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AIBU to be annoyed at changing office days after booking travel?

31 replies

Carlie97 · 20/05/2026 14:53

I schedule my wfh days carefully and conscientiously depending on what's going on in the office, when numbers of staff are down because of leave or toil or others out at meetings and then I plan the fifteen days a month I have to be in the office. It was formally agreed I could wfh for a set amount of days a month.

I then book my travel tickets (expensive) around this and it fits into my very tight monthly budgeting. I don't have much left over for luxuries really apart from the odd takeaway maybe.

It usually works out OK, but colleagues aren't as considerate as I am and will just book leave or wfh without checking other's calendars. There's got to be a number of trained staff in the office per day.

Anyway, since I arranged my wfh days for the next month and booked my travel tickets, I've been asked to go in to the office for a meeting on a day I was supposed to be wfh. This is going to cost me lots more in travel and time and it's likely to be a meeting I could have just logged on to remotely really. I'm pissed off. Aibu?

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UnDeuxTwuh · 20/05/2026 15:05

I think the reply to your manager is “I try to book my wfh considerately, based on office staffing, but last minute travel tickets are exorbitantly expensive so I do like to stick to the days I’ve chosen. I firmed my calendar and booked my travel but now i need to be in the office. It’s a meeting I could attend remotely but I’m required to attend in person for reasons that aren’t clear to me. Can I claim travel costs for the additional day in the office because my ordinary place of work that day should have been my Home? the extra travel from my own pocket, is not really affordable on my salary. Can we have a quick chat to figure out the best way forwards? This doesn’t come up very often but with CoL increasing i can’t afford to lose money on travel plans changing last minute.”

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 20/05/2026 15:03

Yabu, working from home is usually agreed only if you’re not needed in person. Management would usually Saw you should factor in the cost of a railcard as you might be needed in person at any day and working at home is a privilege not a right. I would be sympathetic if my employee told me this but it’s not my job to organise the business needs around when they can get cheap travel when they should theoretically be available every day if working full time. I’d be annoyed if someone raised this with me.

GrumpyInsomniac · 20/05/2026 15:00

You’re not, no, but have you explained this to them? Is there an option where they let you expense the travel to compensate for the inconvenience and extra cost?

Obviously I don’t know how long you’ve worked there or how long it’s been since your last pay rise, but if finances are that tight and they’ve not been giving you pay rises adequate to cover the increased COL, it doesn’t feel unreasonable to talk to the boss and get this resolved so that you won’t be out of pocket.

And at the same time, this might make them take action to make others be considerate of staffing levels and to look before booking their wfh. Sounds like a shared calendar could solve this fairly quickly so that this doesn’t happen again.

redskyAtNigh · 20/05/2026 15:00

I think it's unusual among hybrid workers to have complete control over when they wfh (unless they have a contract that actually specifies, for example, that they work from home on Mondays and Tuesdays). The normal expectation would be that you come in on days when there are team meetings or big company events. You could request that you get advance notice (say of a week) of days when you are expected in the office, as it's pretty poor management to schedule these as last minute unless urgent.

I'd suggest you only book, maybe 13 of your days in advance, and leave the others to more last minute?

UnDeuxTwuh · 20/05/2026 14:58

Can’t you push back the timing or ask to join remotely?

You don’t have to roll over and die …

Bavariamaria · 20/05/2026 14:56

I don't think you can expect your colleagues to be more considerate other than the office being covered. Can you block out your calendar as at home days, no in person meetings?