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Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:02

I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

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TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:44

CountBoscoTheSecondsWife · 20/05/2026 19:30

Thankfully I don't know but I would hazard a guess that things have gotten worse since the increase in consumption and violence levels in Internet porn. I won't depress myself by clicking on the Incel reddit forum link.

The internet has proved to have many advantages but also many dangers. Not only porn but as a meeting place for people with the same warped ideas. They encourage each other and validate each other. People will reject strict censorship though.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/05/2026 19:43

TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:40

But the message got some of those women/girls killed because they thought the woman meant they were safe.

That’s true, and very unfortunate. Still doesn’t change the fact that men are statistically more dangerous than women. That’s not the same as saying dangerous women don’t exist (I’ve met a few).

LeaderBee · 20/05/2026 19:43

Creali · 20/05/2026 19:18

@LeaderBee do you understand what the gender pay gap means? Your posts seems like you don’t.

Yes, i am aware the gender pay gap is supposedly there because of the disparity where women take time off for maternity and child care, not that women are actually paid less. However those are life choices so im not sure why you think there is a gap...or are you advocating to be paid more for doing less work?

Ninapertree · 20/05/2026 19:41

Anxietyxxx · 20/05/2026 19:38

Im more scared of women then men.

Not physically though im sure

TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:40

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/05/2026 19:37

I’d take my chance with a woman over a man any day of the week. Yes there are some horrific women, but not on the scale that men are. Not even close. Statistically proven.

But the message got some of those women/girls killed because they thought the woman meant they were safe.

Justsewsew · 20/05/2026 19:40

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 19:03

I feel like I should create a poll and find out who removes their shoes for a piss

It has never occurred to me to do that, I squat really low and have never pissed on my shoes.

But if I did i dont think I would mind as its usually wheh dog walking and I am mostly wearing wellyboots

Edited

I wondered why but then thought if you can't squat perhaps then maybe you do need to take it all off?

Ninapertree · 20/05/2026 19:40

TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:39

So he was in prison and gave her the idea to commit murder? I suppose she was scared as well.

To go back to my point do you think it is a good idea to warn girls about men but let them think a woman being present makes them safe?

I was talking about myra hindley not rose west

TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:39

Ninapertree · 20/05/2026 19:36

No of course she was wrong.

But it was his idea. Not hers.

So he was in prison and gave her the idea to commit murder? I suppose she was scared as well.

To go back to my point do you think it is a good idea to warn girls about men but let them think a woman being present makes them safe?

Anxietyxxx · 20/05/2026 19:38

Im more scared of women then men.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/05/2026 19:37

TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:31

But don't you agree that the belief woman = safe was a dangerous message? Do you think a woman offering them a lift made them feel it was safe.

Please give women some credit, a normal person, male or female, doesn't start torturing and murdering children just because they've met a nutter.

I’d take my chance with a woman over a man any day of the week. Yes there are some horrific women, but not on the scale that men are. Not even close. Statistically proven.

TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:37

Ninapertree · 20/05/2026 19:35

They might do if they were under fear of dying themselves. Apparantly ian said to myra "dont back out or i will kill you"

Yes and she went straight to the police like her brother in law did, or then again maybe she didn't.

You know she was a liar and manipulator don't you?

Ninapertree · 20/05/2026 19:36

TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:35

Poor little innocent women being dragged into torture and murder. We all need chaperoning as we obviously aren't capable of controlling ourselves if a man is involved.

Didn't RW commit her first murder when FW was in prison?

No of course she was wrong.

But it was his idea. Not hers.

chickenss · 20/05/2026 19:36

Gosh, this has become quite the two sided argument. I didn’t think many people will disagree with the gist of what op is saying I.e men do their job and are done while women do their job and then look after everyone and everything else…
Anyway, it’s an interesting thread.

TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:35

Ninapertree · 20/05/2026 19:24

Myra hindley and rose west while evil, got dragged into what they did by their male partners.

