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BiteSizedLife · 19/05/2026 20:05

Billionaires and trillionaires, and the 1% would be delighted. We are al squabbling, arguing amongst ourselves and blaming each other for the West's bankruptcy.

No one is looking their way.

It's worked a charm!

BoredZelda · 19/05/2026 20:05

Whysnothingsimple · 19/05/2026 19:53

How much is your household income per year? Who earns it and how many dependents do you have?

We are (now) two higher wage earners with a disabled child. We have not always been that way, but have both been paying in to our pensions since we started working. I worked in hotel housekeeping before minimum wage was a thing. I was living away from home and supporting another family member. I had a little disposable income and could have gone out drinking with my mates once a week, instead I did it once a month and paid into my pension. The reason I did this is because I saw my parents, who raised 3 of us on one very low wage, were always able to pay a little into their pensions, and insurance policies they had for us. The guy would come to the door for the money and mum always had it. We’d hide from the bloke who came for the money out of the TV, we’d put up with it when there were no more 50ps for the electricity meter at the end of the week, but that guy always got his money. My parents were adamant that money was the priority and that has always stuck with me.

Not that any of this is relevant to my point, which is based on the statistics available. They make it clear the 45% of people who are not paying into a pension, cannot possibly be entirely made up of people who can’t afford to.

XenoBitch · 19/05/2026 20:03

Whysnothingsimple · 19/05/2026 19:57

This whole thread is typical yummy mummy “Let them eat cake” stupidity.

Yep. Speaking from a place of privilege in their ivory tower.

Funny how you don't see someone on NMW start a thread about anyone else like them should be forced to ilve in a house share.

I swear sometimes that the more money you have, the more you lose empathy.

NorthXNorthWest · 19/05/2026 20:01

It is amazing how there is sympathy for people who may be forced to move because they cannot afford housing, but far less sympathy for someone who could effectively be taxed out of a home they may have lived in for 50 years because of the house price inflation they did not create and may never have actually benefited from in cash terms.

JustMyView13 · 19/05/2026 20:01

Australia have pretty much resolved this problem with their Superannuation. It should be a model on which the UK builds. The introduction of AE was a good start, but it needs to go further.

Gillydoller · 19/05/2026 20:00

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 19:47

Yes.. read my post again..

The post you quoted? I read your post. You seem to be against dropping the triple despite it being economically impossible to maintain. It’s not possible to keep the triple lock going continually. If you do that at some stage in the future there will be no government spending other than on state pensions.

Allrightonthenight1 · 19/05/2026 19:58

BoredZelda · 19/05/2026 19:51

No, there are 45% of people who are without pensions. There is nothing in the reporting suggests it’s because they all can’t afford it.

Children need clothes, food and shelter. Anything else is a choice. Too few people make the choice to prioritise other things either for their children or themselves and never consider whether actually it would be better adding something to a pension than say, having a weeks holiday in Turkey every year. Some people will save madly all year to splash out on Christmas gifts for kids and throwing a huge party. It’s all a balance and a question of priorities. People can choose to do other things with their money if they wish but the reality is, the number of people who genuinely have absolutely nothing to spare to pay in to a pension is much lower than people seem to want to believe.

This

Kirbert2 · 19/05/2026 19:58

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 19:53

I’m really pleased it worked out for you and you have compelling circumstances. But what about working private renters who are forced to move with no choice in the matter due to affordability? What about their support networks and kids schools?

I was a working private renter. I lost my job because I was with my son in hospital and was then rehomed in social housing so my son could be discharged from hospital.

As I said, we were fortunate that it was somewhere close enough that my son didn't have to move schools. It was pure luck, it was just as likely we would've had to move his school and be forced to live in a different area.

NotTheOrdinary · 19/05/2026 19:58

Whysnothingsimple · 19/05/2026 19:57

This whole thread is typical yummy mummy “Let them eat cake” stupidity.

Peak MN.

Whysnothingsimple · 19/05/2026 19:57

This whole thread is typical yummy mummy “Let them eat cake” stupidity.

JenniferBooth · 19/05/2026 19:57

Bollixtothat · 19/05/2026 19:04

Goodness I would hope not. Uc should not be available for someone to pay rent on an property to live in alone when they could share with others. I think there are already age restrictions on this in place.

