly, just the ends and not my usual layers and when I mention it again she says about time. Things are getting tense and I’m getting tearful. (7 months pregnant too). She then wraps my hair in a paper towel and says that I’m finished and I look at her gone out.

She says sorry needs the chair back for next client. I say fine whatever, get up and leave. Issue is I’ve booked through Fresha and they’ve taken the full amount from my card. I emailed the salon once I’ve got out and processed everything and they’re point blank refusing a refund even though I got barely a cut and absolutely no blow dry.

i won’t be going there again but can/would you request a bank charge back? Paid by debit card and it was £85😭 im so upset, money is tight anyway and this was suppose to be a birthday treat.

OP posts:
Farmwifefarmlife · 21/05/2026 17:29

I’d contact her directly and say you are not happy with the service and would like % back as you didn’t get the full time or blow dry. If she refuses I’d be leaving her a bad review on social media / google!

Fountinbeach · 21/05/2026 17:27

That is a small claims court issue.
That is disgraceful behaviour.

Butterme · 21/05/2026 17:23

TalulahJP · 20/05/2026 21:20

i’d still email her and say i paid for an appointment at 2pm for xyz and you were the one who asked me to come in early and then complained you didnt have time to do what i had paid for. perhaps you got confused. im just raising this because i’m really disappointed that i paid the full amount and only got half of what i’d paid for. Before i take this matter further i wanted to give you the opportunity
to refund me. i look forward to hearing from you.

I would do this and add about giving a bad review.

I had similar and had to get it through my bank.
If I remember correctly you had to show proof that you tried getting the money back from them and I had an email - I don’t know if I had to show the proof or just type what proof I had.

I’d love to know what area this was as it sounds really similar to my experience.

Casperroonie · 21/05/2026 17:20

Tidalwaver · 20/05/2026 18:41

It’s never been like that before nor has she so I think I was a bit bewildered and confused to start with and things kept changing, one minute it was I’ll blow dry it and then it was, I can’t but will blast quick with the hairdryer and then it was ah I’ll just towel dry it. As soon as I was in the seat she did the quickest cut and then was unhooking my over cover thing and telling me she needed the chair.

I was barely there 40 minutes and 25 of that I’d say was hair developing (not really long enough), 5 minutes of hair washing and then 15 minutes of absolute weirdness. I’m also quite tearful at the moment, tired and it wasn’t really until I suddenly sat in my car with wet hair I thought what the hell just happened?!

Edited

I'd keep pushing. Contact trading standards. Bet she'll refund then....

RollOnSunshine · 21/05/2026 17:19

Tidalwaver · 20/05/2026 16:08

Got an email back from the salon owner to say that as she rents a chair, it’s at her discretion to refund and on this occasion she won’t. That they don’t handle payments etc and it goes to each person who rents a chair. Such a nightmare.

Leave a very well written Google review saying what happened and the manager refused to refund. Then ask for a charge back on your card. Obviously never visit that salon again.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 21/05/2026 09:49

I’d request a full refund. Sounds as if the colour wasn’t done properly too. That’s shocking behaviour from her, really rude. The salon wasn’t much better as they let her behave in this way and didn’t say anything. Name and shame her in reviews.

TalulahJP · 20/05/2026 21:20

i’d still email her and say i paid for an appointment at 2pm for xyz and you were the one who asked me to come in early and then complained you didnt have time to do what i had paid for. perhaps you got confused. im just raising this because i’m really disappointed that i paid the full amount and only got half of what i’d paid for. Before i take this matter further i wanted to give you the opportunity
to refund me. i look forward to hearing from you.

paddleboardingmum · 20/05/2026 21:05

That's shocking treatment OP and wasn't the treat you wanted or deserved. YANBU. I hope you get the money back and can do something nice with it just for you.

Friendlygingercat · 20/05/2026 20:42

Im assuming Fresha operate as a payment processor similar to Paypal and Stripe whereby customers can use a variety of payment methods. OP has done her best to resolve the matter with the supplier and now has proof in the form of emails that she did so. The next logical step is a complaint to the card provider whereby she only recieved a part of the service she was charged for. I would then leave negative but factual reviews, keeping emotions out of it.

momager22 · 20/05/2026 20:16

I’d be leaving reviews all over Fresha and Google, naming the stylist

AngelaBB · 20/05/2026 20:16

Give her a poor review and maybe mention what’s happened in a Facebook post. It’s really not good enough.

