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To charge back my card? (Hairdresser).

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Tidalwaver · 20/05/2026 15:45

Booked hairdresser for 2pm for a full head of colour (dark brown/black) and a cut and blow dry. I realised at half 12, she’d emailed me at 11am asking if I could come in any earlier. I emailed back and said earliest I could go in was 1, which she said was fine. I’ve been to her before and she’s always been fine.

Get there and she’s incredibly short with me. Seems pissed off that I didn’t come in earlier and she’s been “waiting around all morning” even though I booked a 2pm appointment. Doesn’t offer a tea or coffee or anything and slaps on the colour. Leaves it for 25 minutes, then starts saying she may not have time now to do a full blow dry as she’s busy but could blast it with the hairdryer. I’m annoyed and sense tension but say fine. She then proceeds as she’s washing it to say actually she may not have time at all, and as I’m only going home after can only towel dry it. We weren’t even at my original appointment time yet.

She then cuts it quickly, just the ends and not my usual layers and when I mention it again she says about time. Things are getting tense and I’m getting tearful. (7 months pregnant too). She then wraps my hair in a paper towel and says that I’m finished and I look at her gone out.

She says sorry needs the chair back for next client. I say fine whatever, get up and leave. Issue is I’ve booked through Fresha and they’ve taken the full amount from my card. I emailed the salon once I’ve got out and processed everything and they’re point blank refusing a refund even though I got barely a cut and absolutely no blow dry.

i won’t be going there again but can/would you request a bank charge back? Paid by debit card and it was £85😭 im so upset, money is tight anyway and this was suppose to be a birthday treat.

OP posts:
Droplet789 · 22/05/2026 09:13

If she rents a chair the refund will have to come
from her. Did you take pictures when you left the salon? I’d email the hairdresser individually and ask her to refund and email
fresha. If that doesn’t work I’d do a charge back as you don’t get the service you paid for.

if you leave reviews personally name her as she only rents a chair she will just move and the bad review stays with the salon

bittertwisted · 22/05/2026 09:11

Sensiblesal · 22/05/2026 01:00

You are asking mumsnet if you should commit fraud.

no you should not charge back.

being unhappy with what you paid for is not a reason to juat do a charge back.

actually ridiculous

I worked for 5 years designing fraud and dispute systems
this a service not received dispute
even if visa or Mastercard reject the dispute she is not committing fraud because she acts in good faith, attempted to resolve and has evidence

please return to tell me where the fraud is

Takemytimeandhurryup · 22/05/2026 09:08

Did you pay through Fresha? I've never used it so I know you booked with them but did they take the payment?

RumPidgeon · 22/05/2026 09:04

How awful and a disgusting way to treat any client. I’d advise a charge back and would also leave a review to warn others off her „services“.

Girlwithavibe · 22/05/2026 08:43

Tidalwaver · 20/05/2026 18:41

It’s never been like that before nor has she so I think I was a bit bewildered and confused to start with and things kept changing, one minute it was I’ll blow dry it and then it was, I can’t but will blast quick with the hairdryer and then it was ah I’ll just towel dry it. As soon as I was in the seat she did the quickest cut and then was unhooking my over cover thing and telling me she needed the chair.

I was barely there 40 minutes and 25 of that I’d say was hair developing (not really long enough), 5 minutes of hair washing and then 15 minutes of absolute weirdness. I’m also quite tearful at the moment, tired and it wasn’t really until I suddenly sat in my car with wet hair I thought what the hell just happened?!

Edited

That's very odd !
I'm a stylist and if I had asked a client to change times and they couldn't that is not their fault !!
I wouldn't do this anyway I find it very unprofessional people have other commitments and they book their appointments to the own timetable !
I would imagine if she rents a chair she had a cancellation in the morning and tried to get u in super early then rebooked her afternoon appointments so she wasn't losing any money that day because u couldn't do what she had planned she took that out on you I find that appalling and I would ring your bank and get that payment back however u do it ! Then I would let her know why I did it !

Cdu · 22/05/2026 08:39

Tidalwaver · 20/05/2026 15:45

Booked hairdresser for 2pm for a full head of colour (dark brown/black) and a cut and blow dry. I realised at half 12, she’d emailed me at 11am asking if I could come in any earlier. I emailed back and said earliest I could go in was 1, which she said was fine. I’ve been to her before and she’s always been fine.

