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Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:02

I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

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Walkingroundincircle22 · 20/05/2026 21:47

LeaderBee · 20/05/2026 19:43

Yes, i am aware the gender pay gap is supposedly there because of the disparity where women take time off for maternity and child care, not that women are actually paid less. However those are life choices so im not sure why you think there is a gap...or are you advocating to be paid more for doing less work?

What an ignorant post. Men make these 'life choices' too. Yet they don't forfeit pension contributions, lose out on promotions, earn less bevause of leave, pay more student loan interest because it continues while on mat leave (i don't expect you went to uni to understand).

Good luck to you. If you find yourself divorced one day, you'll see things very differently when you realise how much you 'lost' financially by being a women, or more if you are a mother.

And we thought misogyny was only men.

shuggles · 20/05/2026 21:47

OFiddleDeeDee · 20/05/2026 21:43

This post is giving someone bitter about not being picked by the popular guy at work who is married...

I'm a man who is not seeking a relationship.

Passingthrough123 · 20/05/2026 21:47

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:46

Wow that’s amazing that that poster has just so happened to date all the men that make up the very numerous crime and sex abuse stats. How very unlucky for her!

She's the one conflating that all men are shit and rapists with the fact she's fed up with her DP and her ex was crap too.

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 21:46

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 21:42

You can be both?

you can be depressed about not being a Stepford Wife AND celebrating being house chores free and rushing to spend all your free time with your friends?
No, you really can't 😂

shuggles · 20/05/2026 21:46

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:42

92 people (male and female) were killed at work in the last reporting year.

252 women died in childbirth from 2022-2024.

Is this an argument you think you’re winning?

There are about 400,000 cancer cases in the UK each year.

About 4% are occupational.

Men account for 80 - 90% of those.

Also, if I was a woman, I could choose not to get pregnant, or not continue with a pregnancy... on the other hand, everyone needs a job.

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:46

Passingthrough123 · 20/05/2026 21:44

I'm fast coming to the conclusion that it's not all men, it's just the men you've been in relationships with.

My partner is a primary school teacher who works bloody long and exhausting hours but is perfectly capable of coming home and cooking dinner and helping with chores, as he did this evening. In fact, he's just gone upstairs to hang out the load of laundry that he sorted out and put on earlier, because I hate handling wet clothes (it gives me the ick). Meanwhile, I'm downstairs watching the Villa game. Go figure.

So yes, some men are twats. Particularly yours by the sound of things.

Wow that’s amazing that that poster has just so happened to date all the men that make up the very numerous crime and sex abuse stats. How very unlucky for her!

Passingthrough123 · 20/05/2026 21:44

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 21:37

I think men feel powerless at the moment.

They are no longer the breadwinner for many families. They no longer outearn their partners. It must be humiliating to do a full day at work, feel knackered whilst your partner has done a full day, the school run, dinners, cleaning.. oh and still finds time to look after themselves, and talk to family and friends. Why are men incapable of any of that? As a species they have not evolved and I've had enough. My partner said to me the other day, the babies nails are getting a bit sharp havent you cut them?? I looked at him and said yes I will do it but is it purely my job are you incapable??? Oh, erm, ehh, I djdnt mean that. Of course you didnt. Twat.

I'm fast coming to the conclusion that it's not all men, it's just the men you've been in relationships with.

My partner is a primary school teacher who works bloody long and exhausting hours but is perfectly capable of coming home and cooking dinner and helping with chores, as he did this evening. In fact, he's just gone upstairs to hang out the load of laundry that he sorted out and put on earlier, because I hate handling wet clothes (it gives me the ick). Meanwhile, I'm downstairs watching the Villa game. Go figure.

So yes, some men are twats. Particularly yours by the sound of things.

ImFinePMSL · 20/05/2026 21:44

shuggles · 20/05/2026 21:34

@ImFinePMSL Because they can usually sniff out incredibly vulnerable and insecure women who are desperate for love, affection and “protection”.

So why do those same women not go after a normal man for a relationship? Given the vast number of single men there are, and how easy it is to find a man who is looking for a relationship.

When you say “normal” man, do you mean a man that doesn’t commit crimes?

OFiddleDeeDee · 20/05/2026 21:43

shuggles · 20/05/2026 21:37

No, normal single men are extremely common and easy to find... weird that you don't see that.

This post is giving someone bitter about not being picked by the popular guy at work who is married...

Goldenbear · 20/05/2026 21:43

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 21:37

I think men feel powerless at the moment.

They are no longer the breadwinner for many families. They no longer outearn their partners. It must be humiliating to do a full day at work, feel knackered whilst your partner has done a full day, the school run, dinners, cleaning.. oh and still finds time to look after themselves, and talk to family and friends. Why are men incapable of any of that? As a species they have not evolved and I've had enough. My partner said to me the other day, the babies nails are getting a bit sharp havent you cut them?? I looked at him and said yes I will do it but is it purely my job are you incapable??? Oh, erm, ehh, I djdnt mean that. Of course you didnt. Twat.

I thought you stated you had a good man at the start of the thread because of course you have!!

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:43

shuggles · 20/05/2026 21:42

The data does not support what you are saying. On dating platforms, men massively outnumber women.

