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ruethewhirl · 24/05/2026 23:28

NotTheOrdinary · 19/05/2026 17:21

Some people barely earn enough to pay the bills. How are they meant to save for a pension too?

This! FFS, it should be obvious.

Differentforgirls · 24/05/2026 21:32

Papyrophile · 24/05/2026 20:41

That's a bit snide. My grandparents were the silent generation, born in the 1910-20. My in laws were born in 1929 and 1930. My DM was born in 1935. They are all dead now, except my dad who is 92 and does not remember anything about his first family. I'm his oldest child, and he thinks I'm his younger sister. But he also thinks his wife of almost 50 years is his daughter. Dementia is very cruel.

Meant to add. My Dad died with dementia. It’s awful 😞 x

Differentforgirls · 24/05/2026 21:29

Papyrophile · 24/05/2026 20:41

That's a bit snide. My grandparents were the silent generation, born in the 1910-20. My in laws were born in 1929 and 1930. My DM was born in 1935. They are all dead now, except my dad who is 92 and does not remember anything about his first family. I'm his oldest child, and he thinks I'm his younger sister. But he also thinks his wife of almost 50 years is his daughter. Dementia is very cruel.

Mine were born in the 40s.

Differentforgirls · 24/05/2026 21:28

DrRylandGrace · 24/05/2026 20:23

Silent generation. They had integrity.

Completely different to current retirees of whom the vast majority are Boomers and did not live through the second world war and instead lived through the longest period of prosperity and peace that any generation has experienced to date.

Like me?

Differentforgirls · 24/05/2026 21:25

AniahJeremiah · 24/05/2026 19:58

Aye, so they are silent generation, not boomers.

I don’t know 🤷‍♀️

Differentforgirls · 24/05/2026 21:24

Badbadbunny · 24/05/2026 19:57

No, but there are ever increasing numbers of people either taking early retirement from occupational pension schemes (or personal pension plans) or simply opting out of work and living on savings (or inheritances or a partner) for the intervening years until state pension age.

By "opting out", they're not paying income tax/NIC on wages, and not contributing to the economy via work productivity etc thus contributing to the stagnant/falling GDP. In the case of certain professions/occupations such as within the NHS there is the knock on effect of causing staff shortages and thus delaying services, i.e. increasing NHS waiting lists etc., which in turn means more people unable to work etc.

I’m retired on a private pension. I pay income tax on it. Same with my husband.

DrRylandGrace · 24/05/2026 21:08

Papyrophile · 24/05/2026 20:59

@DrRylandGrace I have had friends over for lunch this afternoon, so I have been battering the pots and pans instead of following the thread as attentively as it deserves. And this thread is really deserving of close attention. MN is my only social media addiction, and I am only really interested in public policy and fashion. I read your post quickly this evening, and would like to give it more time and thought before replying.

Thank you. I’m grateful if you take the time to read it, very grateful. I really try to put forward solutions but most people don’t want to hear them.

As I said earlier in the thread I am not affiliated with any political ideology or party, I’m a facts and evidence person and desperately want the UK to implement some evidence-based policy based on what we know works because it’s already tried and tested in other countries. It’s insane for us to refuse to do this and continue down our path with models of services and taxation that we know will make us all poorer.

I am so sorry for the tragedies in your family. Mine are suffering similar things so I do empathise. There are ways that we can be fair (in a reasonable sense of the word, which doesn’t mean redistributing everyone’s money to others) and also create a functional society so nobody has to live in poverty and there is some sense of social cohesion again, but this requires big structural changes that I fear nobody will implement until it’s too late.

I must go and be with my children now. I hope you have a nice evening and thank you for the courteous responses: I’m happy to debate any topic with anybody and exchange views and reconsider my position if they have more data or another idea to put forward, but there’s been not much of that on this thread at all, just insults flying around against anybody certain posters don’t agree with yet them adding nothing to the discussion and proposing no solutions themselves.

I would be interested to hear your thoughts when you do have time to consider my post about what I would do if I was the Government, which I was pressed to provide, as I am always looking for new perspectives or flaws in ideas in order to make them better.

Papyrophile · 24/05/2026 20:59

@DrRylandGrace I have had friends over for lunch this afternoon, so I have been battering the pots and pans instead of following the thread as attentively as it deserves. And this thread is really deserving of close attention. MN is my only social media addiction, and I am only really interested in public policy and fashion. I read your post quickly this evening, and would like to give it more time and thought before replying.