Get there and she’s incredibly short with me. Seems pissed off that I didn’t come in earlier and she’s been “waiting around all morning” even though I booked a 2pm appointment. Doesn’t offer a tea or coffee or anything and slaps on the colour. Leaves it for 25 minutes, then starts saying she may not have time now to do a full blow dry as she’s busy but could blast it with the hairdryer. I’m annoyed and sense tension but say fine. She then proceeds as she’s washing it to say actually she may not have time at all, and as I’m only going home after can only towel dry it. We weren’t even at my original appointment time yet.

She then cuts it quickly, just the ends and not my usual layers and when I mention it again she says about time. Things are getting tense and I’m getting tearful. (7 months pregnant too). She then wraps my hair in a paper towel and says that I’m finished and I look at her gone out.

She says sorry needs the chair back for next client. I say fine whatever, get up and leave. Issue is I’ve booked through Fresha and they’ve taken the full amount from my card. I emailed the salon once I’ve got out and processed everything and they’re point blank refusing a refund even though I got barely a cut and absolutely no blow dry.

i won’t be going there again but can/would you request a bank charge back? Paid by debit card and it was £85😭 im so upset, money is tight anyway and this was suppose to be a birthday treat.

I agree with other respondent, send an email explaining factually what happened and then how you were made to feel...

Did you take any photos when you left/were left? I would add that to the email.

See how they respond and give them 24 hours to respond. Maybe something terrible was going on in the background of the hairdressers life. I would take my decision based on their response

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 22/05/2026 08:25

NameChangeMay2026 · 22/05/2026 00:19

She did get the colour, but not the blow-dry, and only a glancing cut, which is much less thorough than she usually has.

Edited

The colour she said she wasn’t sure if it was left on enough. She did not get the layered cut she wanted, nor the blow dry.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 22/05/2026 08:24

Fatnearlyslim · 22/05/2026 04:37

A few years ago I went to my usual hairdressers, I book in advance
anyway after the colour & cut she said can the junior dry your hair I’m really busy
I said yes
then a lady promptly sat down and said
‘thanks for fitting me in’
i didn’t return to that hairdressers again.

I had similar with an avant garde hairdressers I used to go to in Spitalfields. A local business owner was going to an event so she was fitted in at the same time to me. I did go back but I was a bit pissed off.

Ethelspagetti · 22/05/2026 08:14

It’s good you have this email from the salon as the bank will ask you to forward this, to prove you tried to get a refund. Explain in the charge back form what service you booked for and what you didn’t get. You will get your money back as they didn’t give you the service you paid for.

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Dogmum74 · 22/05/2026 07:08

Tidalwaver · 20/05/2026 16:08

Got an email back from the salon owner to say that as she rents a chair, it’s at her discretion to refund and on this occasion she won’t. That they don’t handle payments etc and it goes to each person who rents a chair. Such a nightmare.

I would 1) absolutely do a chargeback yes and if that doesn’t work 2) contact the salon owner and say you don’t care if she rents a chair, it is their salon and if a refund is not given it will be the salon getting a bad review. I would then contact the hairdresser herself and say that if she doesn’t assist in the refund then you will be taking her to small claims court to get your money back. Clearly state the reasons why and provide her with the evidence.
There is no way no how I would be letting this go

EsmeSusanOgg · 22/05/2026 06:53

Sensiblesal · 22/05/2026 01:00

You are asking mumsnet if you should commit fraud.

no you should not charge back.

being unhappy with what you paid for is not a reason to juat do a charge back.

actually ridiculous

This is not fraud. She has not received the goods or services she paid for and is entitled to a refund under the Consumer Rights Act 2015 (before this Sale and Goods Act would also have covered a refund given the circumstances).

Salon and hairdresser are clearly in breach of consumer legislation here. If they will not act, she has additional protections to raise a dispute with her card provider (request a charge back on debit, or S75 for credit card).

EsmeSusanOgg · 22/05/2026 06:50

Tidalwaver · 20/05/2026 18:41

It’s never been like that before nor has she so I think I was a bit bewildered and confused to start with and things kept changing, one minute it was I’ll blow dry it and then it was, I can’t but will blast quick with the hairdryer and then it was ah I’ll just towel dry it. As soon as I was in the seat she did the quickest cut and then was unhooking my over cover thing and telling me she needed the chair.

I was barely there 40 minutes and 25 of that I’d say was hair developing (not really long enough), 5 minutes of hair washing and then 15 minutes of absolute weirdness. I’m also quite tearful at the moment, tired and it wasn’t really until I suddenly sat in my car with wet hair I thought what the hell just happened?!

Edited

You need to follow up the email and be clear that you did not get what you paid for. Outline the original appointment time. What the appointment was for. What happened. Explain you have not received the service you paid for/ service was not for for service and a refund is due under the Consumer Rights Act 2015.