You’ve made my point perfectly

Walkingroundincircle22 · 20/05/2026 21:43

MyArtfulGreySloth · 20/05/2026 15:04

Mine too but we must just be lucky. It’s not ALL men, but it’s most of them.

Great line! This is what men should be aware of, 'No, it's not all men, but it is most of them.'

I had a 'good guy' ex husband, until he wasn't.

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:42

shuggles · 20/05/2026 21:36

Oil rig workers, miners, sewage workers, bin men, chemical industries, construction.

All jobs that involve a high risk of occupational illness and/or death. Risks that do not exist with wiping arses or bathing elderly people.

92 people (male and female) were killed at work in the last reporting year.

252 women died in childbirth from 2022-2024.

Is this an argument you think you’re winning?

shuggles · 20/05/2026 21:42

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:38

Are they really 😂 is this why every single woman I know describes dating as one would a zombie apocalypse

The data does not support what you are saying. On dating platforms, men massively outnumber women.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 21:42

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 21:41

I thought men were priding themselves of having no role in the house chores, using their efficient wife to disappear every evening and weekend to do their "hobby" and go away with their mates? Are we on the same forum? 😂

Come on, pick one. Are they powerless, or lazy? Can't be both 😂

You can be both?

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shuggles · 20/05/2026 21:42

@LavenderSkiesxo I think men feel powerless at the moment.
They are no longer the breadwinner for many families. They no longer outearn their partners. It must be humiliating to do a full day at work, feel knackered whilst your partner has done a full day, the school run, dinners, cleaning.. oh and still finds time to look after themselves, and talk to family and friends.

Agreed. This is why a fundamental restructuring of society is needed.

Men no longer have a sense of purpose. As a man you can study hard and avoid dating, and ultimately you won't get anywhere because the job market is shit and favours people who have better interpersonal skills, rather than the most hardworking people. Without work, there is no meaning in a man's life.

Now women can also face career difficulties... but at least as a woman, you can find meaning in friendships and building a family. Men don't have access to friendships.

The fact that there is no longer any purpose or meaning in men's lives may mean we are sitting on a time bomb that may have some very negative consequences in a few decade's time (and no, women will not benefit).

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 21:41

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 21:37

I think men feel powerless at the moment.

They are no longer the breadwinner for many families. They no longer outearn their partners. It must be humiliating to do a full day at work, feel knackered whilst your partner has done a full day, the school run, dinners, cleaning.. oh and still finds time to look after themselves, and talk to family and friends. Why are men incapable of any of that? As a species they have not evolved and I've had enough. My partner said to me the other day, the babies nails are getting a bit sharp havent you cut them?? I looked at him and said yes I will do it but is it purely my job are you incapable??? Oh, erm, ehh, I djdnt mean that. Of course you didnt. Twat.

I thought men were priding themselves of having no role in the house chores, using their efficient wife to disappear every evening and weekend to do their "hobby" and go away with their mates? Are we on the same forum? 😂

Come on, pick one. Are they powerless, or lazy? Can't be both 😂

Zippidydoodah · 20/05/2026 21:40

LeaderBee · 20/05/2026 15:15

The thing you are forgetting here is not that it is men doing this but penis owners - there's a slight difference in that if you had one, you'd find it more convenient to piss on the street if you could discreetly pull out a little hose and have a piss in a couple of seconds instead of having to pull your entire set of pants and trousers down and squat somewhere while you try not to fall over into a puddle of your own urine.

It's because it's convenient, not because its men.

😆😆😆

”pull out a little hose!”

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:38

shuggles · 20/05/2026 21:37

No, normal single men are extremely common and easy to find... weird that you don't see that.

Are they really 😂 is this why every single woman I know describes dating as one would a zombie apocalypse

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 21:37

Creali · 20/05/2026 21:37

The tables have turned.

Men earn money to assist them in finding a suitable spouse.

Women earn money to ensure they don’t need a man.

I think that says it all really.

Yes yes yes

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shuggles · 20/05/2026 21:37

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:34

So few normal men, probably.

No, normal single men are extremely common and easy to find... weird that you don't see that.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 21:37

I think men feel powerless at the moment.

They are no longer the breadwinner for many families. They no longer outearn their partners. It must be humiliating to do a full day at work, feel knackered whilst your partner has done a full day, the school run, dinners, cleaning.. oh and still finds time to look after themselves, and talk to family and friends. Why are men incapable of any of that? As a species they have not evolved and I've had enough. My partner said to me the other day, the babies nails are getting a bit sharp havent you cut them?? I looked at him and said yes I will do it but is it purely my job are you incapable??? Oh, erm, ehh, I djdnt mean that. Of course you didnt. Twat.

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Creali · 20/05/2026 21:37

The tables have turned.

Men earn money to assist them in finding a suitable spouse.

Women earn money to ensure they don’t need a man.

I think that says it all really.

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 21:37

CombatBarbie · 20/05/2026 21:34

Yes......

Okay, no problem, Red Adair...😆

shuggles · 20/05/2026 21:36

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:33

What job are you referring to? Be specific then.

Oil rig workers, miners, sewage workers, bin men, chemical industries, construction.

All jobs that involve a high risk of occupational illness and/or death. Risks that do not exist with wiping arses or bathing elderly people.