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FernFaery · 19/05/2026 19:06

XenoBitch · 19/05/2026 19:05

Oh, you missed the thread we had the other night.
Someone suggested finding work that provides accommodation too, such as some hotel work or on a farm. They seemed to think it was a suitable suggestion even if you had had 3 kids in tow too. Or sofa surfing... with kids.

It would be suitable for single persons, and couples. I’ve seen several such ads over the last few weeks, I would absolutely apply if I was a single person or one half of a couple looking to save. You seem to find it mildly hilarious?

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XenoBitch · 19/05/2026 19:05

Kirbert2 · 19/05/2026 18:52

It costs money to move though. If you have no money, how can you even afford to do that?

Oh, you missed the thread we had the other night.
Someone suggested finding work that provides accommodation too, such as some hotel work or on a farm. They seemed to think it was a suitable suggestion even if you had had 3 kids in tow too. Or sofa surfing... with kids.

ParmaVioletTea · 19/05/2026 19:04

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 17:22

I agree but there are millions not in work and the number is rising.

Indeed. Up to 20% of young people 18-24 are not in education, work or training, and are already on benefits.

Bollixtothat · 19/05/2026 19:04

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 18:51

Sorry if I’m wrong but wouldn’t you get UC?

Goodness I would hope not. Uc should not be available for someone to pay rent on an property to live in alone when they could share with others. I think there are already age restrictions on this in place.

Kirbert2 · 19/05/2026 19:04

Bollixtothat · 19/05/2026 18:57

Why would you move into an expensive property in the first place though? Tbh some people just aren’t very clever.

Because shared housing isn't appropriate for everyone
Because circumstances change
Because moving areas if you were born in an expensive area again costs money

etc

OneShyQuail · 19/05/2026 19:03

BoredZelda · 19/05/2026 18:24

Saving £80 a month in your pension from the age of 20, with an employer’s matched contribution would get you about around £1000 a month in pension. That would effectively double what you get on state pension. Assuming you have a mortgage paid off, which many do, £2k a month isn’t overly shabby, and is definitely better than not having it. You may also be eligible for pension credit, and income support.

Those who say it would be impossible for most people to save in a pension because they have no spare money are being rather economical with the truth. There will absolutely be people who are on a minimum wage and might struggle to have anything to spare at all.

According to the ONS, despite the cost of living, travel remains a priority for people with less than 20% of people opting to have a cheaper U.K. holiday or going without. Annually, as a nation we spend £78.6 billion on overseas travel annually. We spend £63.75 billion on takeaway food. £27.4 billion on alcohol to drink at home and £24 billion in pubs. We spent £14 billion in pensions. We spend 12 times as much on holidays, drink and takeaway food than we do on pensions.

The problem we have in the U.K. isn’t that people can’t afford to save in a pension, it’s that it isn’t made a priority. Nobody would ever suggest you give up every nice thing in order to save for a pension, but for most people who are working an average job on an average wage, £80 quid a month isn’t not a major sacrifice, and when your employer matches your contribution it’s money for your future you are leaving on the table.

For those who are parents, the best 18th birthday gift you can give your child is to start a pension for them.

It might be the best thing you can do for your child, but when they need to learn to drive to be able to get a job, so you save for their driving lessons, then the car, then comes the car insurance which even a working teenager would struggle to pay on their own.....then the money saved to help towards a house deposit.....most people struggle to do this for their children let alone pay into a pension for when they are 60+!

There's no way a pension should take priority over driving and getting on the housing ladder....

Bollixtothat · 19/05/2026 19:02

Passaggressfedup · 19/05/2026 18:57

If rent is a struggle could they not move home for a few years and save ? So many young adults moving out of home too soon without the means to financially support themselves properly. Are they in a house share or living alone?
One lives far away, the other highly values their independence and there is not room for them at ours (we downsize).

I think it is very important that young people are independent as young as possible. They can afford all the essentials, just very few luxuries and limited chance to save. However, they will go up the ladder and hopefully will be in a much better position in 5 and 10 years time.

