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Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:02

I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

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TriesNotToBeCynical · 20/05/2026 22:27

TriesNotToBeCynical · 20/05/2026 22:21

It may not be a job, but it is a socially essential task!

Edit; wrong thread, sorry

TriesNotToBeCynical · 20/05/2026 22:21

Pigeonatthewheel · 20/05/2026 22:04

A quick Google would suggest that 95% of those killed at work were male. What have women who died in childbirth got to do with an argument (you claim to be winning) over whether women are significantly involved in ‘dirty jobs’ as defined by the poster shuggles. Giving birth is clearly not a job.

It may not be a job, but it is a socially essential task!

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 22:19

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 22:14

I mean you can simply halve the birth deaths to reach the same outcome. I assumed you were bright enough to do this.

Yes, I am, but you, of course, realise that some years are relatively quiet compared to other years for workplace fatalities. What happens if a plane crashes or an oil rig capsizes? The statistics would shoot up, or do those deaths not really matter?

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 22:19

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 22:14

I mean you can simply halve the birth deaths to reach the same outcome. I assumed you were bright enough to do this.

Skewing the numbers🤣🤣🤣🤣

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FernFaery · 20/05/2026 22:18

JumboJambo · 20/05/2026 22:16

Not sure that would help.

Edited

They would just talk about Rose West and ‘women being so entitled’

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 22:18

Passingthrough123 · 20/05/2026 22:15

I think most people are in the latter. We all know men are guilty of the worst crimes compared to women. It’s statistically borne out. But not all men are arseholes either, which seems to be OP’s overriding stance, clearly fuelled by her having a run of crap men as partners.

I think, given she can’t walk along the road safely at night or wear what she likes without ‘repercussions’ or go for a jog without obscenities being shouted out of a window, she’s very justified in feeling thoroughly fed up once in a while. I know I do.

Passingthrough123 · 20/05/2026 22:17

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 22:00

No, if my partner could do no wrong I would still think the same. He isnt swaying my opinion. Get a grip.

Sure he’s not. 🙄

JumboJambo · 20/05/2026 22:16

Ninapertree · 20/05/2026 19:19

We need an ama with men on here.

We can ask them questions like "why are you like that'

Not sure that would help.

Passingthrough123 · 20/05/2026 22:15

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 22:01

Nobody’s said all men are rapists, but basically all rapists are men.

I feel the posters on here are divided into 2 camps; those who ‘know some nice men, and women can be mean to me’ who are flatly ignoring very basic and overwhelming numerical evidence.

And those who acknowledge some men can be nice, and sometimes women can be mean, but accept the basic and very overwhelming numerical evidence.

I think most people are in the latter. We all know men are guilty of the worst crimes compared to women. It’s statistically borne out. But not all men are arseholes either, which seems to be OP’s overriding stance, clearly fuelled by her having a run of crap men as partners.

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 22:14

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 22:13

You've used the childbirth fatality statistics from three years, but deaths at work from only one year. Why are you skewing the numbers?

I mean you can simply halve the birth deaths to reach the same outcome. I assumed you were bright enough to do this.

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 22:13

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:42

92 people (male and female) were killed at work in the last reporting year.

252 women died in childbirth from 2022-2024.

Is this an argument you think you’re winning?

You've used the childbirth fatality statistics from three years, but deaths at work from only one year. Why are you skewing the numbers?

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 22:07

Pigeonatthewheel · 20/05/2026 22:04

A quick Google would suggest that 95% of those killed at work were male. What have women who died in childbirth got to do with an argument (you claim to be winning) over whether women are significantly involved in ‘dirty jobs’ as defined by the poster shuggles. Giving birth is clearly not a job.

Because you’re complaining that men are amazing for undertaking these risks, while totally oblivious to the fact women (most women!) take on risks every day by giving birth. Most men do not work in dangerous jobs.

Pigeonatthewheel · 20/05/2026 22:04

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:42

92 people (male and female) were killed at work in the last reporting year.

252 women died in childbirth from 2022-2024.

Is this an argument you think you’re winning?

