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Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:02

I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 00:23

LavenderSkiesxo · 21/05/2026 00:19

Well, my autistic nephew is sensitive to some information. Someone swore around my baby and he wouldn't stop crying cause he thought she would now be bad. He also fixates on things and sometimes says things which are far removed from reality. Like he is making an apology song which he is going to send to companies and he hopes it'll be christmas number 1.

Then I am surprised you show such ignorance. A little research will help expand your mind

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In my head it’s a bit like the Bat Cave.

LavenderSkiesxo · 21/05/2026 00:22

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But that is the tag and its how they appear when they comment or post things? So whats funny?

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Well, my autistic nephew is sensitive to some information. Someone swore around my baby and he wouldn't stop crying cause he thought she would now be bad. He also fixates on things and sometimes says things which are far removed from reality. Like he is making an apology song which he is going to send to companies and he hopes it'll be christmas number 1.

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 00:16

LavenderSkiesxo · 21/05/2026 00:12

I am not! MN HQ please dont delete!
Dont delete because a few are offended

Well I think they may delete some of your more ‘interesting’ posts anyway as they broke talk guidelines 🤣

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LavenderSkiesxo · 21/05/2026 00:15

WerzMyHedAt · 21/05/2026 00:14

Can you imagine if men bled out of their willies for 7 days straight every single month, with the cramping and fatigue and everything else whilst being expected to look like a vision or be deemed unworthy.

Can. You. IMAGINE.

I am so, so done with 99.9999999% of men. Like.. DONE. Like, can't even be friends with them.

The other 0.0000000001%, whilst good and decent, will still never understand what it is to be a woman (and I don't just means periods) in a mans world. And besides, they are so rare that I am very unlikely to encounter one.

I'm 37, single, and just honestly done. (And , actually, feeling so glad to be done. Honestly you couldn't pay me to get involved with a guy now.)

Be careful sharing your opinion. I have been told I am insane and need professional help.

Xx

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WerzMyHedAt · 21/05/2026 00:14

Can you imagine if men bled out of their willies for 7 days straight every single month, with the cramping and fatigue and everything else whilst being expected to look like a vision or be deemed unworthy.

Can. You. IMAGINE.

I am so, so done with 99.9999999% of men. Like.. DONE. Like, can't even be friends with them.

The other 0.0000000001%, whilst good and decent, will still never understand what it is to be a woman (and I don't just means periods) in a mans world. And besides, they are so rare that I am very unlikely to encounter one.

I'm 37, single, and just honestly done. (And , actually, feeling so glad to be done. Honestly you couldn't pay me to get involved with a guy now.)

LavenderSkiesxo · 21/05/2026 00:12

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I am not! MN HQ please dont delete!
Dont delete because a few are offended

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LavenderSkiesxo · 21/05/2026 00:11

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Dont patronise. You clearly think you are better than me. A huge chip on your shoulder. I am sorry my autism comment offended. Not everything is about you, or your conditions. You can stop replying now.

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 00:09

LavenderSkiesxo · 21/05/2026 00:08

I didnt assume. I asked.

But why would you ask, then? Why would it occur to you?

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ThisCandidMintGoose · 21/05/2026 00:08

lornad00m · 20/05/2026 23:52

There's been no 'discussion.' It's blanket 'not my man' and whataboutism. As it usually is in these threads. I'm just offering an opinion. If that suggests I'm some raging misandrist, I can live with that.

as opposed to a blanket "MEN (as in, all men, any men from the age of what 10, 11?}

Who's generalising here? And you put everyone in the same basket and do huge generalisation, you tend to be proven completely wrong.

LavenderSkiesxo · 21/05/2026 00:08

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 00:04

So please explain why you assumed she was autistic? And what you think autism is. Because clarity would be great on this point.

I didnt assume. I asked.

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LavenderSkiesxo · 21/05/2026 00:07

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Not peoples just you.
Couldn't care less what others think of that boy. But youre making this very personal. Pick a lane babe x

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LavenderSkiesxo · 21/05/2026 00:06

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 00:03

Well at least one of us can.

You both seem to have an issue with me... calling me a man hater, a woman hater (still puzzled?!) And accusing me of using autism as an insult. I will keep replying to other posters but you two have bored me. Sorry you have nothing better to do than insult me. Nice to know my replies are living rent free in your mind xx goodnight xx

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 00:05

LavenderSkiesxo · 21/05/2026 00:02

I didnt use it as an insult! I was with baffled why she mentioned the daughter and why the daughter would be so heartbroken... esp as no one is taking about her brother!

And perhaps get someone to read the previous poster’s post to you and you might understand the relevance of her children

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 00:04

LavenderSkiesxo · 21/05/2026 00:02

I didnt use it as an insult! I was with baffled why she mentioned the daughter and why the daughter would be so heartbroken... esp as no one is taking about her brother!

So please explain why you assumed she was autistic? And what you think autism is. Because clarity would be great on this point.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 00:03

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Well at least one of us can.

LavenderSkiesxo · 21/05/2026 00:02

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 00:01

Because she loves her brother?

How dare you jump to autism as an insult.

I have three conditions but it could be worse. I could be ableist and use autism as an insult against someone’s child

I didnt use it as an insult! I was with baffled why she mentioned the daughter and why the daughter would be so heartbroken... esp as no one is taking about her brother!

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LavenderSkiesxo · 21/05/2026 00:01

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Going after? Someone posted on a forum and I have an opinion on it. How is that going after someone? Genuinely concerned with your thinking.

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 00:01

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 23:36

Well why would her daughter be heartbroken???

Because she loves her brother?

How dare you jump to autism as an insult.

I have three conditions but it could be worse. I could be ableist and use autism as an insult against someone’s child