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I wear big comfy pants. I’d like to understand why people wear uncomfortable looking underwear

107 replies

Cutchemist · 20/05/2026 08:30

Is it for men? If so why wear it on a daily basis when you’re not having sex? If you lived on a desert island on your own would you still wear the uncomfortable itchy lace stuff? Aibu

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ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 11:01

what makes you think lace pants or "nicer looking" underwear are uncomfortable? Just.. buy the right size? It's not hard 😂

Mine are so comfy I even wear them with tighter trousers or dresses where plain ones would problably be a better look. Who cares.

Big pants are very uncomfortable for me. On the other hand, sports bras are my absolute favourite, and I would happily live in them. Other people find them uncomfortable.

You are not morally superior because you wear what you find aesthetically looking (in your opinion, it's all relative) ugly pants.

MargoLivebetter · 20/05/2026 10:57

@Somethingbland but you are not just sharing an opinion that you find them disgusting, you are saying that they are a health hazard. Massive difference!

Somethingbland · 20/05/2026 10:54

Shallotsaresmallonions · 20/05/2026 10:47

I've worn thongs regularly for years and never had any kind of infection. Pretty rank to not pay "scrupulous attention to correct hygiene procedures after defecating" anyway, isn't it?

Well apparently there are specific instructions online for the benefit of thong wearers because standard hygiene practice aren't sufficient to guard against the possibility of infections.

Fair enough if you are a thong fan. I reserve the right to find them disgusting. Vive la difference.

BarbiesDreamHome · 20/05/2026 10:53

Im sad youre you're assuming anything other than massive plain pants are uncomfortable and "for men". Do you realise how judgy and up on your high horse you sound?

To answer your question, all pants can be comfortable if they fit right. I wear high waist for high jeans as its a smoother line, low pants for dresses so i dont get the belly line and lace and thongs are is very soft and good for moving with you and not cutting in if you're being super active.

The only pants I don't have is Judgy Pants. Where do you get yours?

MargoLivebetter · 20/05/2026 10:49

I've just done a quick google, as I have never in all my years of wearing thongs heard about them being a health hazard and this came up:

"Thongs… friend or foe?
Whilst the thin strip of fabric on a thong may be sleek and discreet, some people think that these can lead to an increased risk of conditions like thrush, bacterial vaginosis (BV) and urinary tract infections (UTIs) like cystitis.
Contrary to popular belief, there’s no concrete evidence to suggest that wearing thongs is actually bad for your vulva and your health. A study from 2005* looked directly at string underwear and found that it doesn’t mess with the pH balance and the microclimate down there or even the friendly bacteria found on your skin. So, any worries about thongs causing chaos? Myth!
Another study from 2018** decided to tackle the question we’ve all wanted the answer to: do thongs lead to UTIs, BV or vaginal thrush? The study found no evidence to back up the idea that thongs can cause these issues, so that’s another myth debunked!"

So, I beg to disagree that thongs are a vaginal health hazard.

Shallotsaresmallonions · 20/05/2026 10:49

Somethingbland · 20/05/2026 10:47

Yes i clean myself. I still find the thought of thongs disgusting.

I'm struggling to understand why all your pants go up your bum crack. I've never heard of people having this problem.

A different body shape, I guess 🤷‍♀️

Ffffff886 · 20/05/2026 10:48

I think thong wearers just dont have haemorroids or big labias

Shallotsaresmallonions · 20/05/2026 10:47

Somethingbland · 20/05/2026 10:41

I thought it was general knowledge that wearing items such as thongs can be the source of vaginal infections because of the bacteria from the anus on the material travelling into the vaginal area.

I know that if you wear thongs there has to be scrupulous attention to correct hygiene procedures after defecating. And the general recommendation is not to wear thongs or tight underwear on a daily basis for health reasons.

Throwing out a piece of material that had been stuck up my bum all day would be my natural reaction were I ever to wear a thong.

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I've worn thongs regularly for years and never had any kind of infection. Pretty rank to not pay "scrupulous attention to correct hygiene procedures after defecating" anyway, isn't it?

Somethingbland · 20/05/2026 10:47

Shallotsaresmallonions · 20/05/2026 10:36

Do you not clean yourself after using the bathroom?

The material ends up going up my bumcrack whatever kind of pants I'm wearing so I'm not sure what the difference is hygienically.

Yes i clean myself. I still find the thought of thongs disgusting.

I'm struggling to understand why all your pants go up your bum crack. I've never heard of people having this problem.

ineededanewnameitsbeentoolong · 20/05/2026 10:47

Somethingbland · 20/05/2026 10:25

Really?

My thought is why does any want a stringy bit of material stuck up the crack of their bum?

