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Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:02

I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

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LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 17:53

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/05/2026 17:52

How many do you see on Tuesday afternoons?

Seeing as how I'm at work, none. We have men's and women's toilets, though.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/05/2026 17:52

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 17:49

You obviously don't frequent busy town or city centres on weekends. Bless you, dear.

How many do you see on Tuesday afternoons?

ShutUpOverSharer · 20/05/2026 17:51

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:55

A few men?! A few she says!!!
Ffs

91% commit crimes

Is that a few 🤣🤣🤣

It isn't that 91% of men commit crime. I haven't checked your statistic, but I think you meant to say that 91% of certain crimes are committed by men. That doesn't mean in the group of men that you know, 91% of them are committing crimes, whilst the remaining 9% are at home desperately looking out their "not all men" tees 😉

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 17:50

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 17:50

AnnieBond · 20/05/2026 17:39

That makes no sense. So if a man is also drunk is he excused?

No it doesn't but you cant compare

Hey leave men alone yes they piss but so do females who are pissed

Im talking about sober men!!!

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LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 17:49

BatchCookBabe · 20/05/2026 17:32

I bet that's the only time you have seen women pissing in public this century.

You obviously don't frequent busy town or city centres on weekends. Bless you, dear.

JumboJambo · 20/05/2026 17:49

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

Why is it a problem? He probably stood behind his car to make it a bit less obvious to passers by. As others have said, women have been known to do the same - men probably do it more often partly because of socialisation and partly because it's anatomically easier. But as long as people are reasonably discreet, so what?

Men are more likely to commit suicide

And that's an example of men being bad, evil people?

You could easily make an argument that men's overrepresentation in suicide statistics is evidence that the world is harder on men than it is on women. I'm not making that argument, but it would be a valid interpretation - in exactly the same way that we say when teenage girls are more likely than boys to self harm or be anorexic, its evidence of specific burdens carried particularly by girls and not boys.

But regardless, using suicide as an example of a person's moral failing seems a bizarre combination of revolting callousness and sheer irrationality. Do you apply this thinking to individuals as well as groups? So if someone you know committed suicide, would you go to their funeral and spend it spouting off about how their suicide just proves was a horrible person they were?

Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

That's just vile. Doesn't even merit a response.

thestudio · 20/05/2026 17:44

UniquePinkSwan · 20/05/2026 15:10

The man bashing on this site is getting worse. If men did this on petrolheads you’d all be frothing

it's true tho innit?

So not bashing, just describing reality.

The problem is that the rest of the time we all pretend we can't see the truth - to the Orwellian extent that some people genuinely believe all's good between men and women and women aren't shat on at every turn.

AnnieBond · 20/05/2026 17:39

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 17:36

So they are drunk, yeah????

That makes no sense. So if a man is also drunk is he excused?

Squarehairbear · 20/05/2026 17:38

I can count on one hand the number of times I've seen a woman pissing in public. I live in the city and see men doing it pretty much every day - daytime or nighttime, drunk or sober - it's actually really gross and totally unnecessary. They just don't care and think they can do what the hell they like. Not all men, obvs, but an unreasonably high percentage of them.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 17:36

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 20/05/2026 17:35

Go through any town centre on a Friday or Saturday and the women are more noticeable having a piss because they are usually shouting and screeching at each other

So they are drunk, yeah????

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 20/05/2026 17:35

BatchCookBabe · 20/05/2026 17:32

I bet that's the only time you have seen women pissing in public this century.

Go through any town centre on a Friday or Saturday and the women are more noticeable having a piss because they are usually shouting and screeching at each other

BatchCookBabe · 20/05/2026 17:34

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 17:29

Yes, so they're no better.

Yes yes women are no better than men. 🙄

Good grief. The apologists (for men!) are rife on this thread.

