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Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:02

I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

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DogsandFlowers · 20/05/2026 15:59

GethsemaneHall · 20/05/2026 15:16

This kind of frothing upsets me as the mother of a son, auntie to two nephews, wife etc.
My son is a lovely, kind man who I have raised to be responsible and thoughtful, does he get it right every single time, probably not but does every woman you know get everything right every time?
I also have a daughter so I have to see things from both sides, she would be heartbroken to think people (women) were discussing her brother in such derogatory terms.

Would she? We’re not discussing your son personally I doubt she’d care less

Eightdayz · 20/05/2026 15:59

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:56

Again we see you??
Am I pretending to be someone I am.not.

I have posted my opinion and stand by it.

We see you 🤣

See you means exactly that.

You're seen for what you are. Not someone who is asking honest questions. But someone who just wants to bash men.

You look more and more stupid and bitter each response you make.

So crack on. Its honestly hilarious..

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:59

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What are you basing this on??

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Additup · 20/05/2026 15:59

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:55

A few men?! A few she says!!!
Ffs

91% commit crimes

Is that a few 🤣🤣🤣

91% of men do not commit crimes fgs !!!
91% of crimes may be committed by men ( I say may because I have no idea) but that is completely different.

DaftNoodle · 20/05/2026 15:59

@LavenderSkiesxocompletely agree with you! I despair of men’s behaviour and once you see it, you cant unsee it.
I will never enter into a relationship with a man again and I try to use female services as much as possible to limit men even coming into my home!!

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 15:58

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AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 20/05/2026 15:58

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/05/2026 15:26

Well when women commit 98% of the sexual and violent crimes that occur then they may have a point. Until then..

It's the common schoolchild error of not recognising that '98% of certain terrible things are done by X group' is very much not the same as '98% of X group do certain terrible things'.

Telephone scams devastate lives and can traumatise victims to their graves. The overwhelming majority of those scam calls (received in the UK at least) are made by people who are Indian. Why not start another thread, OP, asking what on earth the point is of Indians - apart from maybe running curry houses - and making out that 98% of Indians are criminals?

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:57

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GasperyJacquesRoberts · 20/05/2026 15:57

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:55

A few men?! A few she says!!!
Ffs

91% commit crimes

Is that a few 🤣🤣🤣

Are you trying to claim that 91% of men commit crimes?

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 15:57

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:55

A few men?! A few she says!!!
Ffs

91% commit crimes

Is that a few 🤣🤣🤣

91% of men commit crimes? Care to share your sources?😂

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:56

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Again we see you??
Am I pretending to be someone I am.not.

I have posted my opinion and stand by it.

We see you 🤣

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ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 15:56

TwilightSkies · 20/05/2026 15:52

Did someone actually post that society would collapse without men because all women are teachers and BABYSITTERS??!! 😂😂😂
Yeah sure there’s no firewomen, policewomen, doctors, surgeons, engineers, scientists, social workers, nurses, lorry drivers, oil rig workers, mechanics etc etc…….oh wait!
I agree with you OP. MOST men are inherently selfish, lazy when it comes to relationships and entitled. That’s why the birth rates are plummeting. Women are waking up and realising relationships with men are most hassle than they are worth.

MOST men are inherently selfish, lazy when it comes to relationships and entitled.

You can see where the bitterness comes from 😂
Some women REALLY do not take their break-up well. (same for men, but they don't complain about them on MN usually)

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:55

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:55

A few men?! A few she says!!!
Ffs

A few men?! A few she says!!!
Ffs

91% commit crimes

Is that a few 🤣🤣🤣

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Eightdayz · 20/05/2026 15:55

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:55

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 15:54

A few individuals don't define an entire gender. Yes, most men are as fine, or better than fine. A few criminals don't make the "MEN" a menace any more than an Italian criminal doesn't make all "Italians" a threat.

"Stranger danger" applies to strangers - male or female.

If I need help, more often than not it will be male rescuers, policemen, firemen, paramedics, A&E doctors - because there are more male than female in these roles. And male IN GENERAL are helpful and kind, it's always men who give me their seat, help carry my buggy, offer to carry a ridiculously heavy suitcase in the stairs in public transport.

I warn my daughters about possible criminals, not about "MEN".

