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Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:02

I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:13

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 18:11

You hate men. It's patently obvious.

I dont but they cause alot of issues in this world. But yes, you believe i hate men and then that'll make you feel better for supporting Andrew tate or tick tocky, whatever the twat is called.

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grapesstrawberriespleass · 20/05/2026 18:13

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:03

I think both are unreasonable twats who play an equal part in being twats
But seeing as that op is married to the man then she should leave him
No one has said the woman did no wrong

Not sure if you meant to reply to me! I’ve no idea why that commenter is mentioning the other woman being as bad as the man. When did I say she wasn’t lol. But also in that scenario I actually believe he was more in the wrong seeing as he was a married man and her senior at work, whilst she was in her 20s and junior to him lol.

SleepingStandingUp · 20/05/2026 18:13

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:08

How mant times have you crossed the road to avoid a man? Or been wary when out when its dark? Or drink being spiked?? Its all men.

so get a divorce and for god's sake don't have more kids.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:12

GethsemaneHall · 20/05/2026 18:09

No not autistic. Obviously you are not speaking about my son specifically, however I am using my son and daughter as an example. Do you not have one single man in your life (dad, husband, son, nephew, uncle, grandad etc) that you would be hurt to hear someone talking badly about them? Not one?

I have a nice partner, dad and brother..
When I see people saying similar about men then no I am not heartbroken. I appreciate the men I have in my life are good but not all men are like that. Maybe your daughter is prone to sensitivity?? I cant get my head around why you said that. 2nd hand embarrassment for you.

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LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 18:11

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:09

Well you are being thick
Probably a man.

You hate men. It's patently obvious.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:11

GethsemaneHall · 20/05/2026 18:09

No not autistic. Obviously you are not speaking about my son specifically, however I am using my son and daughter as an example. Do you not have one single man in your life (dad, husband, son, nephew, uncle, grandad etc) that you would be hurt to hear someone talking badly about them? Not one?

But why mention it?
Your daughter specifically?
Its weird

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Plantlady10 · 20/05/2026 18:10

Sounds like Smug Mother of Girls post - lucky you had a girl, and not a gross pointless male who society would be better off without

Parky04 · 20/05/2026 18:10

BurnTheWholeThingDown · 20/05/2026 15:48

Childbirth…

That isn't a job.

GethsemaneHall · 20/05/2026 18:09

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 16:55

Why would she heartbroken? Why even mention that?
Im not being mean but is she autistic? Cause I cant see why she would be heartbroken.. we arent talking about your son or other men in your life. Just a weird thing to speficially mention your daughter.

No not autistic. Obviously you are not speaking about my son specifically, however I am using my son and daughter as an example. Do you not have one single man in your life (dad, husband, son, nephew, uncle, grandad etc) that you would be hurt to hear someone talking badly about them? Not one?

Weeellokthen · 20/05/2026 18:09

I am so surprised to read women sticking up for men, on this site 😮. Highly unusual

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:09

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 18:07

Don't be thick.... After the original post you put up....😆😂

Well you are being thick
Probably a man.

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OneFineDay22 · 20/05/2026 18:08

Only 0.00056% of the world’s population get murdered. Some of them will be murdered by the same person. So murderers don’t make up an enormous percentage of the male population AT ALL.

Yes the world has issues. Yes, some of them are more likely to occur in the male population.

Working class men also could not vote until 1918. When they did, it is likely that a lot of them voted in a way that they believed would benefit their wives or daughters. Some of them even discussed who they should vote for with their wives.

How do you imagine this thread is going to change anything for the better?

Goldenbear · 20/05/2026 18:07

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:55

A few men?! A few she says!!!
Ffs

91% commit crimes

Is that a few 🤣🤣🤣

91% of men commit crimes - eh?

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 18:07

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:05

Even if i did hate all men you seriously think id refuse treatment or would rather die so a man wouldnt help

Jeez dont be thick

Don't be thick.... After the original post you put up....😆😂

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:05

Even if i did hate all men you seriously think id refuse treatment or would rather die so a man wouldnt help

Jeez dont be thick

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Millytante · 20/05/2026 18:05

TheignT · 20/05/2026 17:08

I had a current account before 1975. Maybe I didn't have a legal right to one but I had one.

