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Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:02

I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

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TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:22

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:33

Not superficially. It was just strangers. But school material which warned the same all showed men

Myra Hindley, Rosemary West? Giving girls the impression that women are always safe let them kill girls.

Feis123 · 20/05/2026 19:22

beeautifullif3 · 20/05/2026 19:12

The problem is women 🤣
Being a man in 2026
Meet a nice lady , get married , have children , work hard while wifey stays home raising the kids.
Wife now has the husband , kids and house so can no longer be bothered to maintain a relationship with husband and yes ladies im talking about intimacy! Sex ! You know all that yucky stuff , coz now you got it all theres no point making the effort anymore right ? And let's not forget first time mums are practically useless these days aren't they , always posting on here , they cant cope , cant sleep, cant keep the house clean ect anyway moving on , it all then ends in divorce, man loses his house , his family and oooh yes wife then goes after his pension too because after all shes been staying at home raising the kids so she deserves whats hers ! Husband has been used , neglected , treated like a lodger for all those years and then loses it all and yet we wonder why men these days dont seem to want to settle down lol , oh and then theres the absolute toxic witches that will claim as much money as possible while destroying the mans relationship with his kids, alienation , false accusations, refusing contact . Shall I go in to the women who report false claims about abuse ? Man rejects woman's advances so she reports him for rape , gets caught out cheating oh no it wasnt it was rape , so not only destroying an innocent mans life but making it harder for women who have genuinely been abused to report and get justice. Yes I have my hard hat on , but its about time as women we started calling each other out on toxic behaviours. So there you have it 😏

Calling out on toxic behaviours has been done by classical authors for several centuries now - literally. Your list started with behaviours already described in Anna Karenin, many short stories by Maupassant, and (forgot who wrote) Phaedra. All done. People do not learn. Not one bit.

Strandas · 20/05/2026 19:22

If you’ve never seen a woman peeing in the street, you obviously never had the dubious pleasure of clubbing as a teen in the late 90s/early 00s!!

Efrogwraig · 20/05/2026 19:22

Not all men. But always men.

ToastSafeFromMothsAndDogs · 20/05/2026 19:21

UniquePinkSwan · 20/05/2026 15:10

The man bashing on this site is getting worse. If men did this on petrolheads you’d all be frothing

Men have covered acres of internet with films of women being raped so they can watch and masturbate.

RidingGirl · 20/05/2026 19:20

cobalt123 · 20/05/2026 15:25

I live in Switzerland since a year ago and was shocked that women only gained the right to vote here in 1971. It then took until 1990 to force the last region to act on this change. So not very long ago! It makes me very angry

You’re angry that they couldn’t begin voting themselves and their men, and especially their children out of existence many years earlier? Is Switzerland a better country than say the UK or France right now? I think you’d agree it probably is. They’re behind in the liberal/socialist trajectory that we’ve all been sent down, in part since women began voting for the likes of new Labour etc and now the “Greens”.

Ninapertree · 20/05/2026 19:19

We need an ama with men on here.

We can ask them questions like "why are you like that'

Creali · 20/05/2026 19:18

LeaderBee · 20/05/2026 19:01

Do i have anything to say about the gender pay gap?

Yes if it was real then every employer in the country would have a business run by women since they would save so much more money paying their staff less than men, but that's not the case, is it?

@LeaderBee do you understand what the gender pay gap means? Your posts seems like you don’t.

Creali · 20/05/2026 19:17

@LavenderSkiesxo I completely agree.

Its not all men but it’s always a man.

Ninapertree · 20/05/2026 19:16

UnemployedNotRetired · 20/05/2026 18:59

How did you know it was from a man?

Because it was outside my workplace, and the next day my colleague told me that she saw a man pissing there

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 19:15

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 19:14

surely you must realise that it's not normal? And that no normal man would act like that? It has nothing to do with being "male", he was just deranged.

Absolutely. He was fucking crackers.

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Feis123 · 20/05/2026 19:15

Dontlletmedownbruce · 20/05/2026 19:04

Exactly.. let's not forget the legal system and criminal justice system developed by men and mostly populated by men whose purpose is to keep civilians safe from the small percentage of violent and dangerous men. It doesn't always work, but it is doing a damn good job.

Just did not want to go in the 'heavy' direction - how they die in the wars, pull people out of fires, etc.etc.