A quick Google would suggest that 95% of those killed at work were male. What have women who died in childbirth got to do with an argument (you claim to be winning) over whether women are significantly involved in ‘dirty jobs’ as defined by the poster shuggles. Giving birth is clearly not a job.

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 22:01

Passingthrough123 · 20/05/2026 21:57

No, but it doesn't make all other men rapists and appalling human beings either.

OP's pissed off with her DP and her ex was no better and now she's started a thread lamenting how crap all men are and expects everyone to nod in agreement.

Nobody’s said all men are rapists, but basically all rapists are men.

I feel the posters on here are divided into 2 camps; those who ‘know some nice men, and women can be mean to me’ who are flatly ignoring very basic and overwhelming numerical evidence.

And those who acknowledge some men can be nice, and sometimes women can be mean, but accept the basic and very overwhelming numerical evidence.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 22:00

Passingthrough123 · 20/05/2026 21:57

No, but it doesn't make all other men rapists and appalling human beings either.

OP's pissed off with her DP and her ex was no better and now she's started a thread lamenting how crap all men are and expects everyone to nod in agreement.

No, if my partner could do no wrong I would still think the same. He isnt swaying my opinion. Get a grip.

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Waitingfordoggo · 20/05/2026 21:57

It tends to be men that kill women after a break-up, not the other way around. You could say many men don’t take break-ups well at all.

EDIT: attempted and failed to quote someone who was suggesting a poster hates men because she hadn’t taken a relationship break-up very well.

TheignT · 20/05/2026 21:57

Walkingroundincircle22 · 20/05/2026 21:47

What an ignorant post. Men make these 'life choices' too. Yet they don't forfeit pension contributions, lose out on promotions, earn less bevause of leave, pay more student loan interest because it continues while on mat leave (i don't expect you went to uni to understand).

Good luck to you. If you find yourself divorced one day, you'll see things very differently when you realise how much you 'lost' financially by being a women, or more if you are a mother.

And we thought misogyny was only men.

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No one is forcing you to take maternity leave. Personally I thought those months were worth the small difference in my pension. I was very good a my job so I still got the promotions. My employer paid for my studies but don't most people fail to pay off their student loans, they get written off for men and women.

shuggles · 20/05/2026 21:57

@ImFinePMSL Yep. That explains your ill-informed incel comment up above then. You blame women for not choosing the “nice guy”.

I don't think women should choose "nice guys."

I think that absolutely no one should be having a relationship with someone who has been convicted of murder or rape.

Passingthrough123 · 20/05/2026 21:57

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:55

So? That doesn’t make all other men amazing.

No, but it doesn't make all other men rapists and appalling human beings either.

OP's pissed off with her DP and her ex was no better and now she's started a thread lamenting how crap all men are and expects everyone to nod in agreement.

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:55

Passingthrough123 · 20/05/2026 21:47

She's the one conflating that all men are shit and rapists with the fact she's fed up with her DP and her ex was crap too.

So? That doesn’t make all other men amazing.

SallyAnnDrivesACar · 20/05/2026 21:54

Yet, it is women who give birth and raise these men.

Can't get my head around that.

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:54

shuggles · 20/05/2026 21:47

I'm a man who is not seeking a relationship.

Thank goodness.

spstchmu · 20/05/2026 21:53

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:46

I just wonder why we arent asking what is wrong with men collectively? So everyone who thinks im wrong. Do you honestly think men are fine and its "some" men. I take it when you are raising your daughters you wont be warning them about men?

I dont think youre wrong

ImFinePMSL · 20/05/2026 21:53

shuggles · 20/05/2026 21:47

I'm a man who is not seeking a relationship.

Ah! You’re a man!

Yep. That explains your ill-informed incel comment up above then.

You blame women for not choosing the “nice guy”.

Riveting.

TheignT · 20/05/2026 21:48

FernFaery · 20/05/2026 21:27

And men don’t do any caring duties such as wiping backsides and bathing elderly people do they? So the feeling is mutual.

They do in the dementia home my relative is in