Do you have pictures of you with wet hair in a paper towel? If so. Add these.

See what they reply. They either refund, or you have enough papertrail to be successful in a bank charge back.

I would also leave reviews of the salon literally everywhere. Talk about your experience as you have done here. Also talk about the response from the salon owner.

Witchonenowbob · 22/05/2026 06:42

NameChangeMay2026 · 22/05/2026 06:40

Did you even read it? She did NOT get what she paid for. She paid for colour, cut, and blowdry, but only received the colour and a slight dusting off the ends. She did NOT get the blowdry or a haircut.

And the colour was given insufficient time to develop!

NameChangeMay2026 · 22/05/2026 06:40

Sensiblesal · 22/05/2026 01:00

You are asking mumsnet if you should commit fraud.

no you should not charge back.

being unhappy with what you paid for is not a reason to juat do a charge back.

actually ridiculous

Did you even read it? She did NOT get what she paid for. She paid for colour, cut, and blowdry, but only received the colour and a slight dusting off the ends. She did NOT get the blowdry or a haircut.

Witchonenowbob · 22/05/2026 06:23

Sensiblesal · 22/05/2026 01:00

You are asking mumsnet if you should commit fraud.

no you should not charge back.

being unhappy with what you paid for is not a reason to juat do a charge back.

actually ridiculous

Fraud 😆😆😆😆

VIII · 22/05/2026 05:56

Sensiblesal · 22/05/2026 01:00

You are asking mumsnet if you should commit fraud.

no you should not charge back.

being unhappy with what you paid for is not a reason to juat do a charge back.

actually ridiculous

Fraud? Gosh posters on here can be ridiculous at times but to accuse someone of committing fraud is quite a new low. Did you read the thread...

Op please ignore such nonsensical replies.

Fatnearlyslim · 22/05/2026 04:37

A few years ago I went to my usual hairdressers, I book in advance
anyway after the colour & cut she said can the junior dry your hair I’m really busy
I said yes
then a lady promptly sat down and said
‘thanks for fitting me in’
i didn’t return to that hairdressers again.

Namesuggestion101 · 22/05/2026 04:27

What a cow. Email the manager, get in touch with trading standards and write a thorough review.

Crushed23 · 22/05/2026 04:26

I’d book her again directly (not through Fresha) in a few weeks then not show up. If they ask for card details on booking, give old card details / promptly cancel the card after you make the booking.

Yes, I would be that petty.

Sensiblesal · 22/05/2026 01:00

You are asking mumsnet if you should commit fraud.

no you should not charge back.

being unhappy with what you paid for is not a reason to juat do a charge back.

actually ridiculous

nevernotmaybe · 22/05/2026 00:52

You can, after making sure you have taken all the procedures they have for complaining.

Remember this doesn't mean you are owed the money even if you get the money back using chargeback, this is something people often dont understand and think it means they deserved the money.

A civil dispute between you still exists, and they can try and go to court to get the money back etc. You would probably win, they probably wouldn't even bother. Just pointing out it is a possible outcome though.

NameChangeMay2026 · 22/05/2026 00:19

VIII · 21/05/2026 20:57

It might have been if she had actually received a colour, cut or blow-dry however unfortunately the poor OP got none of the above.

Hopefully you've issued a charge back Tidalwaver and you've located a new hairdresser who can fix your hair before baby arrives. Flowers

She did get the colour, but not the blow-dry, and only a glancing cut, which is much less thorough than she usually has.

NameChangeMay2026 · 22/05/2026 00:16

That's all extremely weird, OP. If she's usually good and you have a long-ish relationship with her, I would really be questioning if she had something dreadful going on on her personal life. Like, she couldn't take you at 2 because she found out her teenager had to appear in court at 2.30. Or got an urgent callback from a mammogram. Or something.

It seems like there's no recourse for a refund (VERY annoying!) so I think your best best is to talk to her. You could do it via message, so she's not put on the spot.

"Hi Kate! How are you? Hope all's well. I noticed you didn't seem quite like yourself at our planned 2pm the other day, and I wondered if all's well with you? It's not like you to rush through an appointment and not do a blowdry, and only cut my ends. I'm sorry I didn't see your message about coming in at 11 earlier. I'm guessing you had a crisis of some sort which meant you couldn't do 2pm. Anyway, I hope things are OK at your end. Let me know if I can do anything to help. Love, Tidalwaver."

You catch more bees with honey rather than vinegar. If she values your business at all, she'll probably invite you for a blowdry and a more thorough cut.

It does sound as if she had something happen that made her freak out and act in an unusual manner.

And if you get the brush-off after sending that, at least you know to just get another hairdresser!

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