Bet you arent including ppl with kids in that. Bet its the child free who get "tough shit you havent got living proof that you have had sex without contraception so you get the shitty HMO

BoredZelda · 19/05/2026 19:54

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 19:41

Why pay the benefit though? Why not just save it for their retirement?

Because putting it into their own pension scheme gives them choices, gives them control over it and the government can never take it back. The government have proven over and over they can’t be trusted to invest properly for the nation’s future.

Whysnothingsimple · 19/05/2026 19:53

BoredZelda · 19/05/2026 19:51

No, there are 45% of people who are without pensions. There is nothing in the reporting suggests it’s because they all can’t afford it.

Children need clothes, food and shelter. Anything else is a choice. Too few people make the choice to prioritise other things either for their children or themselves and never consider whether actually it would be better adding something to a pension than say, having a weeks holiday in Turkey every year. Some people will save madly all year to splash out on Christmas gifts for kids and throwing a huge party. It’s all a balance and a question of priorities. People can choose to do other things with their money if they wish but the reality is, the number of people who genuinely have absolutely nothing to spare to pay in to a pension is much lower than people seem to want to believe.

How much is your household income per year? Who earns it and how many dependents do you have?

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 19:53

Kirbert2 · 19/05/2026 19:52

and in some cases, even that doesn't happen.

My son's hospital wouldn't discharge him back home because it wasn't suitable for his needs which meant he went straight from hospital to a house he had never seen before. Thankfully, it is in the same area and it meant he didn't have to move school because it was all unsettling enough for him.

It was clearly the right decision as our old property wasn't suitable at all and I'm incredibly grateful that we were moved so quickly and he didn't have to spend any more time in hospital than necessary but he found it difficult to suddenly be uprooted like that.

There's no way in hell I would willingly move again. Especially as it would ultimately cost money, not save money but it's also about more than that.

I’m really pleased it worked out for you and you have compelling circumstances. But what about working private renters who are forced to move with no choice in the matter due to affordability? What about their support networks and kids schools?

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Kirbert2 · 19/05/2026 19:52

XenoBitch · 19/05/2026 19:43

Same here. I am settled where I am. My support network is here. I am happy in my house.
To uproot that would be awful. And it has happened at times when I have been in hospital, but you go home after that.

and in some cases, even that doesn't happen.

My son's hospital wouldn't discharge him back home because it wasn't suitable for his needs which meant he went straight from hospital to a house he had never seen before. Thankfully, it is in the same area and it meant he didn't have to move school because it was all unsettling enough for him.

It was clearly the right decision as our old property wasn't suitable at all and I'm incredibly grateful that we were moved so quickly and he didn't have to spend any more time in hospital than necessary but he found it difficult to suddenly be uprooted like that.

There's no way in hell I would willingly move again. Especially as it would ultimately cost money, not save money but it's also about more than that.

Whysnothingsimple · 19/05/2026 19:51

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 19/05/2026 19:49

Your pension will cost you 7-8% as its taken before tax. You must really try to re-join when you can.

But they just can’t afford it. What is she supposed to do, sofa surf so she can pay into a pension

BoredZelda · 19/05/2026 19:51

OneShyQuail · 19/05/2026 19:31

No, there are 45% of people without pensions because they cant afford one.
Single parents for a start!
I never said start saving at 18, what im saying is that there are other constraints on peoples incomes and saving for things children need, let alone the parents pensions and their child's pensions!

No, there are 45% of people who are without pensions. There is nothing in the reporting suggests it’s because they all can’t afford it.

Children need clothes, food and shelter. Anything else is a choice. Too few people make the choice to prioritise other things either for their children or themselves and never consider whether actually it would be better adding something to a pension than say, having a weeks holiday in Turkey every year. Some people will save madly all year to splash out on Christmas gifts for kids and throwing a huge party. It’s all a balance and a question of priorities. People can choose to do other things with their money if they wish but the reality is, the number of people who genuinely have absolutely nothing to spare to pay in to a pension is much lower than people seem to want to believe.