I would hate to see my children struggling and unable to contribute to a pension once they begin working life. But I guess they made their choices. So difficult to save while paying rent too. It’s a shame you couldn’t have postponed downsizing until they were financially stable.

pragmatismuniversalsentimentalist · 19/05/2026 19:01

Lougle · 19/05/2026 17:29

According to the National Office for Statistics, the percentage of working age people who are out of work is hovering at 4.9-5% this year. The percentage of working age people who were out of work in 2016 was 4.9-5.1%. So there's not a big change at all.

That's not quite right that figure is of people 'available for work'.
Those is groups with no capacity for work or low capacity for work and on disability benefits for eg aren't counted, nor are adults studying full time.

Daybydayhour · 19/05/2026 19:01

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 17:21

Mine too. No doubt it’ll become ‘means tested’ so, as ever, the sensible among us will be no better off than those who didn’t bother because ‘why shouldn’t they have it, do you want them to starve etc’

This worries me as it must become means tested surely.

I am debating adding to the pension contributions for my 18 years who works one day a week at a part time job I can pay £600 to top it up and give her a year in national pension however she is likely to be a big earner so I wonder if it is worth it. If she wasn’t I would offer to top it up willingly. I retire in 2 years (early) and get state pension in 12 but I think they will take it away by then ! Argh

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 19:01

Bollixtothat · 19/05/2026 18:57

Why would you move into an expensive property in the first place though? Tbh some people just aren’t very clever.

I agree. DH and I jointly earn 100k. We live in a house worth 370k, with a significant deposit. I’ve had more than than 1 person comment that they’re surprised we’ve chosen such a modest house, and it does feel modest compared to similarly earning friends. But we wanted a very affordable mortgage, and this has enabled us to pay it off quicker while saving and making adequate pension contributions. I’ve also never taken out a credit card, despite the fact I was on the bones of my arse for years (as in, checking coat pockets for coppers type of skint - have £0 for the few days before payday every month).

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Butchyrestingface · 19/05/2026 18:59

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 17:27

So you can’t afford to be self employed? Should you be looking for a job with a workplace pension?

But if we're being told a workplace pension isn't enough and (some) people in employment can't afford to save into a private one as well, what is the answer?

Madcats · 19/05/2026 18:59

This, coupled with increasing numbers of people who will still be paying off a mortgage/renting when they retire.

Sadly the people who make/implement the law in this country tend to be on final salary pension schemes, so don’t really care.

NotTheOrdinary · 19/05/2026 18:59

Bollixtothat · 19/05/2026 18:57

Why would you move into an expensive property in the first place though? Tbh some people just aren’t very clever.

Ain't that the truth.

Brahumbug · 19/05/2026 18:58

Kirbert2 · 19/05/2026 18:35

If you are struggling financially then you have little choice but to think of the now rather than the future. Bills need to be paid now so for people struggling financially, those current bills will take priority because your landlord isn't going to take kindly to ''Sorry, I didn't pay the rent this month because I saved it for my pension instead''.

But none of these are arguments for not doing anything about the looming catastrophe of pensioner poverty.

Bollixtothat · 19/05/2026 18:57

Kirbert2 · 19/05/2026 18:52

It costs money to move though. If you have no money, how can you even afford to do that?

Why would you move into an expensive property in the first place though? Tbh some people just aren’t very clever.

HellsssBellsss · 19/05/2026 18:57

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 18:51

Sorry if I’m wrong but wouldn’t you get UC?

No.

frozendaisy · 19/05/2026 18:57

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 18:56

They were discussing this on Tom Swarbrick earlier, apparently an awful lot of Eastern Europeans who work and pay taxes here are planning on returning to their country of origin for retirement so aren’t paying contributions. I mean that’s fine, but what if plans change/they don’t?

Then their NI record will pay out accordingly

Passaggressfedup · 19/05/2026 18:57

If rent is a struggle could they not move home for a few years and save ? So many young adults moving out of home too soon without the means to financially support themselves properly. Are they in a house share or living alone?
One lives far away, the other highly values their independence and there is not room for them at ours (we downsize).