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 19:14

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 19:11

No. There was lots of reasons. One reason was he was petty during and after arguments. He would do things to "get back" at me but then would tell me after time as he felt bad. One time he admitted to grinding down cat liter and putting it in my alpen

surely you must realise that it's not normal? And that no normal man would act like that? It has nothing to do with being "male", he was just deranged.

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 19:13

Weeellokthen · 20/05/2026 18:09

I am so surprised to read women sticking up for men, on this site 😮. Highly unusual

unusual on this site? possibly

In rea life? completely common. Most people manage to have perfectly normal interactions and lives

VoiceFromThePit · 20/05/2026 19:13

it’s biology imho men ARE from mars

beeautifullif3 · 20/05/2026 19:12

The problem is women 🤣
Being a man in 2026
Meet a nice lady , get married , have children , work hard while wifey stays home raising the kids.
Wife now has the husband , kids and house so can no longer be bothered to maintain a relationship with husband and yes ladies im talking about intimacy! Sex ! You know all that yucky stuff , coz now you got it all theres no point making the effort anymore right ? And let's not forget first time mums are practically useless these days aren't they , always posting on here , they cant cope , cant sleep, cant keep the house clean ect anyway moving on , it all then ends in divorce, man loses his house , his family and oooh yes wife then goes after his pension too because after all shes been staying at home raising the kids so she deserves whats hers ! Husband has been used , neglected , treated like a lodger for all those years and then loses it all and yet we wonder why men these days dont seem to want to settle down lol , oh and then theres the absolute toxic witches that will claim as much money as possible while destroying the mans relationship with his kids, alienation , false accusations, refusing contact . Shall I go in to the women who report false claims about abuse ? Man rejects woman's advances so she reports him for rape , gets caught out cheating oh no it wasnt it was rape , so not only destroying an innocent mans life but making it harder for women who have genuinely been abused to report and get justice. Yes I have my hard hat on , but its about time as women we started calling each other out on toxic behaviours. So there you have it 😏

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 19:11

HarryBlaster · 20/05/2026 19:08

Is that why he’s now your ex?

No. There was lots of reasons. One reason was he was petty during and after arguments. He would do things to "get back" at me but then would tell me after time as he felt bad. One time he admitted to grinding down cat liter and putting it in my alpen

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HarryBlaster · 20/05/2026 19:08

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:38

My ex used to take a poo when I was running a bath.

Is that why he’s now your ex?

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 19:08

grapesstrawberriespleass · 20/05/2026 19:06

No I didn’t???

Im joking. I was using their logic. I dont know why the other woman was mentioned in the context of this thread.

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grapesstrawberriespleass · 20/05/2026 19:06

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 18:22

You did. You defended her 🤣

No I didn’t???

LeaderBee · 20/05/2026 19:05

Ninapertree · 20/05/2026 18:33

Women can do that too.

Shewees exist.

I wouldnt on the street cuz its disgusting. I stepped in a mans piss yesterday

Well they can yes, but do you carry a shewee with you wherever you are?

auserna · 20/05/2026 19:05

Squirrel60 · 20/05/2026 15:08

I'm a woman, and at various times over the years, day and night, I've had to pull the car over and try to find some woods or behind a bush for a piss, getting my shoes and trousers off, piss, then back on as soon as I can, and a few times I've come dangerously close to being caught!

I know this is hardly the point of the thread, but why do you need to take your shoes off to have a pee??

Or trousers, for that matter.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 20/05/2026 19:04

Feis123 · 20/05/2026 18:49

OP got in a car, invented by men, designed and assembled by men, made from metal cast by men, filled by petrol, made from oil extracted by men, drove along a road, built by men, saw a man urinating by the side of the road, then entered a house, built by men, from concrete, poured by men, switched on a computer, invented by men, went online, invented by men, using programmes, invented by men, and wrote in letters of the alphabet, invented by men 'What is the fucking point of men?'

Exactly.. let's not forget the legal system and criminal justice system developed by men and mostly populated by men whose purpose is to keep civilians safe from the small percentage of violent and dangerous men. It doesn't always work, but it is doing a damn good job.

AImportantMermaid · 20/05/2026 19:04

UniquePinkSwan · 20/05/2026 15:10

The man bashing on this site is getting worse. If men did this on petrolheads you’d all be frothing

Men literally do this all the time.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 19:03

I feel like I should create a poll and find out who removes their shoes for a piss

It has never occurred to me to do that, I squat really low and have never pissed on my shoes.

But if I did i dont think I would mind as its usually wheh dog walking and I am mostly wearing wellyboots

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