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AIBU to want my sister to leave my local crows alone?

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AliceNotInChains · 19/05/2026 13:07

I have been feeding a group of crows near my house and we’re just getting to the point where they wait for me now in a morning and come very close. My sister has decided she wants in on it but I’ve told her to go and find her own murder as I’ve put in all the hard work with these ones. I told her there is a murder across the way on the field she could do and feed.

this morning I was coming home from shop and there she was feeding Russel from my murder. I shouted at her and she shouted that they’re not my fucking crows, at the point a woman walking a dog walked past and tutted so sister shouted that they’re not my crows and I was shouting at her. The woman just carried on walking but this was right near my house!!

AIBU to think she should just go and feed the others???

OP posts:
Beachforever · 19/05/2026 15:27

Why do people always blame the OW?

OP, it’s Russel you should be taking this up with.

Whysnothingsimple · 19/05/2026 15:27

Russell is a two timing bird, LTB!! Be grateful you don’t live together. Get you crows in a row! I’m not going to mention the penis (bird)beaker!

BunnyLake · 19/05/2026 15:26

Oh my god the bike storage one as well 😂

MajorProcrastination · 19/05/2026 15:26

I wish this were all I needed to worry about in my life! haha. This is the kind of post I want to see more of on here though. Nice to have something different.

"FIND YOUR OWN BLOODY MURDER!"

Andouillette · 19/05/2026 15:25

NameChangeMay2026 · 19/05/2026 15:14

So why are only magpies famous for it, then?

Magpies are more likely to steal shiny things than give them away, that might be why. Also we are more likely to come across magpie nests, at least we used to be when people used fireplaces more as they make nests in chimneys which have to be removed. People used to find lots of shiny things in the nests.

Selkie33 · 19/05/2026 15:25

Neuronimo · 19/05/2026 15:03

Crows imprint on humans and remember their faces don't they. Surely they would not be for turning 😆

is that you Maggie? @Neuronimo 😉

BunnyLake · 19/05/2026 15:23

TheBlueKoala · 19/05/2026 15:22

@AliceNotInChains YANBU She should find her own crows. But since you blew out her son's birthday candles you should be happy she hasn't murdered your murder.

Oh it’s that person. I remember that! 😆

TheBlueKoala · 19/05/2026 15:22

@AliceNotInChains YANBU She should find her own crows. But since you blew out her son's birthday candles you should be happy she hasn't murdered your murder.

BunnyLake · 19/05/2026 15:22

KatyAnnwillsaveus · 19/05/2026 15:16

Russel Crow, Cheryl Crow, of course! 🤣🤣🤣

It was the mention of Sheryl that the penny dropped. 😂

ZorbaTheHoarder · 19/05/2026 15:20

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 19/05/2026 13:46

Shouting at each other 😀

It's just reminding me of "what's your name" "Ezekiel" 😀😀

F you, Ezekiel!

Conkersinautumn · 19/05/2026 15:20

Hilarious. Though I delight in the Tesco murder that not only know.my car but me now. Also it really pisses off the grumpy security guard (but the other ones are fine with it. Small joys.

KatyAnnwillsaveus · 19/05/2026 15:16

BunnyLake · 19/05/2026 15:13

It took me 6 😂

Russel Crow, Cheryl Crow, of course! 🤣🤣🤣

PrettyPickle · 19/05/2026 15:15

I'm going to contradict myself now and whilst this is childish, I also get your point. You have put all the hard work in and she is now walking in to take advantage of it.

Your sister is jealous and incapable of putting the hard work in, she will not sustain it. The crows will know that. You just continue as you always have.

And here is some proper science, not folklore. A famous University of Washington study showed that crows can recognise a person’s face after one negative encounter and will:

  • Scold them
  • Mob them
  • Teach other crows to avoid them
They also remember positive interactions:
  • People who feed them
  • People who behave calmly around them
And they pass this knowledge to their young. So if you’re kind to crows, the whole neighbourhood of crows may treat you differently.
TorroFerney · 19/05/2026 15:15

NameChangeMay2026 · 19/05/2026 14:58

Is this really real???

If so, crows must be very intelligent!

They are incredibly intelligent and can remember faces and wrongs done to them. I know it sounds like a wind up it’s really not.

NameChangeMay2026 · 19/05/2026 15:14

Andouillette · 19/05/2026 15:07

It is possible with all Corvids, you double wally!
PS OP, rooks also have black beaks. They do have pale nostrils though which crows don't. I rescued a young rook when I was a small child, he'd fallen out of the nest and damaged a leg and a wing. He lived with us for several months while he healed, then we set him free. he moved back into the local rookery and visited us for years.

So why are only magpies famous for it, then?

BunnyLake · 19/05/2026 15:13

ADAB33 · 19/05/2026 15:04

I can't believe it's taken me to page 4 to click "Russell Crow"

It took me 6 😂

outerspacepotato · 19/05/2026 15:13

Are you think Russel's going to cheat on you with your sister?

PrettyPickle · 19/05/2026 15:13

AliceNotInChains · 19/05/2026 13:20

Me and Russel?

😁🤣🐦‍⬛😍💖

maudelovesharold · 19/05/2026 15:13

HarshbutTrue2 · 19/05/2026 14:43

This is hilarious. It sounds like a plot from Midsummer Murders

That would be a very appropriate title for a crow-based detective series!

notnorman · 19/05/2026 15:12

I’ve got two baby blackbirds I’ve been feeding with mealworms and they don’t even acknowledge me!!!

BeeHive909 · 19/05/2026 15:12

Russell is cheating on you sorry maybe it’s time to move on

Tabarnak · 19/05/2026 15:11

Oooh, what a carrion!

I need to know where you live so that I too can arrange to be 'walking past'

Blorengia · 19/05/2026 15:11

This is an excellent thread. So much more uplifting than much of Mumsnet...
Go Crows!

BunnyLake · 19/05/2026 15:11

Arlanymor · 19/05/2026 13:14

You don't own wild animals. And by the way, shouting at one another is really not good for the peace of wild animals. And you can't spell Russell properly.

Edited

To be fair there aren't really rules to name spelling.

Your sister is trying to rustle Russel.

TotallyBogusYeah · 19/05/2026 15:10

I could not love this thread more. The Kia Ora reference really made it perfection, (only those of us of a certain age will get it).

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