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AIBU to be angry he left our 5 year old in the car for 15 minutes on her own?

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Internationalwomendayheadquarters · 19/05/2026 16:43

Husband left 5 year old girl in the car for 15 minutes while he went to a blood test.

The car was parked in the car park. It was out of sight. He walked into the building and waited in the waiting room, had the blood test and then he went back out.

I was at work and didn’t even know he had a blood test today. Daughter is at home with him because she has chicken pox. This is why he didn’t take her in with him. I’m so angry. He should have cancelled or asked for an isolation unit so he could take her with him. AIBU?

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Madarch · 19/05/2026 18:37

JazzyAmbs · 19/05/2026 17:58

Not when he’s going for a blood test as could have been in there hours. Leaving for a few minutes I’m not averse to but needs to be controlled and depends where. The village where I live - yes. City centre Manchester - no.

Ahhh... I think you've summed up nicely why I'm in the 8%.

It wouldn't be a problem at all at the docs where I live, but yeah, anywhere else might be problematic.

66babe · 19/05/2026 18:33

I’d be worried that he could have fainted , if he’d banged his head on way down , they could have called him an ambulance and no one would know she was in that car
Quite terrifying
There are also some very bad people out there who could have smashed a window and taken her
She could have vomited
Felt poorly , scared
God the more I think about it , the angrier I get
Show him this thread , do better dad .

TomatoSandwiches · 19/05/2026 18:01

He's a fucking idiot, show him this thread. What a combo, selfish and thick as shit, wow.

JazzyAmbs · 19/05/2026 17:58

Not when he’s going for a blood test as could have been in there hours. Leaving for a few minutes I’m not averse to but needs to be controlled and depends where. The village where I live - yes. City centre Manchester - no.

Arlanymor · 19/05/2026 17:55

Not at the age of five, that's awful. But also don't take an infectious child into a medical setting where others might be vulnerable - even for something as seemingly small as a blood test. He should have made other care arrangements.

Wendy83 · 19/05/2026 17:55

what if he had fainted or something in the surgery after having his bloods done?!!! No one would have known she was out there!

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Internationalwomendayheadquarters · 19/05/2026 17:53

He didn’t realise how serious this was at all. He casually mentioned it on the phone to me earlier with no awareness of how bad it was.

When I got cross about it, he said that he wishes he hadn’t told me.

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IBlinkedAndBecameMiddleAged · 19/05/2026 17:32

I would be angry too OP, that’s way too long for her age. Especially if she was feeling under the weather with the chicken pox. She wouldn’t have a clue what to do if something went wrong and would have no way of getting to him or him even realising there was a problem!

How did he react when you spoke to him? Does he realise how silly that was or did he double down on his belief that it was absolutely fine?

TheJuryIsOut · 19/05/2026 17:29

I'm quite relaxed about this sort of thing, I'm happy to leave them in the car while I pay for petrol for example, or to pop in to the corner shop where I can see the car the whole time. But this is taking it way too far, you can't leave a child of that age for that amount of time in a car alone, ridiculous!

Daffodilsinthespring · 19/05/2026 17:26

I wouldn’t be leaving him alone with my children until they were at least 10.

SpringDreams26 · 19/05/2026 17:24

I wouldn’t do this with my 7 and 5 year old. If I can’t see them they come with me.

Gloriia · 19/05/2026 17:22

I'd be furious too op. What a stupid thing to do.
Is he normally responsible, is this just a one off blip?

verabarbleen · 19/05/2026 17:20

I’d be angry too, my dad used to do this to me all the time in the 90s more acceptable then maybe but I used to be really worried , he was ages sometimes 😂

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Internationalwomendayheadquarters · 19/05/2026 17:17

I cant believe that he made such an error of judgement. How on earth do I move forward from this? I feel like I can’t trust him to keep our children safe.

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Nottopanic · 19/05/2026 17:08

Yeah. That wasn’t good.

Witchonenowbob · 19/05/2026 17:07

What on earth was he thinking? I cannot believe people think YABU!

Frenchiex · 19/05/2026 17:05

Absolutely not ok, I’d be livid too. So many scenarios that aren’t worth thinking about.
Hope your DD is ok, mine are older and think they would be uncomfortable in the car by themselves for more than a minute while I run into a shop where I can see them through the window.

SixSevenShutUp · 19/05/2026 17:00

If anyone had noticed her then he would be dealing with police and social services involvement as it is classed as neglect.

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