I wear big comfy pants. I’d like to understand why people wear uncomfortable looking underwear

I wear thongs for myself every day.... Never for a man! I find them more comfortable than all the material of a 'big knicker' Plus, I feel like my nan in big knickers 😆

This, every word.

I don't find lace itchy. The elastic trim on most big pants however will have me clawing my skin off.

Exactly the same. I've worn thongs ever since I had a choice in buying my underwear as a teen. Only wear big pants if I'm having a heavy period, or have just given birth. I hate the feel of the material cutting in to or under my bum cheeks. I can barely feel I'm wearing a thong, whereas I'm constantly aware and uncomfortable wearing big knickers.

Everyone finds different things comfortable, maybe it comes down to anatomy. The only annoying thing about thongs is when people (other women) assume you're lying about finding them comfortable and that you secretly only wear them for the male gaze.

My pants, along with some other items of clothing, got misplaced on a flight (or at least I was on one flight and my case wasn’t) long story short, first day on holiday and I had to borrow my dh boxers. Do you know what? I’ve never looked back. Boxers all the way from that time on.

I just wear bikini style knickers - always have.

I find granny pants uncomfortable.

Some women find bras really uncomfortable and can't wait to get it off as soon as they get home. Some, like me, don't find them uncomfortable and can't really feel at all it so don't have the same desire to take it off asap. It cannot be news to you that people find different things comfortable or not.

But wouldn’t the world be a better place if more people dressed for themselves instead of buying into all this crap?

That said I totally draw the line at pyjamas etc in public but that’s because it’s a skanky thing to do and instantly gives the impression that the person is filthy

That is the lie that women have been fed since birth. Men don’t generally have uncomfortable clothing.

Women are encouraged to wear ridiculously uncomfortable stuff because it pleases the male gaze and we are lead to believe that comfortable = ugly.

Some people then feel they prefer uncomfortable, impractical clothing.

I find big pants uncomfortable. I am not in a relationship, so I definitely don't wear pants for anyone other than myself but big pants are not what I find comfortable. I also like to wear pants that sit well under my clothes and again big pants fail that test for me. I like pants that are comfortable and don't show nasty lines through the clothes you put over the top of them, so I choose my pants and all my underwear on that basis, regardless of my relationship status!

I don't see the point in thongs. May as well not wear any underwear. They seem just for show, no real function.

I like big pants.

I miss the days when people had the imagination to answer these kind of questions for themselves.

Of course it could be trying to get this info for nefarious purposes

I wear nice/lacey/colourful/sexy underwear because it makes me feel good. It makes me feel sexy and happy. Of course I only wear underwear that I find comfortable as well.

Wearing big pants would make me feel depressed and like I'd given up on life, but if you like it then that's your perogative OP. Who am I to judge 🙂

I find big pants so uncomfortable. I don't want all that extra material touching me. I've worn thongs for over 25 years and the only time I wore big pants was just after I gave birth to keep the ginormous maternity pads in place.

It's the same as anything, surely? Clothes that are comfortable, above all else, also tend to be ugly and some people don't want to wear ugly clothes - they want to look and feel nice.

To each their own?? On my day to day I wear plain black underwear, but I have friends who are very, very into lingerie and wear matching lace type sets every day. If it’s how you feel good, why not? It’s no one’s business.

I just don’t find them uncomfortable? I find bigger pants uncomfortable as they sit wrong…. Or sit weirdly under my clothes.

You're right, of course. I should have made it clearer I was talking about clothes in general. Heaven forbid that anyone should be exposed to my knickers!!!

But I do think that thoughtful dressing (if you have that luxurious choice) makes the world a nicer place. I've noticed that older people tend to make an effort to dress with other people in mind, and not just their own comfort.

But I'm of the school which doesn't want to see people in their pyjamas outside the house...and I know that's not a popular view on MN.

Why do people make choices which differ from your own ? Why have choices at all?

Perhaps some women’s anatomy is slightly different in shape, and an alternative style feels better? Perhaps granny pants show lines under their gym clothes?
Perhaps they like a draft on a hot day ?

I don’t find big pants comfortable and they show under jeans.

When young and slim, g-strings were far more comfortable than anything else, but I wear stretchy low rise (non VPL) shorts now which are fabulous.

Horses for courses?!

Why do you need to "understand" other people's underwear choices? Why does it affect you? Wear your big pants, live your life, no one cares!

When I was very slim a throng was the most comfortable thing to wear. Who wants all that extra granny pant material?

We're all different, but I don't go out with my underwear visible, so there is no risk that thousands of people will be traumatised by seeing my pants. Do you do a Superman act and wear yours over your trousers?

All joking aside, fashion changes all the time. I find it absolutely bizarre to think that anyone feels I have an obligation to choose uncomfortable clothes so that other people can see something that is currently fashionable. I choose what I want to wear. There are aesthetic considerations but I'm not going to choose something impractical and uncomfortable.

@ineededanewnameitsbeentoolong boxers are loose, surely? Boxers shorts?

I’ve traded up, OP. I’ve discovered the joys of the long John. Big knickers with legs. Supreme comfort.

Newsflash: your comfortable isn’t everyone’s comfortable. I find granny pants incredibly uncomfortable. Either proper boxers (as in men’s tight boxers), or thongs. I don’t like anything in between.