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Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:02

I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:11

UniquePinkSwan · 20/05/2026 15:10

The man bashing on this site is getting worse. If men did this on petrolheads you’d all be frothing

Men bashing? Aren't I pointing out the truth?
Are u a man? If so what's the problem????

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:10

Squirrel60 · 20/05/2026 15:08

I'm a woman, and at various times over the years, day and night, I've had to pull the car over and try to find some woods or behind a bush for a piss, getting my shoes and trousers off, piss, then back on as soon as I can, and a few times I've come dangerously close to being caught!

Id be lying to say ive never pissed outside! Ive needed badly walking the dog before in the woods but have u ever just pissed in the corner of a street???

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UniquePinkSwan · 20/05/2026 15:10

The man bashing on this site is getting worse. If men did this on petrolheads you’d all be frothing

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/05/2026 15:09

🤭🤭

Men... are u okay? What is the problem?
Augustus40 · 20/05/2026 15:08

I agree op.

Squirrel60 · 20/05/2026 15:08

I'm a woman, and at various times over the years, day and night, I've had to pull the car over and try to find some woods or behind a bush for a piss, getting my shoes and trousers off, piss, then back on as soon as I can, and a few times I've come dangerously close to being caught!

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:08

How mant times have you crossed the road to avoid a man? Or been wary when out when its dark? Or drink being spiked?? Its all men.

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LeaderBee · 20/05/2026 15:08

Women got the right to vote over 100 years ago. You're not incorrect but it seems to be a bit wild starting your argument with something that happened at the very least 3, if not 4 generations ago.

Not something you've even had a remote chance of experiencing yourself.

MyArtfulGreySloth · 20/05/2026 15:04

coulditbeme2323 · 20/05/2026 15:03

If it makes you feel any better, the men in my life are great!

Mine too but we must just be lucky. It’s not ALL men, but it’s most of them.

coulditbeme2323 · 20/05/2026 15:03

If it makes you feel any better, the men in my life are great!