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Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:02

I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

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Beachtastic · 20/05/2026 18:31

Do you live in a city, OP? That can give you a really skewed impression of what people generally are like, because you are forever noticing people doing shitty things.

The older I get, the more I appreciate men. I used to think they were generally useless, but that turned out to be my poor relationship choices based on low expectations.

If you look at what men achieve, it's phenomenal. 🤩 We'd be fucked without all that.

Also I finally married a proper good'un.

So I'll not be having any of this nonsense 🤣

P.S. I would piss by the side of the road if I had a convenient hosepipe type arrangement through which to do it.

StarDolphins · 20/05/2026 18:31

Unfortunately, I agree op.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:26

GethsemaneHall · 20/05/2026 18:24

I'm starting to wonder if you have the intelligence to post any kind of sane thought on any platform. I'm out as you clearly have minimal comprehension skills. Enjoy your man free evening.

Cant explain why it was mentioned.
No one here is saying oh my daughter would be heartbroken if she read this. So either she js prone to sensitivity (which is being enabled) or autism (no hate)

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Oohanothername · 20/05/2026 18:25

It really saddens me that there is so much man hating online at the moment.

Generalising about a whole group of people because of the actions of some of them is extremely problematic. You could draw incredibly negative conclusions about any group in society if you viewed them solely through the lens of the worst behaved ones.

It is a difficult time to be a man. It's also an exciting time to be a woman. We are in a position we have never been in before and it's incredible. It does come with some consequences though, which is another conversation. However the misogyny that has driven the patriarchy in the past needs erasing... NOT translating into misandry. That defeats the object of feminism (which is equality) and surely makes women as bad as the men in the patriarchy!

I worry for our boys growing up in such a man hating society. We rail against the likes of Andrew Tate and his ilk for their attitudes to women but the attitudes towards men from some women is no better at all. It's disgraceful.

GethsemaneHall · 20/05/2026 18:24

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:11

But why mention it?
Your daughter specifically?
Its weird

I'm starting to wonder if you have the intelligence to post any kind of sane thought on any platform. I'm out as you clearly have minimal comprehension skills. Enjoy your man free evening.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:24

crackofdoom · 20/05/2026 18:22

Nah, I've got sons and I will rail against the patriarchy until the day I die.

I feel so very protective and alot of dangers think are men. I wont ever tell her to stay away from men or that men are dangerous. But when teaching stranger dangers and telling her to be careful at night etc it'll be men I think of.

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Thehandinthecookiejar · 20/05/2026 18:23

I think you’re probably preaching to the converted OP (though I haven’t RTFT yet tbf)

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 18:23

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:09

Well you are being thick
Probably a man.

I sincerely hope you are a male troll on a windup

Because it would be very embarrassing for the rest of us if you genuinely were female.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:22

grapesstrawberriespleass · 20/05/2026 18:13

Not sure if you meant to reply to me! I’ve no idea why that commenter is mentioning the other woman being as bad as the man. When did I say she wasn’t lol. But also in that scenario I actually believe he was more in the wrong seeing as he was a married man and her senior at work, whilst she was in her 20s and junior to him lol.

You did. You defended her 🤣

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crackofdoom · 20/05/2026 18:22

LittleRobins · 20/05/2026 16:40

This post is interesting to me. I have some very good men in my life, and some who are not so good. The same for women to be fair. But since having my daughter I do see men differently. I wonder if there’s something that changes in your brain or hormonally when you have a daughter?

Nah, I've got sons and I will rail against the patriarchy until the day I die.

grapesstrawberriespleass · 20/05/2026 18:22

So many weird women here going absolutely feral that you’ve dared to slag off men, even though it was obvious to me that a lot of it was likely tongue in cheek.

Men say and do far worse things about women on a regular basis yet if a woman dares drive something slightly inflammatory - ooooft.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:22

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 18:21

I wouldn't waste my time watching these feckless, gormless tools. I make my own mind up and always have.

Fair enough 🤣

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LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 18:21

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:19

Tiktocky he had a daft name like that.

I wouldn't waste my time watching these feckless, gormless tools. I make my own mind up and always have.

havingoneofthosedays · 20/05/2026 18:20

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/05/2026 18:18

Probably watch Andrew Tate online.

Absolutely, so will many sons of mothers on here

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:19

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 18:17

Who? Tate or this TikTok guy/person?

Tiktocky he had a daft name like that.