Myra said she never had any thoughts of killing until she met ian. I dont know exactly how true this is. But she said that he threatened to kill her family unless she joined him

Poor little innocent women being dragged into torture and murder. We all need chaperoning as we obviously aren't capable of controlling ourselves if a man is involved.

Didn't RW commit her first murder when FW was in prison?

Ninapertree · 20/05/2026 19:35

TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:31

But don't you agree that the belief woman = safe was a dangerous message? Do you think a woman offering them a lift made them feel it was safe.

Please give women some credit, a normal person, male or female, doesn't start torturing and murdering children just because they've met a nutter.

They might do if they were under fear of dying themselves. Apparantly ian said to myra "dont back out or i will kill you"

BiteSizedLife · 20/05/2026 19:35

Can we auto delete the spammy "well my son has been raised to be lovely and he would never xyz..." posts? They really clog up these threads.

All mothers think their sons are lovely, and most sons present as lovely young men to their mothers....

vitahelp · 20/05/2026 19:33

It isn’t all men but it happens that most stupid shit that happens has a man at the root of it. And I very rarely feel disrespected by a woman at work or see women disrespecting others, bur it regularly happens with men - becoming quite bored of it now.

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 19:33

Efrogwraig · 20/05/2026 19:22

Not all men. But always men.

it's not true is it.

TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:31

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/05/2026 19:27

🙄. There is a reason why Myra Hindley and Rose West gets mentioned in threads like these, they are notorious because they are RARE. I could name 20 male murderers and you wouldn’t have a clue who they were.

Edited to add - and there was a male accomplice, in both.

Edited

But don't you agree that the belief woman = safe was a dangerous message? Do you think a woman offering them a lift made them feel it was safe.

Please give women some credit, a normal person, male or female, doesn't start torturing and murdering children just because they've met a nutter.

CountBoscoTheSecondsWife · 20/05/2026 19:30

JeannetteBlue · 20/05/2026 17:13

I had a look and I think you're somewhat right - the involuntary celibate reddit forum was banned several years ago as an extremely misogynistic site.

However, if anyone is interested in more current sexism, the men's rights subreddit might be of interest (mixture of valid concerns alongside massive sexism). https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/

Thankfully I don't know but I would hazard a guess that things have gotten worse since the increase in consumption and violence levels in Internet porn. I won't depress myself by clicking on the Incel reddit forum link.

YourWildAmberSloth · 20/05/2026 19:29

Your viewed is skewed. I would suggest therapy to get to the bottom of it before you inadvertently pass your fears/views/anxieties on to your daughter. Yes, it's important that she knows how to stay safe, but you also don't want her to live in constant fear of every man. There's also a risk that if you continue with the men =bad, women = good rhetoric, your daughter will be blind to the idea of women being a threat.

TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:28

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 19:03

I feel like I should create a poll and find out who removes their shoes for a piss

It has never occurred to me to do that, I squat really low and have never pissed on my shoes.

But if I did i dont think I would mind as its usually wheh dog walking and I am mostly wearing wellyboots

Edited

So you are doing alfresco weeing and then complain about men doing it?

Pedallleur · 20/05/2026 19:28

UniquePinkSwan · 20/05/2026 15:10

The man bashing on this site is getting worse. If men did this on petrolheads you’d all be frothing

You know they have their own sites where they complain about women. Or they just use Facebook and don't care.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/05/2026 19:27

TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:22

Myra Hindley, Rosemary West? Giving girls the impression that women are always safe let them kill girls.

🙄. There is a reason why Myra Hindley and Rose West gets mentioned in threads like these, they are notorious because they are RARE. I could name 20 male murderers and you wouldn’t have a clue who they were.

Edited to add - and there was a male accomplice, in both.

Ninapertree · 20/05/2026 19:24

TheignT · 20/05/2026 19:22

Myra Hindley, Rosemary West? Giving girls the impression that women are always safe let them kill girls.

Myra hindley and rose west while evil, got dragged into what they did by their male partners.

Myra said she never had any thoughts of killing until she met ian. I dont know exactly how true this is. But she said that he threatened to kill her family unless she joined him