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AIBU to worry my three-year-old mixes up she and her?

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TheLilacmum · 20/05/2026 08:47

my girl is just over 3 years old and have a bit of a hard time with using her and she as pronouns correctly.. she refers to everyone as she but she can make complex sentences like “ mommy do you remember when I got stuck on the little slide at the park ? .. she is fine with the other pronouns but I can’t seem to be able to help her regardless of how many times I correct her ..
how normal is that in neurotypical kids

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TorturedParentsDepartment · 20/05/2026 08:54

I'll humour you - but as an autistic SALT - it's not the end of the world if she is.

Pronouns are slippery little linguistic bastards and can take time to nail.

Needmorelego · 20/05/2026 08:54

Cosimarocks · 20/05/2026 08:52

Are you in the US? If not, then she has an issue far worse than ‘she’ and ‘her’, ‘mommy’?!

To defend the OP on just this -Mom/Mommy is used in Birmingham and the West Midlands.

Walkacrossthesand · 20/05/2026 08:53

Just re-read - same concept but when she uses ‘her’ incorrectly, respond with ‘she’. Don’t correct her directly, just model the proper use.

Needmorelego · 20/05/2026 08:53

Funny..... I was just thinking yesterday we haven't heard from you in a while.
She's 3.
She's barely out of babyhood.

Cosimarocks · 20/05/2026 08:52

Are you in the US? If not, then she has an issue far worse than ‘she’ and ‘her’, ‘mommy’?!

Walkacrossthesand · 20/05/2026 08:51

It’ll come. It’s not that long ago that she didn’t have the words for me/I. Just include the correct word in your reply eg ‘her going down slide’; ‘yes, she is going down the slide isn’t she’

Utopiaqueen · 20/05/2026 08:51

Oh goodness me, here we go again. I was wondering when you'd be back again with a new non issue.

Mine did this when he was three. Didn't even occur to me it was a problem. Because it wasn't.

nutbrownhare15 · 20/05/2026 08:50

I thought stuff like that at three was cute. She'll learn in her own time. Her brain is really busy learning other things right now.

Viviennemary · 20/05/2026 08:50

I'm no expert. Bug three year olds often don't use pronouns just the name of the person or thing.

CurbsideProphet · 20/05/2026 08:50

You must be the poster who regularly asks anonymous strangers on the internet whether your child has Autism.

Hadalifeonce · 20/05/2026 08:50

She is 3! She is learning how to use complex language.

VintedQ · 20/05/2026 08:49

Totally normal. Mine got he and she mixed up all the time.

MotherofPufflings · 20/05/2026 08:49

Lots of adults haven't mastered this either tbf! It sounds very normal for a 3 year old to get it wrong.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 20/05/2026 08:49

It’s totally normal, she’s 3. It’s also normal in neurodiverse 3 year olds too, it’s not an indicator of anything other than being a toddler that’s still learning and has bigger things to worry about than pronouns.

thisistheworstpossibletiming · 20/05/2026 08:49

Seriously?

lazyarse123 · 20/05/2026 08:48

She's three.

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