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crackofdoom · 20/05/2026 18:19

Dollymylove · 20/05/2026 15:44

You gave us a big clue in your OP, asking what is the point of men apart from their sperm.
Nothing about running into burning buildings to rescue babies.
Going up ladders with scaffolding to build your new extension.
Drive bin lorries emptying your crap (very rarely see a female binman)
Fighting wars on the front line so you dont have to.
Go out into the garden in the middle of the night because you thought you heard an intruder.
Moving that huge hairy spider out of the bath
What do men possess far more of than women do? Physical strength.
And despite your rambling hate fest, most of them use it for good, not bad.
I just hope that you never give birth to a son, God help the poor kid if you do!!

I've been up scaffolding all day.

(Peers in pants) Yup, definitely a vagina

I see a bin woman on her rounds every Friday morning.

There was a mighty bang downstairs last night. Guess who went to investigate it? I did.

And spiders? Puh- lease. I remove them for men 😆

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/05/2026 18:18

havingoneofthosedays · 20/05/2026 18:15

100% OP I’m with you.

im not even go into the horrific things men have done to me over the years.

But what I find interesting is the same old troop on here of these women raising perfect boys that will never turn out that way… I have 2 younger males in the family who have been raised by 2 loving, involved parents, both very present. The fathers I am very close to, I have been part of these young males upbringing…. The way they treat females is vile, they have both strong male & female influences all around them and yet have grown up with a shocking disrespect for women.

Probably watch Andrew Tate online.

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 18:17

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:17

He was on that thing theorux released on Netflix recently.

Who? Tate or this TikTok guy/person?

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:17

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 18:15

I don't even know who or what the latter is, and Andrew Tate's a gormless throbber.

He was on that thing theorux released on Netflix recently.

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EmailsaysOOO · 20/05/2026 18:16

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:12

I have a nice partner, dad and brother..
When I see people saying similar about men then no I am not heartbroken. I appreciate the men I have in my life are good but not all men are like that. Maybe your daughter is prone to sensitivity?? I cant get my head around why you said that. 2nd hand embarrassment for you.

If you have a nice partner and dad and brother, I think you should share your concerns about men with them. They may be able to help.

havingoneofthosedays · 20/05/2026 18:15

100% OP I’m with you.

im not even go into the horrific things men have done to me over the years.

But what I find interesting is the same old troop on here of these women raising perfect boys that will never turn out that way… I have 2 younger males in the family who have been raised by 2 loving, involved parents, both very present. The fathers I am very close to, I have been part of these young males upbringing…. The way they treat females is vile, they have both strong male & female influences all around them and yet have grown up with a shocking disrespect for women.

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 18:15

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:13

I dont but they cause alot of issues in this world. But yes, you believe i hate men and then that'll make you feel better for supporting Andrew tate or tick tocky, whatever the twat is called.

I don't even know who or what the latter is, and Andrew Tate's a gormless throbber.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:15

SleepingStandingUp · 20/05/2026 18:13

so get a divorce and for god's sake don't have more kids.

Why get a divorce? I am not talking about every single man. Jesus. Its some responses here that make me understand why some woman posters put up with so much shit. The bar is low and they can do no wrong.

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SleepingStandingUp · 20/05/2026 18:15

Plantlady10 · 20/05/2026 18:10

Sounds like Smug Mother of Girls post - lucky you had a girl, and not a gross pointless male who society would be better off without

oh it's ok, they serve a temporary purpose of they're fertile. the infertile ones tho.... might as well take them out into the field with the lame horses by ops thinking

Speakofthedevil · 20/05/2026 18:14

Love this: 'Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose?'. Brilliant femcel logic. Ask your husband/partner, OP? What's his purpose, apart from his sperm? See what he says.

Apart from your three orifices - what's your purpose, OP?

Ok, we established: women don't need men. They are perfectly capable of doing everything themselves. Great. That's not wrong, I do agree.

Why do men need women? To fuck? And otherwise? Given that a lot of men don't really want kids, but go along with their partner's wishes. Plus, gay couples manage.

Take my brother. Early 30s, decent looking, gyms. Solvent, has a decent job, earns good money. Owns a house, mortgage-free. Nice car. Can and does cook. Cooks well. Cleans his house, does the laundry, etc, his house is always nice and tidy. Drinks moderately, doesn't do drugs, doesn't smoke. Reads books, has hobbies. Has his quirks and is not a perfect human, but overall, a decent guy. Childfree, doesn't want kids. Why would he need a woman? To fuck? There's tinder.

Many men are a headache and more trouble than they're worth. So are many women. I've met more dumb harpies than I can count, starting with my mother. Married my father for his money, then fucked every man in the vicinity, including multiple married ones. Caught her with our gardener when I was a teen. She was an abusive cunt to everyone, but especially me. Beat me, locked me in the cupboards when I was little. And she's definitely not the only female in the world like that.