DrRylandGrace · 24/05/2026 20:58

Apprentice26 · 24/05/2026 20:55

I dont care about your parents 🤷‍♀️

Well that’s not nice either, is it?

Why does everybody have to be so nasty to each other and not have a rational discussion about ways to make things better?

Apprentice26 · 24/05/2026 20:55

Papyrophile · 24/05/2026 20:30

I really don't care. I am looking after my kid. Your child is your responsibility. Frankly, I want my DC to have a secure home that no one can take away. DC has skills and talents that will provide a living but perhaps not enough to pay rent too.

I dont care about your parents 🤷‍♀️

PhaedraTwo · 24/05/2026 20:52

AniahJeremiah · 24/05/2026 19:28

There is nothing good to be said about them.

Not content with out earning their parents and stealing all the council housing for a lower than market price (right to buy), selling council housing to private landlords, preventing new housing being built and buying investment properties for their own greed, they now have forced the government to subsidise them as by far the richest demographic in the country through triple lock (BTW, when the news talks about rising welfare bill, this is the vast majority of it) at the expense of everyone else, most of all young people thru student loan interest another con. I really hope enough young people leave the country to teach them a lesson. For many it will be the only way to avoid poverty. I (35) will never see state pension. Of course young people are to blame as well for not voting. Vicious boomers + apathetic, useless milennials = social collapse.

They're collapsing society thru their greed as nobody affording a house = nobody having children.

It's a shame COVID killed all the old people born before the war, who were miles better; knew the value of duty, sacrifice, and working on behalf of others.

Although from what I hear statistically, the boomers don't take care of their health very well, and are actually dying sooner than the prewar born generations. Maybe once their assets pass thru inheritance that will be many people's retirement plans?

For the record before ppl come at me this is about groups not individuals. My parents are boomers and I love them to bits and I love many boomers in my life... But the collective political behaviour of that group is one of a vicious, selfish, spoiled teenager who's never been told no.

What a nasty, spiteful post, full of sweeping generalisations.

DrRylandGrace · 24/05/2026 20:51

Papyrophile · 24/05/2026 20:50

Apologies, @DrRylandGrace. Poorly judged, and a badly worded comment. You have not said anything I disagree with. But you are right: dementia is horrible.

It is the worst illness of all in my opinion. It robs someone of themself and all of their memories.

DrRylandGrace · 24/05/2026 20:50

What has been notable is that despite the multiple personal attacks that have taken place (not directed at @Papyrophile , just to be clear, because that was the last comment I responded to I’m sure some are so hard of thinking they’d assume I was referring to this poster and I am not, as her comment was perfectly reasonable I just don’t understand the relevance to what I’d said so have queried this, but this was not a personal attack from her at all) NOT ONE of the posters making the personal attacks calling me “psychotic” or “spiteful” or whatever else has actually bothered to respond at all to my post earlier this afternoon at 13:40 (a detailed explanation of what steps I’d take most immediately to address the UK’s economic issues, as was demanded) let alone put forward an alternative explaining how they’d fix the problems in the UK economy and put forward an alternative prospectus of economic policies that they believe would mean that productivity and living standards would rise.

It seems that there is little interest at all in even discussing proposed solutions, only insulting and disparaging people even if they are complete strangers on the internet and making up things to try to discredit them: no engagement whatsoever with any kind of economic discussion about ways to improve things. Very depressing, and precisely why the UK economy is screwed.

Papyrophile · 24/05/2026 20:50

Apologies, @DrRylandGrace. Poorly judged, and a badly worded comment. You have not said anything I disagree with. But you are right: dementia is horrible.

BIossomtoes · 24/05/2026 20:48

Papyrophile · 24/05/2026 20:41

That's a bit snide. My grandparents were the silent generation, born in the 1910-20. My in laws were born in 1929 and 1930. My DM was born in 1935. They are all dead now, except my dad who is 92 and does not remember anything about his first family. I'm his oldest child, and he thinks I'm his younger sister. But he also thinks his wife of almost 50 years is his daughter. Dementia is very cruel.

Your grandparents were Greatest generation as were my parents. We’re roughly the same age and your grandparents were born in the same era as my parents.

DrRylandGrace · 24/05/2026 20:43

Papyrophile · 24/05/2026 20:41

That's a bit snide. My grandparents were the silent generation, born in the 1910-20. My in laws were born in 1929 and 1930. My DM was born in 1935. They are all dead now, except my dad who is 92 and does not remember anything about his first family. I'm his oldest child, and he thinks I'm his younger sister. But he also thinks his wife of almost 50 years is his daughter. Dementia is very cruel.