But if you want to convince yourself you are a born victim because you are female, in a world dominated by men, I am not stopping you. I live in Europe, not Afghanistan so that's not my experience.

A few men?! A few she says!!!
Ffs

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ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 15:54

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:46

I just wonder why we arent asking what is wrong with men collectively? So everyone who thinks im wrong. Do you honestly think men are fine and its "some" men. I take it when you are raising your daughters you wont be warning them about men?

A few individuals don't define an entire gender. Yes, most men are as fine, or better than fine. A few criminals don't make the "MEN" a menace any more than an Italian criminal doesn't make all "Italians" a threat.

"Stranger danger" applies to strangers - male or female.

If I need help, more often than not it will be male rescuers, policemen, firemen, paramedics, A&E doctors - because there are more male than female in these roles. And male IN GENERAL are helpful and kind, it's always men who give me their seat, help carry my buggy, offer to carry a ridiculously heavy suitcase in the stairs in public transport.

I warn my daughters about possible criminals, not about "MEN".

But if you want to convince yourself you are a born victim because you are female, in a world dominated by men, I am not stopping you. I live in Europe, not Afghanistan so that's not my experience.

blankittyblank · 20/05/2026 15:54

ADAB33 · 20/05/2026 15:46

I think this proves the point the OP is making, very well.

We pull the car over and try to find somewhere discrete. We don't just squat down and do it in full view.

I said to my son the other day - "have you ever walked home with your front door key in between your first 2 fingers?" He thought I was mad.

My daughter however, would know immediately why I was asking.

In fairness though, that's because we can't wee in public without getting our arses out, and without it being a massive faff.
If I could stand up, bum covered, and pop my willy out to have a wee really quickly and easily, I'd certainly be more relaxed about when and where I do it!

Feis123 · 20/05/2026 15:54

The men in my life are wonderful and were wonderful.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:54

And yes my partner is lovely as is my dad and brother but I can still say men cause pretty much most of crimes, sexual assaults.. rape etc. And dont get me started oh u mean a person with a penis. No I fucking men mean.

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:53

TwilightSkies · 20/05/2026 15:52

Did someone actually post that society would collapse without men because all women are teachers and BABYSITTERS??!! 😂😂😂
Yeah sure there’s no firewomen, policewomen, doctors, surgeons, engineers, scientists, social workers, nurses, lorry drivers, oil rig workers, mechanics etc etc…….oh wait!
I agree with you OP. MOST men are inherently selfish, lazy when it comes to relationships and entitled. That’s why the birth rates are plummeting. Women are waking up and realising relationships with men are most hassle than they are worth.

Thank you!!!

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TwilightSkies · 20/05/2026 15:52

Did someone actually post that society would collapse without men because all women are teachers and BABYSITTERS??!! 😂😂😂
Yeah sure there’s no firewomen, policewomen, doctors, surgeons, engineers, scientists, social workers, nurses, lorry drivers, oil rig workers, mechanics etc etc…….oh wait!
I agree with you OP. MOST men are inherently selfish, lazy when it comes to relationships and entitled. That’s why the birth rates are plummeting. Women are waking up and realising relationships with men are most hassle than they are worth.

wishingonastar101 · 20/05/2026 15:51

I also think religion tends to favour men - and religion is on the rise in the UK.

Eightdayz · 20/05/2026 15:50

BurnTheWholeThingDown · 20/05/2026 15:48

Childbirth…

Yh no argument with that one. Although not a good comparison as men cannot do that.

Ok hit me with more pls?

lornad00m · 20/05/2026 15:50

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:02

I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

I mean you're right. But you'll get showered with 'not all men'.

Because we're not allowed to have this discussion without that particular phrase being hammered through the comments. Someone tried to start a thread recently on violence against woman. It was derailed practically immediately with 'whataboutism'.

So it looks like there are no spaces on social media for this discourse. Even on a website for women.

And when women actually try to gather in person to discuss these issues, they often face protests from the trans 'community'.

Women...look how far we've come. Yay!

I found my (now ex) window cleaner pissing in my garden once. Good times. 🙄

Witchonenowbob · 20/05/2026 15:48

Oh I must go and post a thread about how my DH and DSs are great.

It’ll get a fab response I’m sure. It’s so interesting and maybe people could offer advice as to how I could change it?

So that’s why you only get posts with problems about men.