Whysnothingsimple · 19/05/2026 19:50

Bollixtothat · 19/05/2026 19:39

Rather dramatic reply! I would hope you would share with friends before taking such drastic steps. I hope you are getting support for your mental health.

Well it’s not dramatic is it, it’s the situation that many face, in case you’ve missed it there’s a mental health crisis in this country. You realise that many mental health conditions leave people very socially isolated so good luck sharing with friends.

And yes there’s such an overwhelming amount of support available for people with poor mental health🤦‍♀️.

Honestly, these threads always bring out people who, to coin a phrase “have no idea how the other half live”

There’s a group of middle class groups that seem to think that so many are the undeserving poor, if only they would “work harder” be less lazy, they deserve to live shit lives.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 19/05/2026 19:49

Eudaimonia11 · 19/05/2026 17:29

I’ve tried so hard to keep paying into my NHS pension but it’s unaffordable. I already have 15% deducted for student loans and my rent is 51% of my take home pay so the 9.8% pension deduction is just getting me further into debt so I’m going to have to opt out of it. If housing was reasonably affordable, I’d be able to save for retirement on top of paying into my pension. Imagine that!

We’re not all feckless losers wanting to scrounge off the state in our old age. Some of us worked out backsides off to improve our financial position only for the cost of living/housing crisis to happen and make us wonder why we bothered!

Your pension will cost you 7-8% as its taken before tax. You must really try to re-join when you can.

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 19:47

Gillydoller · 19/05/2026 19:41

What do you mean by ‘reversing the triple lock’?

You do realise the state pension will still exist if we get rid of the triple lock?

You do realise that those politicians stating they want to get rid of it are still proposing that the pensions rise at the same rate as inflation or wages?

How much more than average wages and prices do you think pensions need to rise by?

Yes.. read my post again..

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FernFaery · 19/05/2026 19:46

Bollixtothat · 19/05/2026 19:42

But you can continue to force an increasing smaller and smaller percentage of the population to prop up an increasingly bigger percentage of the population. People are already cutting their working hours because they’re taxed too much.

Yep… luckily they’re not really doing it any more, I certainly won’t be.

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FernandoSor · 19/05/2026 19:46

Chippychoppywoo · 19/05/2026 18:05

Around 25% of working age people are not employed which would account for a large portion of this

While this 25% might seem shocking the majority are students, mothers of young children, and early retirees.

where I live early retirees are a huge percentage of the working age population - I’m mid-50s and there are plenty who are younger than me!

XenoBitch · 19/05/2026 19:43

Whysnothingsimple · 19/05/2026 19:24

If I was forced to move away from an area I felt comfortable, share a house with strangers it would probably push my mental health over the edge and I’d probably die by suicide - would that be “just tough” ?

Same here. I am settled where I am. My support network is here. I am happy in my house.
To uproot that would be awful. And it has happened at times when I have been in hospital, but you go home after that.

Whysnothingsimple · 19/05/2026 19:42

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 19:32

How can we when so many people claim to have disabilities and you can’t ‘make’ them do anything? They don’t want to do a lot of the jobs migrants do.

Maybe the way the work environment is structured prevents many people accessing work. Maybe we need to start looking into the government subsidising employers to offer better pay in things like caring roles. Maybe we should be investing in the mental health of people who are British born and bred.

Ive worked all my life in professional services with autism and adhd (not diagnosed til later life). It’s been extremely difficult, I’ve been suicidal trying to balance it all.. there’s a lot of coping mechanisms but they require being able to access this advice and employers being flexible as to how certain jobs are done.

Im lucky, I’m highly intelligent and have been able to navigate through lots of research to enable me work through the challenges. However, many struggle, many of the manual jobs have gone, many don’t pay any better than being on benefits. We need to really rethink the work and welfare environment to get people back into work.

Bollixtothat · 19/05/2026 19:42

Kirbert2 · 19/05/2026 19:24

Want or can't?

You can't magic the money required to move out of thin air if you don't have it
You can't force someone to rent you a roomshare if you aren't who they are looking for

But you can continue to force an increasing smaller and smaller percentage of the population to prop up an increasingly bigger percentage of the population. People are already cutting their working hours because they’re taxed too much.

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