I’m so sorry to hear this.

However, I’m not sure what it has to do with what I said, or how it makes my comment “snide”.

Papyrophile · 24/05/2026 20:41

DrRylandGrace · 24/05/2026 20:23

Silent generation. They had integrity.

Completely different to current retirees of whom the vast majority are Boomers and did not live through the second world war and instead lived through the longest period of prosperity and peace that any generation has experienced to date.

That's a bit snide. My grandparents were the silent generation, born in the 1910-20. My in laws were born in 1929 and 1930. My DM was born in 1935. They are all dead now, except my dad who is 92 and does not remember anything about his first family. I'm his oldest child, and he thinks I'm his younger sister. But he also thinks his wife of almost 50 years is his daughter. Dementia is very cruel.

crossedlines · 24/05/2026 20:31

This venom towards boomers would be hilarious if it wasn’t so pathetic!

Papyrophile · 24/05/2026 20:30

Apprentice26 · 24/05/2026 19:33

So then again, you’re going to cause an enormous divide again - between those whose parents are actually decent human beings and pay forward the inheritance probably like we did in the Victorian times consider the money to be family money that needs to stay in the family
Versus those who don’t
And if you’re in one of those families who feel absolutely no moral obligation to forward the money that our grandparents actually really did work their fingers to the Bone for, then those young people are going to be screwed.

I really don't care. I am looking after my kid. Your child is your responsibility. Frankly, I want my DC to have a secure home that no one can take away. DC has skills and talents that will provide a living but perhaps not enough to pay rent too.

DrRylandGrace · 24/05/2026 20:23

Differentforgirls · 24/05/2026 19:56

No they both went through the war as children. I wasn't a teenage pregnancy baby. My parents were married when they had me but they had three of us when my mum was 22 and my dad was 23.

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Silent generation. They had integrity.

Completely different to current retirees of whom the vast majority are Boomers and did not live through the second world war and instead lived through the longest period of prosperity and peace that any generation has experienced to date.

Papyrophile · 24/05/2026 20:20

We're 70 if that helps, and still working.

Papyrophile · 24/05/2026 20:17

Badbadbunny · 24/05/2026 19:59

Define "rich"? Lots of pretty normal people take early retirement from private pensions, occupational pensions or public sector pensions. It's certainly not the preserve of the "rich" when people such as police, firemen, nurses, council bin-men, teachers, etc retire many years before state pension age.

DH and I are not rich. We have been self employed for 35 years. During those 35 years, nobody has put a penny in my pension, except me. Neither of us has had sick pay, even during the months of recovery after DH's heart attack. My maternity leave was six weeks, at IIRC about £90 pw. Every single pound we have accumulated over 35 years of work has been earned. I have very very carefully created a pension fund, within all the rules, and now the Chancellor is proposing to scalp it.

Apprentice26 · 24/05/2026 20:11

Badbadbunny · 24/05/2026 19:59

Define "rich"? Lots of pretty normal people take early retirement from private pensions, occupational pensions or public sector pensions. It's certainly not the preserve of the "rich" when people such as police, firemen, nurses, council bin-men, teachers, etc retire many years before state pension age.

If you can afford to stop working, you’re rich.

Papyrophile · 24/05/2026 20:06

AniahJeremiah · 24/05/2026 19:33

Do you seriously think a healthy society people's finances are based on parental donations not their own work

If this is the case why work at all, live on UC, your parents money will always dwarf yours so why not. And their gifts exceed your salary lost SLC repayment so why not!

You just look worse.

Frankly, I think boomers like it this way because it makes them powerful, and they have sovereignty over their adult children's futures not whoever they're working for

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I don't think that at all. I make decisions about major financial choices based on what I think are likely to achieve the best result for the people I want to benefit from my work. I prefer to decide that myself, rather than leaving the decisions to politicians.

I think my DC is going to have to work for another 40 years to get to pension age. Quite relaxed about that demand; we worked all those years too. But right now, we have enough in the pot to pay for a secure home. So that is what we are doing.

Badbadbunny · 24/05/2026 19:59

AniahJeremiah · 24/05/2026 19:56

Rich people taking our their private pensions before state pension age.

Define "rich"? Lots of pretty normal people take early retirement from private pensions, occupational pensions or public sector pensions. It's certainly not the preserve of the "rich" when people such as police, firemen, nurses, council bin-men, teachers, etc retire many years before state pension age.

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