And the hygiene implications don't bear thinking about: they must be disgusting when you take them off at the end of the day. Did you used to put them straight in the bin?

Do you not wash?????

Ffffff886 · 20/05/2026 10:46

MargoLivebetter · 20/05/2026 10:46

@Somethingbland no, I've never heard that. Worn thongs for over 20 years and never had a vaginal infection!

It's widely known

MargoLivebetter · 20/05/2026 10:46

@Somethingbland no, I've never heard that. Worn thongs for over 20 years and never had a vaginal infection!

MrsShawnHatosy · 20/05/2026 10:45

Shallotsaresmallonions · 20/05/2026 10:36

Do you not clean yourself after using the bathroom?

The material ends up going up my bumcrack whatever kind of pants I'm wearing so I'm not sure what the difference is hygienically.

Really? I never find that comfy knickers go up my bum crack personally. That’s why I prefer them. Not for nothing are thongs known as bum flossers.

Ffffff886 · 20/05/2026 10:43

Some people are not as sensitive to textures and textiles, have very neat, varicose vein free genitals and pubic hair or loose skin is not an issue for them. There is no friction when they wear tight or lace because their body is built different it doesn't chaffe or rub. Their pelvis is probably differently positioned to yours they dont get it bunched up as easily.

Somethingbland · 20/05/2026 10:41

MargoLivebetter · 20/05/2026 10:32

@Somethingbland my goodness, what is going on in your bum crack that you think you'd have to throw a thong out after wearing it once?!

I thought it was general knowledge that wearing items such as thongs can be the source of vaginal infections because of the bacteria from the anus on the material travelling into the vaginal area.

I know that if you wear thongs there has to be scrupulous attention to correct hygiene procedures after defecating. And the general recommendation is not to wear thongs or tight underwear on a daily basis for health reasons.

Throwing out a piece of material that had been stuck up my bum all day would be my natural reaction were I ever to wear a thong.

RosieandBluey · 20/05/2026 10:41

I prefer thongs during the day as I don’t like having a vpl. I don’t wear lace though, for the same reason. Just smooth ones. To sleep I wear boyshorts as I find them comfiest.

Shallotsaresmallonions · 20/05/2026 10:36

Somethingbland · 20/05/2026 10:25

Really?

My thought is why does any want a stringy bit of material stuck up the crack of their bum?

And the hygiene implications don't bear thinking about: they must be disgusting when you take them off at the end of the day. Did you used to put them straight in the bin?

Do you not clean yourself after using the bathroom?

The material ends up going up my bumcrack whatever kind of pants I'm wearing so I'm not sure what the difference is hygienically.

MargoLivebetter · 20/05/2026 10:32

@Somethingbland my goodness, what is going on in your bum crack that you think you'd have to throw a thong out after wearing it once?!

BringBackCatsEyes · 20/05/2026 10:29

Cutchemist · 20/05/2026 08:33

Oh I don’t want them to do that. Just to understand why they wear them

Why do you want to understand this?

Somethingbland · 20/05/2026 10:25

UnDeuxTwuh · 20/05/2026 08:44

When I was very slim a throng was the most comfortable thing to wear. Who wants all that extra granny pant material?

Really?

My thought is why does any want a stringy bit of material stuck up the crack of their bum?

And the hygiene implications don't bear thinking about: they must be disgusting when you take them off at the end of the day. Did you used to put them straight in the bin?

OFiddleDeeDee · 20/05/2026 10:10

omg I feel like this is a guy trying to get descriptors of women's underwear

wendywoopywoo222 · 20/05/2026 10:09

Whatever your shape of underwear I would say that if it’s uncomfortable it’s probably the wrong size. I always size up with a thong

BauhausOfEliott · 20/05/2026 10:05

Why do you need to understand this? Other people’s underwear doesn’t affect you. Just assume that people are wearing whatever knickers make them happy.

LettuceAndCarrots · 20/05/2026 10:00

I absolutely hate thongs, they are so uncomfortable to me. Like having a wedgy all the time. But I suppose different people are shaped differently and feel things differently as I have friends who find them really comfy.

I feel the same about flip flops - some people clearly can wear them comfortably all day but for me, they are the devil's footwear. I hate the thing between your toes, they won't stay on my feet. I literally can't walk in them as they immediately fall off. Urghh. I suppose it must be my foot shape.

Similarly leggings, and some kinds of fabric.

If I'm wearing a dress, I actually like a petticoat in lieu of knickers.

ButterYellowFlowers · 20/05/2026 09:50

Humans are shaped in different ways that make things fit differently. I find very large undies horrible because I am unevenly shaped so they ride up…

Same as bra shapes working for different shapes.

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