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to turn away my takeaway?

213 replies

FlayOtters · 19/05/2026 19:42

Opinions please! My friend thinks me and my husband are being completely ridiculous but I'm adamant we're in the right (but happy to be told otherwise!)
Ordered an Indian takeaway on ubereats for tonight (50% off woop woop!). Asked for scheduled delivery 7.40-8. All good, order accepted, confirmation email, your order will be delivered at 7.40.
Come 6.10 there is a ring on the bell and it's our food! We were just starting to try and calm our 5 and 2 year olds down before bedtime started, and were basically nowhere near ready for dinner! So we said "no". The man just stood and stared at us like we were utterly insane. After about a minute of silent staring he went back to his car to call his manager and then yelled out of the window that he'd come back later and drove off.
Now I know there is a reasonable chance he'll just being the exact same food back (possibly with added spit), but I think the principal remains. What is the point of being able to schedule delivery if it's totally ignored?? We wanted hot, fresh food at about 8 after the boys were asleep and we could relax. My friend happened to call a minute ago and basically said that I was being ridiculous and should've just taken the food. Who's right?
YABU - just take the damn food whenever it comes, Otters!
YANBU -you paid for the food to be delivered at a certain time, it's reasoab to want it at that time.

OP posts:
MilkyLeonard · 20/05/2026 13:53

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 13:38

so your solution is...what? for the driver to wait with the food at the end of the road for 90 minutes?

yes, it makes perfect sense 😂

Why would that be the solution, rather than him going back to the restaurant? You know - the place that caused the issue in the first place?

Safarisagoody · 20/05/2026 13:52

FlayOtters · 20/05/2026 07:58

please read my updates. I said "no" for brevity on here. Obviously I (very politely!) explained that we had ordered it for 1.5 hours later and didn't want it right now.
Thanks for all the opinions. To the people who said they'd have just taken it in and reheated it, youre probably right.
To the people who query why it wouldn't have been just as enjoyable to take it in and eat with kids who had already had dinner while simultaneously trying to get them ready for bed..... sorry if this makes me a terrible mother but that sounds AWFUL.
To the people who have somehow conflated this minor pondering about a takeaway delivery with me being responsible for not interested in global hunger or poverty. I have no words. 😐

Do you not have an oven.where you could leave it on low?

Safarisagoody · 20/05/2026 13:49

I’d just have shoved it in the oven. No big deal,

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 13:38

MilkyLeonard · 20/05/2026 08:01

The kitchen may have cooked it and sent it out, but the driver is the one who delivers it, so it’s the driver the OP told to take it back. Was she just meant to accept the mistake to spare his feelings?

so your solution is...what? for the driver to wait with the food at the end of the road for 90 minutes?

yes, it makes perfect sense 😂

NCyesPls · 20/05/2026 13:37

Someone needs to study this, I think, irrational need to not offend. Wtf.

It doesn't matter whether the delivery driver is at fault or not. This is non of the OPs buisness. The OP made a business transaction. Deliver X at Y. X was delivered at Z. How can the OP be wrong for saying, no this is not what I paid for, honour the previous agreement.
You did nothing wrong OP. There is a type of madness going around. Be glad you are not infected.

Madickenxx · 20/05/2026 13:15

Whenever I schedule an order on Uber Eats, the app doesn't send through the order to the restaurant until the right time to make your delivery slot. Never have I had the order placed straight away - are you sure you scheduled it correctly?

ToffeePennie · 20/05/2026 13:09

The amount of times I have scheduled a delivery and it’s been insanely early or really late is crazy. I now ring up and specify and double check they have passed it on to their driver team and cooks, it’s so annoying.

Missey85 · 20/05/2026 13:01

YABU it's not the delivery person's fault

Doingtheboxerbeat · 20/05/2026 12:58

SignGrudgeBluebook · 20/05/2026 12:39

Where else are there threads about famine in Afghanistan and a 50% off food delivery being sent away because it's been delivered at the wrong time?

Eh?

Allow me to introduce you to the comments section on all media, social or otherwise.
People moan about trivial stuff while really bad things happen in the world - it's literally an everyday occurrence.

millymollymandy321 · 20/05/2026 12:57

Otters???

TwinklySquid · 20/05/2026 12:55

If you suspected it was the same food, why does it matter if you or they heat it up?