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BatchCookBabe · 20/05/2026 17:32

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 17:25

Look, you hate men for some reason. Don't come on here hoping to validate your curmudgeonly man hating mindset. Oh, by the way, I was driving to work one Sunday morning, and I passed an idling taxi, and next to it were two drunk girls, squatting down, knickers half way down, pissing in the gutter. Only guys are that crass, eh?

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I bet that's the only time you have seen women pissing in public this century.

ImFinePMSL · 20/05/2026 17:32

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:08

How mant times have you crossed the road to avoid a man? Or been wary when out when its dark? Or drink being spiked?? Its all men.

Agreed.

I first experienced sexual harassment at 11 years old. I was walking home from school in my uniform. A van full of men following me beeping and shouting “GET YOUR FANNY OUT”. They would have been someone’s husband, someone’s son, someone’s father etc.

I was about 14/15 walking to meet friends in broad daylight when a man shouted “Do you want to see my helicopter?” And pulled out his dick and started swinging it around. Again, someone’s husband, father, son etc.

I’ve lost count how many similar experiences I’ve endured. Having my arse grabbed or slapped in night clubs. A man asking for my number, and when I’ve said “no” they’ve become abusive calling me a ‘slag’ or squaring up to me.

It still happens and I’m in my 30’s! Men shouting at me from passing vans. Unsolicited dick pics sent to me by complete random men on social media. (I’ve learnt how to adjust my settings now so only friends can message me).

I have a family member, who I thought, was a great man, a great hardworking dad to his kids. Nope. He beat up his (now) ex partner and turned her black and blue. I saw proof.

I know of 2 of my married friends who have experienced their husbands cheating on them in the past year. Nice, “lovely”, family men. Fathers.

Men don’t respect women as a whole. And sadly, I don’t think they ever will.

(edited for spelling)

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 17:32

Naunet · 20/05/2026 17:28

Couldn't agree more. Men could legally rape their wives until the 90s, and many men were outraged when it was made illegal.

Yes ... thanks

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Didimum · 20/05/2026 17:31

Socialisation across thousands of years. It’s not difficult.

AnnieBond · 20/05/2026 17:31

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 17:21

Ffs I mean most men commit crimes not all men commit most crimes.

Most men commit crimes??

no they don't.

men commit most crimes,

Maybe? Not sure of the statistics or even if they are accurate.

but frankly I'm more worried about you right now, you sound very upset. What's happened?

Soupdragon41 · 20/05/2026 17:30

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 17:21

Ffs I mean most men commit crimes not all men commit most crimes.

I think you mean most crimes are committed by men not that most men commit crimes. It’s very different

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 17:29

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 17:26

Yes drunk not sober
Is this really the comparison we are making
Yes men piss in public but so do drunk woman...

Yes, so they're no better.

Naunet · 20/05/2026 17:28

Paganpentacle · 20/05/2026 16:23

True... but maybe have a look at when women were finally 'allowed' to have their own bank accounts... 1975 FFS!
These things didnt happen by accident- these are hard won rights that we shouldn't even have had to fight for.
It saddens me that those rights are taken for granted.

Couldn't agree more. Men could legally rape their wives until the 90s, and many men were outraged when it was made illegal.

Soupdragon41 · 20/05/2026 17:27

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:55

A few men?! A few she says!!!
Ffs

91% commit crimes

Is that a few 🤣🤣🤣

91% of crimes being committed by men does not mean 91% commit crimes!

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 17:26

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 17:25

Look, you hate men for some reason. Don't come on here hoping to validate your curmudgeonly man hating mindset. Oh, by the way, I was driving to work one Sunday morning, and I passed an idling taxi, and next to it were two drunk girls, squatting down, knickers half way down, pissing in the gutter. Only guys are that crass, eh?

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Yes drunk not sober
Is this really the comparison we are making
Yes men piss in public but so do drunk woman...

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 17:25

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 20/05/2026 17:25

Why do you think this post will be deleted? It’s no different from the other hundreds of random man bashing threads on here

Because it'll be deemed inappropriate esp if people report it.

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