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AIBU to want my sister to leave my local crows alone?

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AliceNotInChains · 19/05/2026 13:07

I have been feeding a group of crows near my house and we’re just getting to the point where they wait for me now in a morning and come very close. My sister has decided she wants in on it but I’ve told her to go and find her own murder as I’ve put in all the hard work with these ones. I told her there is a murder across the way on the field she could do and feed.

this morning I was coming home from shop and there she was feeding Russel from my murder. I shouted at her and she shouted that they’re not my fucking crows, at the point a woman walking a dog walked past and tutted so sister shouted that they’re not my crows and I was shouting at her. The woman just carried on walking but this was right near my house!!

AIBU to think she should just go and feed the others???

OP posts:
Jllllllll · 19/05/2026 18:39

Sorry but this whole thing sounds mad!

ginasevern · 19/05/2026 18:34

holachicatita · 19/05/2026 18:18

Who is Russell? I'm so confused by this thread

Russell the crow (get it)? Although in this case it's actually Russel. The OP named him and she can spell it how she likes, so there. Now let me tell you about Steven the Seagull......

YourWildAmberSloth · 19/05/2026 18:24

AliceNotInChains · 19/05/2026 13:20

Me and Russel?

😂😂😂

TofuTuesday · 19/05/2026 18:22

I was going to start feeding crows and then I saw them stalking a baby rabbit at my gym. I go there weekly.
I was sat in my car panicking because I wanted to save the baby rabbit but also knew the crows would remember me if I stopped them getting their prey.
i decided to get out my car and slam the door shut loudly to scare the rabbit away.
it was a very stressful few minutes trying not to let the crowd see me watching.

holachicatita · 19/05/2026 18:18

Who is Russell? I'm so confused by this thread

SerafinasGoose · 19/05/2026 18:16

Woodfiresareamazing2 · 19/05/2026 16:50

I feel like I entered a parallel universe here.

Posters who have named all their garden creatures, one who's training a squirrel army to attack anyone who displeases her, others that say the OP and everyone else is batshit crazy...

I didn't have reading about sisters arguing over a murder of crows on my scorecard for today, but this thread has been the gift that keeps on giving.

@AliceNotInChains please don't ever settle down into a boring life of sisterly love and agreement on everything. 🙏

Our trees have names too - most of them coined by DC. John (persimmon), Fred (prunus), Ollie (ash), Janis (Holly), Bob (silver birch, a singularly inelgant name for such a thing of beauty) and Simon (another silver birch). Hecate is a tall, conical yew and the eucalyptus is Sheila. There's also a sequoia (MT, massive tree), my favourite thing in the world.

There's a noisy rookery in the old beech just down the way. (They don't have names, I should fix this).

I bloody want a bloody squirrel army! (Jealous).

SerafinasGoose · 19/05/2026 18:10

AliceNotInChains · 19/05/2026 13:30

Yep definitely crows, black beaks. Rooks have light beaks.

id love to have some ravens.

Recently stayed in the mountainous peninsula of northern Wales. There were ravens everywhere.

Joy!

I love an owl, too.

SerafinasGoose · 19/05/2026 18:07

LeaderBee · 19/05/2026 13:30

Oh man, i really hope this post is for real.

If it isn't, this is one Crazy Crow lady who'll be distraught.

PS. Crazy cat lady, too. I'll get me coat.

SerafinasGoose · 19/05/2026 18:02

Please - empty out your bird tables until October as per RSPB advice.

I really did feel the absence of greenfinches after the spread of disease decimated their numbers. I love watching themselves so much, but in the end I care more about conserving the species or there will be none left for anyone to enjoy.

I've seen first hand the impact of disease on bird numbers. Enough species are in enough trouble as it is. Better still, get out and enjoy your local nature reserves. There are some wonderful ones near us.

Spidey66 · 19/05/2026 18:00

I have just learnt a group of crows is called a murder. Your post wasn’t making any sense till I googled it. Every days a school day.

Thecows · 19/05/2026 17:56

Are Jackdaws as intelligent? Are they also a Murder? They're so Dickensian, I love them

Thecows · 19/05/2026 17:55

JustHereWithMyPopcorn · 19/05/2026 13:47

Her sister.... 😁

Brilliant!