SignGrudgeBluebook · 20/05/2026 12:39

Doingtheboxerbeat · 20/05/2026 12:25

This is not true though is it, as it happens in real life too, where neighbours are complaining about your bins being left out too long and atrocious things are also happening elsewhere.
I get your point but it's obviously not just MN.

Where else are there threads about famine in Afghanistan and a 50% off food delivery being sent away because it's been delivered at the wrong time?

Doingtheboxerbeat · 20/05/2026 12:25

SignGrudgeBluebook · 20/05/2026 07:19

Only on MN can there be a thread about people in Afghanistan starving and having to sell their children for food and another where the (50% off) food is delivered too early and it's rejected as a result.

This is not true though is it, as it happens in real life too, where neighbours are complaining about your bins being left out too long and atrocious things are also happening elsewhere.
I get your point but it's obviously not just MN.

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 20/05/2026 11:09

pinkksugarmouse · 19/05/2026 22:23

Tell me you don't have children without telling me you don't have children. 🤣

Of course the OP can consume food in their presence but having a takeaway when the kids are asleep and you can eat without constant interpretation is a fantastic treat.

Edited

I do have children.

MajorProcrastination · 20/05/2026 09:50

I'd have just taken it in, kept in warm in the oven and enjoyed it when we were ready.

PsychoHotSauce · 20/05/2026 09:41

I think this is an ubereats design flaw, as it's happened to me before too. I suspect that orders just come through without it being flagged or highlighted clearly that it's a scheduled order, and because 99.9% of orders are not scheduled, the takeaways just process them automatically.

MilkyLeonard · 20/05/2026 09:35

GinaandGin · 20/05/2026 08:50

You sound a right madam.
Use a microwave and stop getting so bunched up about stupid things
You got 50% off
Gratitude in the attitude

“Gratitude”? For a promotional price the company chose to offer?

AlwaysALittleHomesick · 20/05/2026 09:02

I wouldn’t have accepted it, but I would have told them not to bother at all and I’d have ordered from somewhere else as I wouldn’t have risked getting the same food back.

We have our shopping delivered and they had a spell where they would turn up an hour early. It wasn’t always convenient as we were eating dinner, sometimes not even home, had visitors, busy doing something etc, but they seemed to think we should be happy because they were early. Early isn’t always good, you pick a time for a reason.

TheIceBear · 20/05/2026 08:56

It’s a little annoying and for all they knew you weren’t even going to be home at that time . Despite this I would have just taken it instead of making a big mountain out of a molehill. If they throw it out and make a fresh one for you that’s an awful waste of food when it can be microwaved. And things like samosas and naans crisp up grand in the air fryer . I think you need to get over yourself a bit to be honest .

LittleRobins · 20/05/2026 08:52

If you pay for a time slot for any service that’s when it should arrive. If our grocery shopping arrives even ten minutes early they call us before hand to check it’s okay. I recently ordered a taxi to take me to hospital for surgery and it arrived an hour early. They called to say they had arrived and were then annoyed with me when I said I was still packing my suitcase.

GinaandGin · 20/05/2026 08:50

You sound a right madam.
Use a microwave and stop getting so bunched up about stupid things
You got 50% off
Gratitude in the attitude

samthepigeon · 20/05/2026 08:28

ReignOfError · 19/05/2026 20:03

You’re not going to get fresh, hot food though.

Although I agree with this, the flavours in curry develop over time. I would have accepted it, and made a note to self: don't order from there again/if I do order from there again, reiterate delivery time.

Woodythewonderpony · 20/05/2026 08:07

I don’t think you were rude. We have sent a delivery back that was delivered a hour too early - it wasn’t something that could easily be reheated or kept warm. We had ordered it for when our son would return home from a long journey. Fortunately the driver realised it was early from his ticket and took it back without question🤷‍♀️ plus we order quite regularly from them…..

Londonrach1 · 20/05/2026 08:05

You were rude to the poor delivery guy. I'm with your friend here. The delivery guy didn't know the time slot. Yabu

MilkyLeonard · 20/05/2026 08:01

Mumtobabyhavoc · 20/05/2026 00:56

Dear God.... 🤦‍♀️
The kitchen cooked the order and sent it out. The driver has no control over that.

The kitchen may have cooked it and sent it out, but the driver is the one who delivers it, so it’s the driver the OP told to take it back. Was she just meant to accept the mistake to spare his feelings?