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Am I going to get the sack? AIBU?

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mumstheword1x · 19/05/2026 14:51

I’m suffering with anxiety at the moment, last week I got given a pay rise by my manager, I was so happy. I thanked her on Friday over email for all her support and she never replied.

shes asked to speak to me tomorrow morning at 09:30, I said ‘of course, all ok?’ And she said ‘Yes all good’

she never asks me for a catch up like that, so I’m a lil confused. She normally just calls me on the day at the time randomly.

I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong, although she’s a director and some drama kicked off at an Awayday, I wasn’t involved, I just found out and had to schedule calls for another manager. I’m a PA to 3 people and this one is my boss, the other manager told my boss today that I knew about it… although I was just scheduling calls and wasn’t involved & it was agreed the director didn’t need to know.

AIBU? Am I over thinking this?

OP posts:
JaneLupin · 19/05/2026 15:06

Yes you’re overthinking this.

It’d be a bit weird to give someone a pay rise one week and sack them the next.

Original poster
mumstheword1x · 19/05/2026 15:04

Roundhands · 19/05/2026 15:00

Surely if things are going well, it's more likely she has something posiitve to say or ask? Why would you jump to to getting sacked? Is that an everyday occurance where you work? In 40 years of work I don't think I've ever experienced someone getting sacked on the spot.

No I work for a massive insurance company

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crazeekat · 19/05/2026 15:03

Don’t worry about it easy for me to say I know but if it was anything major or bad they would speak to u sooner and if it was a
conduct issue they would be offering u to speak to union rep etc (or should give u the oppportunity to stop meeting and rearrange. Im sure it wont be anything u toward but its horrible all the same overthinking x

Roundhands · 19/05/2026 15:00

Surely if things are going well, it's more likely she has something posiitve to say or ask? Why would you jump to to getting sacked? Is that an everyday occurance where you work? In 40 years of work I don't think I've ever experienced someone getting sacked on the spot.

ThisCandidMintGoose · 19/05/2026 14:57

I don't think people realise how hard work it is to manage people, when you can't even schedule a meeting/ catch up without starting a panic attack. It's exhausting.

Bear in mind if you do no give enough warning, they have anxiety attack too.

Just be professional! You should still be celebrating your pay rise, what more do you want

TorroFerney · 19/05/2026 14:53

Massively overthinking. But you probably know that as I assume it’s not the first time you’ve done that! You are making up stories which fit your catastrophising.