Other 1975 things maybe worth mentioning, to wake some of us up about progress/ lack of it re stuff in this thread:
plastic cup/ funnel contraptions sold as ‘pee while you are standing up’ aids (in racy magazines for women;
the growth in Radical Separatist Feminism, and socio-politically motivated lesbianism

I think the latter two will experience an overdue resurgence, quite honestly.
Despite all that has changed in fifty years, relations between the sexes are now poisoned with a hell of a lot more than old style bedded-in sexism in our society.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:04

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 18:01

She seems to hate men that much, she'd probably let herself burn to death just to spite them.

Why? I dont hate men what a stupid thing to say

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mondaytosunday · 20/05/2026 18:04

Well I had to pull over the other day to let my 22 year old have a wee in a lay by. He has the smallest bladder known to man and had already gone before we got in the car yet there we were just over an hour into the journey. He was as discreet as possible doing it though!
I don’t know. My DH was great. Never made a mess, cooked (and cleaned up after himself) on the weekends and provided for us financially. He always hung up his clothes or put them in the laundry basket and he paid for a cleaner who also ironed. On top of that he was generous and kind.
My son is very helpful- at 22 he visited for two days and cut the lawn, weeded the front, cleaned the windows in and out, and vacuumed the stairs and first floor. His house can go from showroom to pigsty and back again but he doesn’t expect anyone else to clean it for him! But he was happy to help me out. He’s the first one to jump up on the bus to offer his seat or help someone with luggage or pushchair. My father was also a wonderful man. Terrible domestically - he could just about boil an egg. But he was loving, supportive, curious, patient and kind. He had a difficult upbringing but that made him appreciate our family.
Sure there are awful men who do inexcusable things. But the majority are pretty ok. And there are some who are wonderful.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:03

grapesstrawberriespleass · 20/05/2026 17:57

WHERE did I say she was reasonable? This is a post about men. Not the other woman. Stupid comment.

I think both are unreasonable twats who play an equal part in being twats
But seeing as that op is married to the man then she should leave him
No one has said the woman did no wrong

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LaughingCat · 20/05/2026 18:02

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 16:57

When out walking my dog, sometimes late at night. I have.crossed the road if a man is approaching me. I havent with a woman because I dont see woman out late. I remember being a young teen and an older man came over and told me I was pretty. I was terrified and made up a lie that my dad was meeting me. I have held my keys in my hand before late at night to fight off a man.. not a woman a man!

Therapy can help with phobias like this. Truly sad that you have limited yourself to live in abject fear like this your whole life.

DogsandFlowers · 20/05/2026 18:01

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 20/05/2026 16:10

Presumably to avoid any risk of getting piss on them?

I still don’t understand why pissy bare feet are preferable to pissy shoes 😂😂😂😂😂🙄

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 18:01

EmailsaysOOO · 20/05/2026 18:00

@LavenderSkiesxo yes i think most violent crimes are committed by ( some ) men. And I also think if you're in a burning building or in need of help and protection by soldiers, police, the services etc we're most likely to be helped by ( some) men.

She seems to hate men that much, she'd probably let herself burn to death just to spite them.

EmailsaysOOO · 20/05/2026 18:00

@LavenderSkiesxo yes i think most violent crimes are committed by ( some ) men. And I also think if you're in a burning building or in need of help and protection by soldiers, police, the services etc we're most likely to be helped by ( some) men.

grapesstrawberriespleass · 20/05/2026 17:57

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 16:08

interesting that you blame the husband here, but say nothing about the other woman who happens to be married to another man. (as seen on many threads, with the usual, shall I tell her husband etc)

You think SHE is reasonable, but He isn't? WHy is that?

WHERE did I say she was reasonable? This is a post about men. Not the other woman. Stupid comment.

Passingthrough123 · 20/05/2026 17:56

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:55

A few men?! A few she says!!!
Ffs

91% commit crimes

Is that a few 🤣🤣🤣

Where did you get 91% from?

The stats I've just found say men represent 78% of individuals who face criminal proceedings in the UK. If that's the case, how can it be proved that 91% of all crimes are committed by men?