AIBU to expect parents to tidy up in cafés?

You are taking this very personally and spectacularly missing the point. It’s the parents who leave shit being criticised.

Clearly this has hit a nerve 🤣

Well if it did happen, she probably wouldn’t behave as badly as the OP of that thread. If you didn’t read it then you can’t comment on it because it wasn’t quite as simple as you think

I watched a baby in a highchair tear bread chuck it everywhere. Two ladies just sat chatting away happy baby was amusing itself. They literally got up and left it.

WTF have dogs got to do with the discussion??

The OP of that thread claimed to have been mortified but the thread took some very bizarre turns with her calling all the other posters various insults until MN took the thread down.

Cleaner here. I clean a family restaurant and weekends and over school holidays the place is disgusting. Even the adults are absolute tramps and leave the place in a terrible state. The toilets are the worst...and thats even in the ladies loos too.

You clearly didn’t see the thread (before it was deleted because the OP was a nasty piece of work).

Perhaps don’t comment on a thread you haven’t seen.

Hardly!
I pointed out it isn’t always easy to tidy up when you’re on your own with DC. I also pointed out that it was a while ago for me so I don’t remember the details of how it went. Eating out was expensive, we didn’t have much money with small DC, so mainly ate at home or took food with us. I actually remember staying out as long as possible because DS1 was hard work at home. But we had a lot of picnics.

You're being really snippy, taking offence at that.

Probably insurance purposes. Staff are paid to do the work. Customers are not.
Diners in a restaurant are not expected to clear the tables and sweep up so why would parents in cafe be expected to?

Yes keep the filthy children locked up at home like back in your day

I notice lots of people are saying ‘we’ about clearing up. When there’s just you, sometimes the best thing you can do is take your messy child away!

It wasn’t that usual to be eating out all the time when mine were small though. I don’t remember being in that position.

It’s the same mentality that means that families with small children who book my Airbnb leave it either looking like the Marie Celeste (literally checked out leaving their breakfast plates, bins full of dirty nappies, my books and games strewn all over the floor, sticky mess everywhere, half eaten stuff in the fridge) or just dirty, crumbs everywhere, stuff mashed into the carpet, marks on walls, half broken things where kids have misused them and my favourite, the remote controls totally missing.
I’ve now banned under 16s and allowed dogs and the place is left pristine everytime. Never again.

These are the people bringing up the kids who grow up to drop litter and leave their table McDonalds looking like a war zone. Filthy, inconsiderate and entitled.

And they definitely don't leave crumbs 😀

I guess you're the person leaving the world around them looking like shit then.
Thanks

I try to clean us as best I can with napkins etc but I wouldn’t ask for a dust pan and brush .

Oh no!!!! Our child was quite far into potty training but completely unexpected he decided to do a big wee through his shorts on a pub/diner floor, it was a huge place and the toilets were far away.

I was mortified but told staff straight away and offered to clean, but they were so lovely and insisted they did it.

He also vomited in Costa once and again staff insisted they clean it and were really kind.

I wouldn't usually clean up after myself, assuming the mess was just normal crumbs etc. If I wanted to tidy up after myself I'd save my money and eat at home. The employees of the café are paid to make tables ready for the next customer. If bodily fluids were involved, or if I spilled a drink or something, that's different and I'd gladly help to clean that up.

Perhaps back in 1992 you were allowed to grab the dustpan and brush but you can’t now. Staff have to do it. I usually try to pick most of the food up and use wipes though

I worked in a cinema and a mum came over and said her little boy had had a “bit of an accident” outside one of the screens. Went over to sort it - shit everywhere. On carpet. She was not “rushing off, mortified”. She was just leaving it for someone else.

I don’t like messy people. I think it is selfish and piggy. I also couldn’t think of anything worse than a dog cafe. I love my own dog, she’s a dog who enjoys the fields not a cafe.

Let’s hope you never have to find out.

No one has said children are the enemy but if they make a disgusting mess then the parent(s) should clear it up.

I don't see dogs getting crumbs all over the floor, putting bits of food all over the table, leaving cutlery spread across the table, spilling drink on the floor and table.

The dogs I see lay quietly and well behaved.

These replies are hilarious. Bet you would all be happy to be surrounded by dogs in an eating establishment and not bat an eyelid? Society has lost the plot entirely, when dogs are revered and normalised, and children are seen as the enemy.

There is no way I would leave puke, my own or my child’s and not clear it up. That is just skanky.