Brideofclover · 20/05/2026 20:11

Tidalwaver · 20/05/2026 16:34

I’ve been researching and think that’s right. They take payment on behalf but can’t refund it and have no dispute service! Seems dodgy but true 😰

How did you pay for it - through Fresha with your cc? Revolut? You request the charge back through them x (your bank)

Pumpkintopf · 20/05/2026 20:02

Appalling service! How is your hair?

MummyWillow1 · 20/05/2026 19:46

You will need to provide proof to the bank that you have tried to resolve the issue with the service provider so make sure your emails are factual and objective.

State what would be a reasonable resolution (eg 50% refund given she did do the colour) and then you can send all the evidence to the bank.

GinandGingerBeer · 20/05/2026 18:51

Definitely do a charge back. It’s really easy to do and it was really quick when I did one recently. Sorry you had to go through that. She should have just cancelled and apologised if she’d cocked up and over booked herself.

Ileithyia · 20/05/2026 18:51

So, she double booked herself, asked you to come in earlier by email (instead of a phone call) and then provides you with barely half the service you’ve paid for. I’m assuming the booking on Fresha details what you booked, and you can also use the emails as proof she altered the booking, not you? If she hasn’t provided you with the service you booked and paid for, isn’t this breach of contract and something Trading Standards could help you with?

Frostynoman · 20/05/2026 18:45

I would still raise an issue with your card provider. You paid for a service you didn’t receive

Tidalwaver · 20/05/2026 18:41

It’s never been like that before nor has she so I think I was a bit bewildered and confused to start with and things kept changing, one minute it was I’ll blow dry it and then it was, I can’t but will blast quick with the hairdryer and then it was ah I’ll just towel dry it. As soon as I was in the seat she did the quickest cut and then was unhooking my over cover thing and telling me she needed the chair.

I was barely there 40 minutes and 25 of that I’d say was hair developing (not really long enough), 5 minutes of hair washing and then 15 minutes of absolute weirdness. I’m also quite tearful at the moment, tired and it wasn’t really until I suddenly sat in my car with wet hair I thought what the hell just happened?!

OP posts:
Anyahyacinth · 20/05/2026 18:26

Tidalwaver · 20/05/2026 16:08

Got an email back from the salon owner to say that as she rents a chair, it’s at her discretion to refund and on this occasion she won’t. That they don’t handle payments etc and it goes to each person who rents a chair. Such a nightmare.

💯 % chargeback Sorry OP 💐

Delphiniumandlupins · 20/05/2026 18:04

Presumably OP didn't realise that she was going to receive such shoddy service until she received it. She wouldn't know if colour has taken properly until her hair is dry. She didn't know they were going to inadequately cut her hair and rush her out with wet hair, even if the stylist was muttering about time.

I would absolutely charge back, and maybe pay something for the colour if that is OK. Although, their refusal to consider a refund might make me less generous.

historyismything82 · 20/05/2026 17:57

Deffo chargeback, OP. They have behaved appallingly. Horrible way to treat a customer.

teawamutu · 20/05/2026 17:51

Concurring with the 'chargeback and shitty reviews' school of thought.

Killieween · 20/05/2026 17:46

You still dispute it to your own card provider and they will do the rest, the person who receives the money will get notification and have to respond within a certain number of days before you get the refund! I absolutely would as that is awful customer service and the fact she didn’t seem to care I would hit her where it’s hard, the pocket! I could be wrong but I am sure you can ask for partial refund so possibly just the cut/blow dry elements! It’s so bad she didn’t dry it so obviously not checked the cut she did do is even!

VIII · 20/05/2026 17:42

DeftGoldHedgehog · 20/05/2026 16:55

I'm a lawyer and even I don't necessarily complain when someone is wafting scissors or chemicals around my hair. It can be very awkward in a salon!

Indeed and that's without being 7 months pregnant. It's very easy for someone to say they wouldn't stand for that behaviour when they are not the one in the situation.

Nn9011 · 20/05/2026 17:36

Tidalwaver · 20/05/2026 16:34

I’ve been researching and think that’s right. They take payment on behalf but can’t refund it and have no dispute service! Seems dodgy but true 😰

This doesn't matter, go through your bank and state that it's serviced not as described. Even though fresha take the payment, they have a responsibility to ensure it is taken accurately. 3rd party merchants can still be disputed.
Make sure you are factual - it was 85 for these services xyz, you only got services ABC and they were not to standard as expected. You contacted and they refused a refund.

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