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to turn away my takeaway?

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FlayOtters · 19/05/2026 19:42

Opinions please! My friend thinks me and my husband are being completely ridiculous but I'm adamant we're in the right (but happy to be told otherwise!)
Ordered an Indian takeaway on ubereats for tonight (50% off woop woop!). Asked for scheduled delivery 7.40-8. All good, order accepted, confirmation email, your order will be delivered at 7.40.
Come 6.10 there is a ring on the bell and it's our food! We were just starting to try and calm our 5 and 2 year olds down before bedtime started, and were basically nowhere near ready for dinner! So we said "no". The man just stood and stared at us like we were utterly insane. After about a minute of silent staring he went back to his car to call his manager and then yelled out of the window that he'd come back later and drove off.
Now I know there is a reasonable chance he'll just being the exact same food back (possibly with added spit), but I think the principal remains. What is the point of being able to schedule delivery if it's totally ignored?? We wanted hot, fresh food at about 8 after the boys were asleep and we could relax. My friend happened to call a minute ago and basically said that I was being ridiculous and should've just taken the food. Who's right?
YABU - just take the damn food whenever it comes, Otters!
YANBU -you paid for the food to be delivered at a certain time, it's reasoab to want it at that time.

OP posts:
Shedmistress · 19/05/2026 20:01

You'd rather it sit in the back of a car for 2 hours than just take it and reheat it yourselves?

It takes all sorts.

Comedycook · 19/05/2026 20:01

In theory you're right. In practice I'd have just taken it and heated it up

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 19/05/2026 20:01

I think I would have taken it to avoid getting the same food back later with added spit! And then taken it up with the restaurant.

Anxietyxxx · 19/05/2026 20:00

Just re heat it ive done it many times before.
In fact i love it if it arrives early.
Im with your friend on this.
Its not the drivers fault is it.

VIII · 19/05/2026 20:00

Your friend is completely correct.

The poor delivery driver, why were you so rude to him? His job is to deliver the order. He didn't decide it would be hilarious if he delivered it an hour and a half early. Hmm

I'd be surprised if they delivered it again to be honest.

Giraffeandthedog · 19/05/2026 19:59

I certainly wouldn’t eat the redelivered food 😂

Clearly there has just been a mistake. The order has gone to the kitchen too early. Personally I would have accepted it and reheated it, simply because mistakes happen and it was a one-off.

user1471453601 · 19/05/2026 19:59

Do you not have a microwave?

ButterYellowFlowers · 19/05/2026 19:56

While it was bad of them I’d have just accepted it and reheated. Then not ordered from there again.

dontforgetme · 19/05/2026 19:56

I 100% agree with your friend!

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 19/05/2026 19:50

I think YABU actually, it’s not the drivers fault and you were incredibly rude

anxiouslywaiting8 · 19/05/2026 19:48

I would have accepted the food personally, your right that it should have been delivered during the correct window and it's annoying it wasn't but I find those delivery services unpredictable. So maybe next time just order once your kids are already in bed.

buymeaboaanddrivemetoreno · 19/05/2026 19:47

sounds like it’s not the delivery drivers fault but someone ignoring this at the restaurant! Definitely not unreasonable, the curry would be fine but the naan and other things might not be!

TrufflePigs · 19/05/2026 19:46

So we said "no". The man just stood and stared at us like we were utterly insane. After about a minute of silent staring he went back to his car to call his manager and then yelled out of the window that he'd come back later and drove off.

I would have explained the time slot you had booked the delivery for, asked him to come back, and explained why it wasn’t convenient for you to accept the food.

But if you’ve only able to speak in one word sentence and have the time to stare silently at someone for a minute then you do you!