I think it is very important that young people are independent as young as possible. They can afford all the essentials, just very few luxuries and limited chance to save. However, they will go up the ladder and hopefully will be in a much better position in 5 and 10 years time.

Brahumbug · 19/05/2026 18:56

NotTheOrdinary · 19/05/2026 18:33

Imagine not being able to pay your rent/mortgage/fuel bills right now.

The difference is that when you are retired you have no options to improve your situation. The effect is permanent.

Lopella · 19/05/2026 18:56

Apprentice26 · 19/05/2026 18:55

Market conditions would force your rent down though by £80 if you simply did not have it and you had no option to pay it then best case scenario is that the rents aren’t gonna go up? Best best best scenario is that the rents come down because the money just isn’t freely available in the system.
Have a look at what Andy 🐝 Burnage is planning to do in Manchester

I dont think you meant to quote me

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 18:56

BorgQueen · 19/05/2026 18:54

Pensioners as a group are expected to rise by nearly two million in the next decade and the numbers will rise for at least the next 30 years, which really shocked me, it’s clearly the biggest problem the country faces funding wise, both with pensions and healthcare.
No party has any idea how to deal with it, immigration won’t solve it because billions of pounds are being siphoned out of the UK annually by migrants to family back ‘home’ rather than being spent in our economy.
Low earners who will be in rented housing for life are actually penalised for having a small pension when they retire due to the cliff edge nature of benefits. £5 a week over the limit can mean losing £80 or more a week in reality, I know because it happened to my Sister when she started receiving a small annuity, getting £60 a month meant that she was liable for full rent at £120 a week and she was almost evicted before becoming disabled enough for PiP and full HB.

They were discussing this on Tom Swarbrick earlier, apparently an awful lot of Eastern Europeans who work and pay taxes here are planning on returning to their country of origin for retirement so aren’t paying contributions. I mean that’s fine, but what if plans change/they don’t?

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Apprentice26 · 19/05/2026 18:55

Lopella · 19/05/2026 18:51

This is such an awful post.

Removing my opt out literally leaves me short on what is already a very frugal lifestyle. Its nothing to do with managing my finances or a lack of education. I'm highly educated, and work in a professional job, have no debt apart from my mortgage, dont go on holidays, dont have any luxuries, buy second hand clothes, dont drive anymore and walk everywhere etc etc and still have nothing left over. I've nothing to cut back on.

Market conditions would force your rent down though by £80 if you simply did not have it and you had no option to pay it then best case scenario is that the rents aren’t gonna go up? Best best best scenario is that the rents come down because the money just isn’t freely available in the system.
Have a look at what Andy 🐝 Burnage is planning to do in Manchester

frozendaisy · 19/05/2026 18:55

Bollixtothat · 19/05/2026 18:50

No one on min wage can afford to rent alone. They’d be daft to even think it’s possible. And minimum wage jobs are plentiful so there’s the option to move somewhere where the rent isn’t £1200 a month ?

But when you start out earning minimum sharing with 4 mates, having fun in the evenings, falling in and out of love, sharing your skint 20s together, getting experience, living with friends not parents

oh the beautiful 20s of life

you only get that decade to be truly free

it’s fine sharing a house then, it’s fun, full of stories, memories and growing up.

better than being stuck in your childhood bedroom watching tv still with your parents

BorgQueen · 19/05/2026 18:54

Pensioners as a group are expected to rise by nearly two million in the next decade and the numbers will rise for at least the next 30 years, which really shocked me, it’s clearly the biggest problem the country faces funding wise, both with pensions and healthcare.
No party has any idea how to deal with it, immigration won’t solve it because billions of pounds are being siphoned out of the UK annually by migrants to family back ‘home’ rather than being spent in our economy.
Low earners who will be in rented housing for life are actually penalised for having a small pension when they retire due to the cliff edge nature of benefits. £5 a week over the limit can mean losing £80 or more a week in reality, I know because it happened to my Sister when she started receiving a small annuity, getting £60 a month meant that she was liable for full rent at £120 a week and she was almost evicted before becoming disabled enough for PiP and full HB.