Am I going to get the sack? AIBU?

Kindly OP, get a grip (and some help for your anxiety if you're not already).

I suspect your manager just wants your take on the situation, for information going forward dealing with the gross misconduct of others.

She will probably ask you to loop her in earlier next time you hear of any similar issues.

Don't beat yourself up. I think it will all be fine.

Most likely just to get the full story of the situation from another perspective. If there are complaints and issues the director will want to know. They said “all good” so go in assuming all is in fact good and fine…

With kindness , I’ve read some of your previous posts and I think you’re suffering with extreme anxiety. You don’t have to live like this . Get some professional help it will change your life . We only have one life and it’s such a waste to spend it worrying about all the what ifs . There is so much support out there xx

You’ll be fine. You should get some professional help for your anxiety, it’s debilitating

Unless there’s something else you haven’t told us I think you’ll be fine. I often get my manager who is also one of the directors saying ‘can I have a word please.’ It’s usually just more work for me!

I work for a massive insurance company. We don’t sack people. Like ever. I remember my boss trying to get rid of someone who was (1) no good at his job (2) a total slacker & (3) really unpleasant to be around. After 6 months of total nightmare (for my boss) carefully
following the procedure the bloke went off sick with stress and my boss was told he had to start the whole thing again. He gave up at that point.

But you know this! Your colleague squared up to a manager in a pub and they are sending them for counselling. They are not
sacking. Whatever you have done (that you
can’t think of) it is going to be less bad than squaring up to a manager in the bad.

I recognise the "massive insurance company " bit. You posted something similar not that long ago, I remember because I also work for a massive insurance company, looks like you didn't get sacked then.
Maybe get some help for your anxiety or find another job if the atmosphere is so toxic you think you'll be sacked for no valid reason.
And do come back and tell us what this quick catch up was actually about.

I hope for your sake that your manager isn’t scrolling through Mumsnet. If they see your thread they will think it sounds very familiar to what’s going on in the workplace.

If that’s how your staff are reacting to catch ups, that sounds like a you problem. It’s not normal.

I was a manager in a massive uk insurance company. If it was anything serious they would tell you and allow you to bring a representative. Plus hr would be involved.

It's very very difficult to sack someone in the UK. Plus there are all sorts procedures to go through.

We had something similar when I was working there. One of our managers got physically into a fight with someone from another company at an event. He was offered the chance to resign or be demoted...he resigned. But it was done by the book in a proper manner with hr fully involved.

You are going to be ok

I’m sure it’s nothing

Hi. If its a big company I think they would have an HR Representative there as well if anything untoward. Honestly I wldnt worry but I understand

I think you should delete this whole thread. If the details posted are true then colleagues will recognise you.

Awhh I get like this over unsettling things too. It’s very likely nothing 😊
I can get myself into a real tizz over the unknown, and I run a successful business and deal with problems all day long 😂 I think some people just really struggle with not knowing what’s coming . and that’s okay.
What I always try to remind myself is…. whatever it is, you will deal with it and be fine. Your brain is probably just going off on one 😂 I get a lot of self worth from my job and even a small criticism can really affect me

Try and do some breathing exercises before bed. The box breathing method is really good
4 seconds in
4 hold
4 out
4 hold
It helps calm your nervous system down a bit.
Good luck for tomorrow &I’ll be checking back for an update. You sound very capable and grounded, and I’m sure everything will be okay x

Logically its about that then?

I've never heard of a person getting a pay rise one day and being sacked the next. She probably just wants to check you are ok about incident.

Well, unless something happened in the following week.

That said, I agree this is overthinking.

I recognise your username. You’ve been worried about WW3, hantavirus and now losing your job. Have you sought help for your anxiety?

This is why I always say to my colleagues “can we have a quick catch up about xyz “. Then no one worries!

I also suffer with anxiety and would probably overthink this too OP.......but to an outsider who is also very anxious, I really don't think this is anything to worry about. As others have said, I think your manager probably just wants to catch up with you, see what you know about the situation and maybe tell you to keep it quiet. I really don't see this being anything relating to you from what you've said.

OP I am in a position where I have a diary manager/PA. I don't see this as you getting involved at all. Sometimes my DM gets contacted before me. It sounds like drink angry colleague called you asking to meet with the manager she'd lost her rag with, you went to that manager to see if you should schedule the meeting (scheduling meetings being part of your job but the situation messing you didn't know if you should or not). They said yes, but don't tell director.

You've done nothing wrong but the manager has put you in a difficult position.
In your director's shoes (I am a similar level) I would firstly want to know what you know, also ask who told you not to report it and not to tell directors, because as much as angry colleague is massively in the wrong and needs dealing with, the manager shouldn't be sweeping things under the carpet. In your director's position is be thinking as inappropriate as the delivery was, was there some truth in what the staff member was saying about the manager, and is that why they are trying to hush it up.

I'd also be advising you if the appropriate company policy conduct/whistle blowing etc and reassuring you that whatever your direct line manager says is something like this happens you can and should always report it.

I don't think this comes from a place of rationality. It's a thing, the thinking you are in trouble, I used to have it. Comes from being praised for being perfect, you think you can't ever do something "wrong" - well obvously more to it than that but it's quite a common thing - although op seems quite extreme.

Sounds like it’ll be related to the away day .

YA overthinking, but I’d be just the same!