SerafinasGoose · 19/05/2026 17:53

You have a murder, and you have not only become attached to its individual members but have named them too? I thought it was just me did who crazy things like this (I have also spent hours drawing mine). Kudos, OP, Kudos. ❤❤❤

And yes, crows are spectacularly intelligent birds with incredible cognitive abilities. They can absolutely recognise the people who feed them.

(Unfortunately I have no constructive advice to offer about your usurping interloper of a sister. But that aside, you rock).

BlueShoeGlue · 19/05/2026 17:44

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homer simpson crow GIF
IPoopRainblows · 19/05/2026 17:30

Is this the chat for the crazy bird ladies - Great.
I too, am quite possessive of my garden bird friends. There’s a nest of blue tits in a bird box I put on side of garden shed, I leave some mealworm out for the parents and they pop in and out feeding their chicks the mealworm.
DP decided the other day to get in on the action and was leaving out seeds and peanuts, I told him to go away and get his own blue tits and also to not engage with the robin who comes and talks to me daily in the front garden. I hope Russel with 1 L and Cheryl
(Sheryl )enjoy the buffet.

nomas · 19/05/2026 17:19

Feis123 · 19/05/2026 14:01

I am sorry. I had my OWN fox that I fed some leftovers, and then bastard neighbours started feeding her premium dog food. My fox turned out to be a political prostitute and does not even sit by my window anymore. I shall see how she likes it when they are gone to Cyprus for a month in a few weeks' time.

P.S. Tell your sister to get to fuck and leave YOUR crows alone.

What on earth is a political prostitute?

Arlanymor · 19/05/2026 17:03

LetsMakeThisMomentLast · 19/05/2026 15:53

Absolutely. And also I think that, since she is the one who named the crow, the OP can spell it any way she likes😅

Excellent thread.

His name is probably Bert and he's probably sick of being called Russel(l).

EmeraldShamrock000 · 19/05/2026 17:03

Hamela · 19/05/2026 16:56

Changing wild birds behaviour to be semi reliant on you for food and disrupting how they forage/what nutrition they get/how they teach their young survival skills and the necessary human avoidance skills, yeah you're both being unreasonable all day long OP.

Why can't people just let wild animals exist?

Tell that to the building companies and garden lovers who pave over the lands with cement.
The birds need our support.

Boomer55 · 19/05/2026 17:03

Crows are disloyal buggars. They never reveal their true feelings, and just follow the food. 🙄

You shouldnt be feeding them this time of year anyway.

FashionVixen · 19/05/2026 17:01

You have a Russel problem. LTB.

TerfOnATrain · 19/05/2026 16:58

You are both unreasonable, we have loads of fucking crows and they are greedy bastards that don’t give the smaller birds a look in. I bang on the window to shoo them away and then put lots of very small crumbs under the low apple tree where the big black bastard crows and nasty magpies can’t get.

Hamela · 19/05/2026 16:56

Changing wild birds behaviour to be semi reliant on you for food and disrupting how they forage/what nutrition they get/how they teach their young survival skills and the necessary human avoidance skills, yeah you're both being unreasonable all day long OP.

Why can't people just let wild animals exist?

Woodfiresareamazing2 · 19/05/2026 16:50

I feel like I entered a parallel universe here.

Posters who have named all their garden creatures, one who's training a squirrel army to attack anyone who displeases her, others that say the OP and everyone else is batshit crazy...

I didn't have reading about sisters arguing over a murder of crows on my scorecard for today, but this thread has been the gift that keeps on giving.

@AliceNotInChains please don't ever settle down into a boring life of sisterly love and agreement on everything. 🙏

AddictedToBooks · 19/05/2026 16:40

I love this post!! Great dry humour and also relatable to batshit crazy people like me,

Got to admit, I've named all of the local birds that come into my garden - mind you, nobody else on our street feeds them and one anti-animal and anti-wildlife neighbour had gone as far as nailing plastic hawks to his garage.

I have noticed though that "my" pigeons get all territorial and bolshy, especially Gunther.
I also have crows (love them) and sparrows and blackbirds and Eurasian Collared Doves and yes, I would also be v. angry if anyone tried to feed "my" extended family of birds and squirrels.

ForeverTheOptomist · 19/05/2026 16:38

LeaderBee · 19/05/2026 13:30

Oh man, i really hope this post is for real.

I seem to have stumbled into an alternate universe. I am still to ascertain whether or not it's a good or a bad one.